#divorcestory

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In a 1925 divorce settlement, a man was required by his ex-wife to build an exact replica of their former home, but she didn't specify where. He built it with saltwater plumbing on a nearby island. #FACT

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True Story!

For most of my adult life, I was performing the spiritual identity everyone expected of me. I preached. I prayed. I fasted. I worshiped. I led. I stood on stages and spoke about faith and discipline and devotion. I helped other people find healing. None of it touched the place underneath. That is what unsettles me now. I learned how to be faithful without ever feeling free. It was not until I sat…

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Is Being Single is Better than Being Married?

Honest take. Being single has been better to me than being married. I got married at 21. I became single at 40. And in between, the message I received from every direction was clear: marriage is the destination. Single is what you survive until you get there. I believed it. I worked for it. I built my whole life around it. Then I became single. And here is what surprised me. I sleep better. I…

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This Was Embarrassing

R True story. I was about to get in the bath, on the phone with my mom and my older brother. We were laughing about who actually uses a washcloth in the tub and who does not. My brother said, “I was dealing with somebody who did not even use a washcloth.” And I said, “Wait. I do not use a washcloth in the bathtub.” Silence. My mom said: “You know I raised you better than that.” I tried to…

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I had to find the truth!

Anxiety about my future had taken me over. Who would I become? Where would I land? Was I making the right choice? My sister saw the condition I was in. She looked at me and said: “Myesha, I think you should consult.” I asked, “Consult with what?” Prayer and devotions no longer soothed me. Therapy felt too slow for the unbearable level of pain I was carrying. When she said, “A psychic,” it stopped…

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Leave or Die!

I had spent most of my life believing that endurance was love. That staying was virtue. That my ability to absorb pain without complaint was evidence of spiritual maturity. But there comes a moment when the body reaches a truth the mind can no longer negotiate away. Once I saw it, compliance was no longer possible. I had reached a point where I thought: I am going to die if something does not…

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It was Traumatizing!

I was not prepared to survive this kind of trauma publicly. The image of perfection had once protected me. When it cracked, it became a cage. Once the truth was known, there was nowhere left to hide. I was a pastoral leader. I loved the church. I loved the people. I loved what we had built. And still, my life was falling apart, and there was no one to rescue me. I had carried so many through…

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God did it!

For a long time, I felt like God had forgotten about me. I thought that because of the choice I made, my place and my role in His kingdom were forever shifted. And I was okay with going on a new journey if that was what He was calling me to. This season has proven that God does not forget. He has been up to something all along. I knew it in my heart. But what I saw with my own eyes, in my own…