Advice on Intimacy (for Women)
Again, I will keep this tasteful and safe for work.
The biggest hang up most men have is being insecure about being manly enough, including in the bedroom. The way to get him over this, and form a deep emotional bond in the process, is this:
(A) Take the initiative and gently place him on his back, but do not start by kissing on the lips. Start lower, kissing his special places. The reason? This lets his mind relax and lets him know the pressure to put on a performance is gone. He can close his eyes for the moment, moving from negativity to positivity.
(B) With him still on his back, take him entirely, but gently.
(C) Talk to him sweetly, with words like, "Does that feel good?", and encourage him to express little coos of enjoyment, with words like, "That's right, baby (or whatever your terms of endearment are with him).
(D) Talk him through to the big moment, not in a "dirty" way, but softly and sweetly.
(E) Do not stop after the big moment. Keep gently kissing him all over, and keep saying soft, sweet words.
This way, you are in full control of him, but in the spirit of true love. He will not only need you physically, but emotionally, deeply, because you made him feel special, loved and deeply relaxed, free of all the anxious expectations to be macho. He will trust you.To make it full intimacy, emotional as well as physical:
(F) Talk to him about whatever he wants afterwards. Sometimes, just listening to what is on his mind without judgment is what he needs most- and, of course, cuddle.
Of course, do this only for the man of your life, but in truth, if a man does not appreciate this, he is not worthwhile anyway. Most men would be too embarrassed to describe these needs, but I am a man who likes women, and I think this approach to intimacy could even keep relationships together.
Bless you all, and peace:
