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Seeking Comparisons In Families

In the beginning of birth, we experience through senses in this world (sensorimotor stage of Piaget’s cognitive development). Our dependence for care goes to our first mentors- parents and relatives. In the first stage of Erikson’s psychosocial theory, as infants, we build trust in a place where we feel is safe. Our family members are the primary key to help us encounter in this stage. As family holds significance, they are a main factor of socialization. They taught us to conform to social norms, have virtues, and shape moral values. These people are a precious gift, as we are the true happiness for them. They are a blessing we will never waste and lose.

 Family is the backbone of society, which tells us that their responsible acts and applied disciplines could support society standing its form in a good defined manner.  If all families are centered in God’s values and principles, then these would solve all the devastations we see in society. Family is, as well as, “a social institution found in all societies that unites people in cooperative groups for one another, including any children” (Macionis, 2011, p. 418). Every society contains families and forms a linkage of relations called kinship, which is a social bond based on aspects of shared blood. As we grow old, our families would change and grow and leave us behind into a running process of creating a family of our own.

 Family is split into two kinds- extended and nuclear family. Extended family is a group of all shared blood. My cousins, aunts and uncles lived together with my grandma in an urban area back when I was a youngster. Those times shouldered conflicts between my relatives that harmfully affected my grandmother’s vulnerable independence right before she’s deceased. One research had shown that extended families are distinctive to the rudiments of social understandings and economic development. Nuclear family consists of a husband, wife and children. I live with a nuclear family and we don’t have like a spirit that carries bane to conflict our relationship, like how my relatives lived in an extended family. We are in a simple and happy living.

 According to anthropologist Bronislaw Malinowski, nuclear family had to be universal because it renders biological needs for children. Nuclear family is both universal and essential which elaborates that “Whether as the sole prevailing form of the family . . . or as the basic unit from which more complex families form, it exists as a distinct and strongly functional group in every known society” (Muddock, 1949). Family is created and formed in marriage, which is a cultural norm to judge people to be suitable as marriage partners. There are forms of marriage patterns that categorize people in what we’re falling for. Like my parents, for an instance, they’re simply monogamy. It’s a marriage pattern that is simply married for two people only.

 By monogamy, specifically they’re endogamy, meaning a married couple with the same class. Then, both my grandma and aunt shared the same marriage pattern. They both practiced polyandry, a marriage pattern of one woman to two or more men.  My aunt (not my blood) already lives with her second husband and never returned to my uncle after the conflict they had before. My grandma married another man after her first husband died which is when my mother was still 7 years old. With all these cultural norms, the importance of family comes in three levels.

 For structural-functionalism approach, the responsibility for the family is to provide an emotional care and financial support to the children’s necessities and teach them about moral values.  In social conflict approach, the family faces inequality of controlling wealth in the downside when passed to the next generations and mostly, the kind of system that houses all the provisions is the patriarchy. Then, lastly, the symbolic-interactionism approach explains the interaction between family members creates a social constructive reality. People who are brought together share the same level of perks in the start point of courtship until they reach in the final point of creating a family.

 References:

Kutzler, Larry. (2013, August 1). FAMILIES ARE THE BACKBONE OF SOCIETY. Retrieved from http://www.citysitesurbanmedia.com/blog/2013/8/1/families-are-the-backbone-of-society.html

Nuclear Families. (n.d.). Retrieved from http://family.jrank.org/pages/1222/Nuclear-Families.html

Barkan, Steve E.  (n.d.). Sociology: Understanding and Changing the Social World, Brief Edition, v. 1.0. Retrieved from http://catalog.flatworldknowledge.com/bookhub/2?e=barkbrief-ch11_s02

Macionis, John. (2011). Sociology. U.S.A:Pearson Education, Inc.

Mcleod, Saul. (2008). Erik Erikson. Retrieved from http://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html

Wagner, Amy E. (n.d.).  Extended Families - Study Of The Extended Family. Retrieved from http://family.jrank.org/pages/473/Extended-Families-Study-Extended-Family.html

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Getting Out In The Prison Cell

In every society, people are conformed to the rules and regulations that are established by their governing system. Hence, conformity molds the structure of society. Situations lead people to different sets of consequences depending on the acts they committed that may effectively disrupt the rules of the society. These are described to be related in a concept called deviance. From the term itself, it is defined as a disengagement and neglect from conforming to social norms. A common example of deviance is crime which states to be the violation of a society’s formally enacted criminal law (Macionis, 2011, p. 194).

 Examples of this particular deviant act are stealing and killing which each has a different consequence or punishment. In the contrary, not all deviance matters in choices and actions. Also, not all deviant acts are in the form of crime. Such instances are chit-chatting with people,having pizza party and doing other sporadic stuff while discussing lessons in a classroom.People may mostly think that deviance only shows a negative aspect. Technically, it comprises with foundations of consequential results in both positive and negative sides that contribute in the formation of societal areas, since deviance and as well conformity shapes society.

 In structural-functional approach of deviance, what consequences we would meet when we get out from our prison cell in such certain situations?Like based on the deviant acts I usually committed are cheating during Spanish quizzes to pass and stealing money from my parents for ridiculous things to buy but hey, not mostly. These acts show an unconventional way of reaching a goal which is called as innovation, one of the illustrations of Thomas Merton’s strain theory. In this theory, Merton argued that deviance is much of an encouragement for people to engage and stick with opportunities for success.

 Coming to the focus of symbolic-interactionism approach, deviance deals about differences in terms of appearance and behavior considering what ‘normal’ for society is. For instance, when I was like 11 years old, there’s this schoolmate of mine who’s autistic and was so obsessed with me for 4 years. He’d always buy food for me without my consent, complimenting everything I do and stalking me. Many people bullied him because he’s different. I thought having someone so obsessed about you is cool, but it made me really depressed. I’m so depressed when he knew my crush, he forced him to have a public fight with him just to show who’s more impressive for me. Almost all teachers and students teased me and made rumors about us.

 Labeling theory speaks to this situation stating that deviance and conformity result not so much from what people do as from how others respond to those actions (John Macionis, 2011, p. 200). According to psychiatrist Thomas Szasz, people quickly put labels on mental disorders that set to differences they do not like. We live in a world of people whose uniqueness in actions and mentalities may annoy us, but being different doesn’t mean being born with mental illness.

 In social conflict approach, deviance is labeled in the basis of classes carrying power.According to Karl Marx, laws and other social institutions are the reflection of interests of people who are in wealth and power.People who are perceived as deviants in the eyes of the elite are threats for stealing their properties and trying to pursue a kind of society they advocate. Norms and laws are said to be just natural and good for holding means of a political character.Though laws may have been applied unequally, people may share their thoughts whether these are either fair or not.

References:

Chapter 6 - Conformity and Deviance. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.uky.edu/~drlane/teams/pavitt/ch6.htm

Macionis, John. (2011). Sociology. U.S.A:Pearson Education, Inc.

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Socialization

All individuals develop their patterns in minds and behavior, thus affect the society as a whole through the process of socialization. Socialization is "the lifelong social experience by which individuals develop human potential and learn culture (Macionis 115)". Socialization guides individuals to form their personality, which defines as "a person's fairly consistent patterns of acting, thinking, and feeling (Macionis 115)". There are contributed factors that benefit the build-up of social life of every individual. Such aspects idealized by, Sigmund Freud’s model of personality, Jean Piaget’s cognitive development, Lawrence Kohlberg’s moral of development, Carol Gilligan’s gender and moral development, George Herbert Mead’s social self and Erik Erikson’s stages of development.

As socialization takes individuals to interact and understand one another, there are important settings that affect us which are the various agents such are, family, school, peer groups and media.  Through the agents of socialization, individuals nurture and learn the norms and values set in their culture as well as their role in society. Highlights that provide a great explanation to socialization are the ideas contributed by George Herbert Mead and Charles Horton Cooley. For Mead, the concept about self is a part of an individual’s personality that composes one’s awareness and image. He argued that self does not develop from the start of our birth, but from the interaction. During interaction, there’s an exchange of symbols, hence people find meanings in every action. Mead introduced the two sides of self which are ‘I’ and ‘me’. The side I acts as a subject which is the initiation of action while the side me as an object, is the response of the initiated action. For Cooley, he proposed the looking glass self that means, as we interact with other people they are a reflection to us. Whatever we think how they see us, it is also how we see among ourselves.

 In agents of socialization, one of these elements that affects me in such an impact is family, as it is obviously the primary agent. My parents are the first caregivers since I was born and whom I developed abilities, such as language and body control, molded my moral decisions and learned great conduct. Studies tell that two factors of family socialization are the social class and our biological sex. According to Melvin Kohn, working and middle class parents socialize their children in different ways. My mother who mostly works, she sometimes shouts and throws tantrums if we ever did such an appalling thing, and she also does the same thing to her employees at work. Our sex is affected as how we’re socialized by our parents since childhood, like we’re taught how to act and think based on what sex we’re born.

 Though if ever I never lived myself from a family in the beginning, it does not mean I have nothing to learn from. There are other places I can go to develop my ‘self ’ like for instance, people in my age whom I can hang out for whose interests are similar as mine or a lot in common.

References:

Socialization. (n.d.). [Web log post] Redirected from http://www.grhouse.org/tsu/intro/ch3.htm

Monnier, Christine. (2011). Agents of Socialization.  [Web log post] Redirected from https://globalsociology.pbworks.com/w/page/14711154/Agents%20of%20Socialization

Across the Lifespan - Cultures and Socialization as Shapers of Identity. (n.d.). [Web log post] Redirected from https://new.edu/resources/agents-of-socialization

Blunden, Andy. The Social Self. (n.d.). [Web log post] Redirected from  https://www.marxists.org/reference/subject/philosophy/works/us/mead3.htm

From Charles Horton Cooley, Human Nature and the SocialOrder. New York: Scribner's, 1902, pp. 179-185. Redirected from http://media.pfeiffer.edu/lridener/courses/LKGLSSLF.HTML

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Sociology In Sportsmanship Competitions

       An international sports competition 2015 Southeast Asian Games (or 28th SEA Games) was held in the city-state of Singapore. The opening ceremony was held in the amphitheater National Stadium at June 5 and ended at June 16, that was three days ago. The most trending watch clamors with a roar of gratitude and opinions after all different nations, specifically eleven countries, participated in the plays. The results, Thailand landed in first place with 95 Gold and a total number of medals of 247. The second place went for Singapore with 84 Gold and a totality of 259 medals, and Vietnam with 79 Gold and 186 medals.

      The top three acclaimed countries brought home their triumphs and received a price of prominence from their participations and supporters. The rest of the participants, such as countries from, Indonesia, Laos, Timor-Leste, Cambodia, Brunei, Malaysia, and Philippines were given appreciations for their presentations in the events, but what’s so crucial about these? Let Sociology scrutinize.

       Athletes had shown their unique competitive ways in active gameplays toward their opponents and fought their way to the zenith. The share of impetus and vigor between players of different ethnicities in plays, creates an interaction, thus, both teams learned each of others’ techniques of a better play and omit flaws. This forms a multilateral relationship and unification of all countries and its purpose is to help one another. Show benevolence to other countries in times of crisis and plagues.

       Mostly, athletes were given much support by their government officials and citizens of their country. The government provided essential prizes for their athletes and presentation of their whole country. Prizes that involved money in a wise use (e.g. medical needs, financial improvement).

       This support shows how much care, pride and patriot was mounted in most nations, but it’s not the same compared to the Philippines. They’re deprived of support from their government in which case, their athletes were deemed low class quality in play. Like for instance, two divers failed with a rate of zero for their atrocious springboard somersault dive giving such an embarrassing remark to fellow Filipinos.

       The Philippines wanted the next SEA Games be hosted in their country by the year of 2019, but if only they required a full support by their government. According to a veteran basketball coach Yeng Guiao, they should vote for the next president who loves sports and supports for the next tournament, so that their deliberate hosting venue for the event would take place in their country. The nation known for its hospitability and pride, despite of its lack of great notches of development, is still in a bloodline of corruption. “The crisis of today is the joke of tomorrow” (Wells, 1946) would be a colloquial reminder of all running errands for it.

       The financial performance back in the time of President Marcos made the nation one of the peaks then unfortunately, after his time had hit, corruption grew on the wrong hands of the officials. Whatever performance each nation gave in the sportsmanship competitions, is reflected on how their countries were built and developed by their authorities. Like, whatever your so called “role model” or some political figure does something for your country, it goes for a ping pong effect to the community then creates history. This tells us the “...the vivid awareness of the relationship between experience and the wider society”, stated by C. Wright Mills in his renowned Sociological Imagination.

References:

1.) Giddens, Anthony.(1996)."Sociological Imagination." Introduction to Sociology . [Web log post]. Retrieved from https://www.cpp.edu/~plin/EWS375/The%20Sociological%20Imagination.htm

2. ) Joble, Ray. (2015, June 17). KEY TO HOSTING SEA GAMES | Yeng Guiao hopes next Philippine president has love for sports. [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://www.interaksyon.com/interaktv/key-to-hosting-sea-games-yeng-guiao-hopes-next-president-has-love-for-sports

3.) Ballesteros, Jan. (2015, June 18). Cojuangco cites 'lack of financial support from gov't' as reason for PH's subpar performance in SEAG. [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://cnn.philippines.com/sports/2015/06/18/sea-games-cojuangco-lack-of-government-support.html

4.) Charlene. (2015, June 16).10 Scenes From SEA Games 2015 We Won’t Be Forgetting Anytime Soon. [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://news.yahoo.com/10-scenes-sea-games-2015-080049198.html

5.) Famous sociologist quotes. (n.d.). [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://thinkexist.com/quotes/top/occupation/sociologist/

6.) Barkan, Steven E. (n.d.). Sociology: Understanding and Changing the Social World, Comprehensive Edition, v. 1.0 [Web log post]. Retrieved from http://catalog.flatworldknowledge.com/bookhub/1806?e=barkan-ch21_s01

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What is Sociology?

   Communication is an everyday tool to interpret and share thoughts and ideas in the social world, with individual cultural backgrounds and influences. This connects to an academic study of society Sociology that shows different expository definitions from historical educators.  This term of a study has many ambiguous interpretations of one’s distinctive perspective towards the social philosophy.

     For instances, "In the broadest sense, sociology is the study of human interactions and inter-relations, their conditions and consequences" defined by Morris Ginsberg. Sociology is “the science of collective behavior” (Park, 1928), which specifically presents various acts in groups, such are riots, mobs, and other tremendous engagements.  An American born Georgia sociologist opined the subject as “the scientific study of social life” (Ogburn, 1922) that explains the social trends and the flourishing pervasiveness in particularly families, friends, and generations.

      Another definition tells the shape of the bonds between human relationships, which is “the study of systems of social action and of their inter-relations" (Inkeles, 1964). A French sociologist and philosopher Émile Durkheim fathomed it as a “science of social institutions” that “are established sets of norms and subsystems that support each society's survival” (Devore, 2015).

       Yesterday, during our Socio class, we were divided into five groups consisting with 7 members and we were asked to do discussions to share our thoughts in what came up in our heads when we first heard the subject. From the term itself, socialization popped out in my head and a few of my mates shared this same thought as well. Socialization is a way to interact, mingle and bond between groups or individuals and share different interests and backgrounds. My other mates shared that it’s a study of society and cultures. It’s definitely essential and interesting for me to learn how norms and values were established in divergent groups and individuals.

        Since, we’ll diverge ourselves to fill up our inquisitions to this subject that aligns a whole lot point in our social lives, I’m expecting I could grow passion from learning, as how the professor will fervently convince us to love her subject. Additionally, I hopefully suggest for the prof to make such creative activities that would be spontaneous and extraordinarily fun that we could easily learn lessons in enjoyable ways.

References:

Suranga, Nimesh (2009, March) DEFINITION OF SOCIOLOGY [Web log post]. Retrieved from URL http://sociology-4-all.blogspot.com/2009/03/definition-of-sociology.html

Warde, William F.(1965, March) International Socialist Review [Web log post]. Retrieved from URL https://www.marxists.org/archive/novack/1965/03/sociology.html

Ogburn, William Fielding (2015, June) International Encyclopedia of the Social Sciences [Web log post]. Retrieved from URL http://www.encyclopedia.com/topic/William_Fielding_Ogburn.aspx

Dushi, Gauri(2012, August) Sociology: Scope, Subject Matter, Origin and Modern Trends [Web log post]. Retrieved from URL http://www.preservearticles.com/2014041233445/sociology-scope-subject-matter-origin-and-modern-trends.html 

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To the guy I fall in love with.

To the guy who always gets 7 in every subjects but forget his locker number, to the guy who doesn’t even bother to talk but so loving towards his family and close friends. To the guy who’s very mysterious and quiet yet so gentle, the guy who always fall asleep during assembly and some of the classes but aced every test that he takes, to the guy who never bother to smile yet when he smiles, it’s just made my day, to the guy who I fall in love with.. Please don’t go. I wish I could come up to you and say all these little things that I have been noticing about you since I came to this place. You’re the only thing that makes it worth it to get up in the morning and goes to school despite all the surroundings and people that I hate in here. If it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t even make it till this time. Now, with there are 2 days left of school, I keep thinking how I’m going to make it without seeing you everyday now. Why do you have to go when I just came to this place? Why do people that I like always leave? Why can’t you spare a little happiness for me? Sigh.. I need to learn to let go since that it’s already part of my life now that people always leave no matter what. It’s been a great pleasure knowing him and spend a trip week with him even though I didn’t talk to him that much. I’m too scared to say this in person so i just write in my blog since I’m a scary cat.. To the guy who I fall in love with: I like you. I wish you all the best in your new school.

[the-bat-king]

It's times like now when I need you the most. When I'm lying in bed, cold as fuck and not knowing what to do. When all I think about is you. And it aches