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Anthony Mackie’s interview with The Hollywood Reporter at D23 Expo (2022) 

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Same Shit, Different Day (・―・) | Identify and Address Avoidance Behaviors Through "Why's"

The longest running joke about writing is how writer's often avoid it like the plague. The joke's on me, too.

A word of warning if you continue reading, things are about to get serious.

I've touched on the topic of writer's block in previous posts. I've even made a flow chart to make it easier to find out which type of writer's block a fellow writer might be facing. Still, I suppose it doesn't hurt to break things down a bit further.

Down to its essence, writer's block is a type of avoidance behavior. Avoidance behavior can come from a number of things. Usually though, it's how you'd probably imagined it. Something is painful, you avoid it. Something is scary, you avoid it. Something is uncomfortable, you avoid it. It's not your fault, it's how we're wired as human beings. It's how we've survived.

Writer's block comes from these same feelings. It's painful, scary and uncomfortable. On top of that, our minds have thoughts of their own. Deeply- rooted insecurities (fear of failure, perfectionism, imposter syndrome) lead many writers down the path of procrastination. And, no, procrastination is not created equal imo.

You've got the positive kind- overplanning, nitpicking, doing chores.

The neutral kind- doom scrolling, reading, gaming, going out.

Then the destructive kind- anything that has to do with self- harm and/or harming others.

Yes, this post is definitely an oversimplification of avoidance behavior. However, what I'm trying to get through to those avoiding their writing projects at this very moment is that writing shouldn't be something to be feared if it's something you genuinely want to do.

Here's your homework. ⬇

Keep asking yourself "why" to uncover the root-cause of your avoidance to writing and/or finishing your current project.

For example:

"Why am I not writing?"

I don't have time.

"Why don't I have time?

I'm always doing chores.

"Why am I prioritizing chores over writing?"

Chores feel more urgent.

"Why do they feel urgent?"

Because writing is scary.

"Why does writing feel scary?"

I'm afraid it won't turn out good.

Now we have an answer. The Fear of Imperfection is what's actually causing the avoidance of your writing. Look, I know some of my posts come off strong, or silly, but if the reason why you don't write is because you think no one believes that you can.

I do.

I believe in your hard work.

I believe that you have the ability to get that book out of your head and into the hands of happy readers.

Yes, you can.

Hope this helps. Happy writing. ✌︎︎♡⃛

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[quietfervour]

Cooking dinner for the eleventy hundredth time and quietly adding to my fantasy list.

1. Husband calls to say he’s organised dinner and not to worry about a thing - he’ll be home soon.

2. My balanced, delicious home cooked meal is enjoyed by all, with not one complaint.

3. While cooking dinner, I’m served a delicious cocktail.

4. While cooking dinner, my children comment how delicious it smells and how they cannot wait to have yet another one of my dinners prepared especially for them.

5. After dinner, everyone comments how yummy their meal was and how full they are and subsequently never complain about being hungry.

6. I get a fucking thank you.