I just watched that interview clip with Jack Antonoff where he talks about working with gay women. I’d never heard it as a Kaylor. And it’s so frustrating how even now I’m still primed to think everybody’s participating in a vast cover up to the point where my first instinct is to over analyze Jack’s tone of voice and response. I’m still struggling to get out of the place where I’m constantly doubting something I wouldn’t even think twice about otherwise. Sigh.
Oh no. Really? So you were a Kaylor and you’re having a hard time shifting? I’m so sorry.
Listen, I was you. I get it. I was where you were. Although I was never fully sold on every single tenet that Kaylor put forth, I still went about looking through Taylor’s music and media related to her through a lens of duplicity due to her being gay.
But if you give it time, it fades. The more you just let yourself be open to reality, the more that sticks with you.
And I don’t mean, tell yourself she’s with Joe. Tell yourself Kaylor isn’t real. Don’t do that. Literally just think to yourself, in any given scenario, “what is the most logical explanation for this, knowing what I know about Taylor based on what she’s said and written?” Or even “what’s the most logical explanation?”
That’s how I arrived here.
When this blog got popular, I was still thinking that Joe wasn’t a real boyfriend. The jury was out for me. I was still trying to reconcile with what Taylor’s sexuality was. Trying to leave room for the possibility that maybe she was bi and had had something with Karlie and one point and it was over.
And I had tons of anons challenging me in respectful ways for the most part. And that helped me. My own observations helped me. Just “what is the most reasonable explanation here?”
Like, for Jack A saying he liked working with gay artists. Is it more logical that he’s talking about Taylor and how much he likes working with women. And then he extrapolates to include gay women as he thinks about it more. Or is it more logical that he just subtly outed his dear friend who he knows is deeply closeted?
If you think the answer is the latter one, then think to yourself, well, if that’s true, then wouldn’t he backtrack a bit and explain that he meant ‘straight women like Taylor and gay women like _______ (insert the gay women he’s produced for).’ Because surely, if he just outed his friend at the top of her career he’d quickly try to minimize the damage, right?
The only other argument is that he was trying to send a message that she’s gay.
Then it’s time to ask yourself “why is he sending this message and to whom?”
That was what? 6 years ago? She clearly hasn’t come out so it wasn’t to “seed” anything. And I can promise you “seeding something” isn’t a term anyone uses except conspiracy theorists.
The only other answer is he was sending a message to Taylor’s gay fans who’ve figured out she’s gay.
But doesn’t THAT, in and of itself, make zero fucking sense? Why would anyone, let alone Jack Antonoff, send a message to random fans who think Taylor is gay (and/or with Karlie)? There is simply no logical reason for anyone to feed these fans. No reason to let them know they’re right. No reason to let them know that Kaylor is doing alright and still together or whatever message you want to insert there.
Either Taylor is closeted and hiding her sexuality. Or she is not.
And the default answer HAS TO BE that she is hiding her sexuality. So what logical explanation is there to ever give out clues and hints otherwise? To anyone?
I know this is already very long. But just so this with any situation you find yourself second guessing. Follow the situation to its most LOGICAL conclusion. And if that takes you to a Kaylor answer more often than a Taylor is dating Joe/Karlie is married to Josh answer, then believe in Kaylor. But if it doesn’t, (and you’ll find that it won’t), then you’ll just start to see things as they are.
This isn’t about seeing it in a Kaylor or non Kaylor light. See it in a logical light and go from there.
And feel free to dm me anytime. 😘