#dymm asks

[krethes]

Ok DYMM question that I ponder every time I reread it. How the fuck does Lily make evil tea? What does she DO to it? It's not that difficult to make a decent cup what is her secret?????

Ah yes, the most pressing question of the series 🤣🤣🤣

Truly...it's a mystery. She's brilliant, right, like big brain, boss babe, and yet... Mostly it's there to humanize her, but realistically she's steeping it too long, too hot, and all that tannic acid is making it gross. The grittiness is an aggressive squeezing of the teabag to "not waste anything".

At this point, she's a little too proud to admit she's wrong about THIS, even though deep down she's maybe a little aware 👀 But Remus gives her such crap, she's not going to just let him win 🤣. Good thing James can make a good cuppa. 😌

[krethes]

i mean, text fics don’t usually have narrative prose but most of ur fic includes narrative prose that are neither sirius nor remus. at most this is a jily fic with background pwp wolfstar - which fair, if your message implies this is pwp wolfstar then i think that should’ve been tagged

The fic is tagged with James Potter/Lily Evans in the relationship tag, as well as F/F, F/M, M/M, and Multi. James is integral to the story as a piece of Remus's future. Lily is integral to the story as a piece of Remus's past and present. Lily's acceptance of James into their friend group puts him in Remus's path, and watching their relationship grow helps Remus consider and reconsider his relationship with Sirius.

This fic is over 600,000 words. Realistic relationships are impacted by external forces, existing relationships, and other influences. There is a large cast of characters, each with their own part to play in the eventual meeting of Remus and Sirius. The plot is multi-layered, overlapping, and still developing (we're only 253,000 words in, which again makes me question if you've read any other chapters), so perhaps isn't the right type of fic for you.

I was not implying that it's PWP Wolfstar (see: giant tracts of plot), it was a question for you on whether you questioned the validity of Wolfstar in those. I really am struggling to see the disconnect between everything that's been written, because Remus DOES share his thoughts about Padfoot pretty openly with Sirius and now James.

I'm getting the sense that perhaps you aren't a Jily fan, and today's chapter was very Jily-heavy. I get that. But your personal opinions on a ship do not negate the developing relationship between Sirius and Remus that's been laid out so far. I hope you can look past that, but if not, again, maybe DYMM? isn't for you.

[krethes]

What would each character's fonts be in DYMM? If your assigned a font using the same kind of reasoning as the colour choices?

Sorry for the wait on this one, Anon! Assuming you don't mean their handwriting styles, here's what we came up with.

Alice: Comic Sans (the Canva equivalent). Bubbly and friendly but mocked for being basic, despite being an accessible dyslexia-friendly font.

Flo: Freestyle script. Fun and easy-going, pretty without being too complicated.

Frank: Times New Roman. Classic, strong, dependable. The standard that never fails, and looks great in a suit.

James: Showcard gothic. Bold. Strong. Upside down triangle shaped. Approachable.

Sev: Onyx. Two sides to him, duplicitous. Narrow(-minded).

Sirius: Poor Richard. An attractive font, but perhaps one written with restraint. Classic and stately.

Remus: Limbo. It's artsy but a little messy and probably doesn't drink water, either.

Mary: Lot. Aside from the fact that she's A Lot, it's bold and strong, fun and in your face.

Lily: Lovelo. Organized, neat, direct.

Bellatrix: Shadow Script. Chaos, a little spiky, but still very pretty.

[krethes]

hello!! i loved the new chapter - this is a request if you happen to have anything to offer, but my brain cannot know peace until i can accurately get a floor plan layout in things im reading LOL how many floors is this new place? and what rooms are on what floor? i would appreciate this so much 😂

Hey anon! So glad you liked Chapter 30! We actually just shared the (approximate) floorplan of their new flat in the Wolfstar Discord last night, but I can definitely drop it here as well!

The main level has the 2 bedrooms on the top: the larger one is Lily's because Sev is "a good guy like that" (🤮) and Remus's is the floor below. He did not think the whole "down stairs means going UP stairs also" but you know...at least it's private!

The rooms are a liiiittle bigger in DYMM and there's a washer in the kitchen and a garden connected to the side. :) This is from an actual listing of a flat they could reasonably afford between the three of them, which was more fun to look for than I'd thought. :D

Thanks for the ask, anon!

[krethes]

I am legit addicted to Did You Miss Me? I have had a very hard time staying focused on work this week! Is it okay to ask you a few questions?

How do we pronounce Sisi and Bebe?

I'm a little confused about Grimmauld Place vs. The Hall. Who owns what and where does everyone live, and where did everyone grow up?

How do you possibly manage to write a fic this length and this cohesive with a partner? Like what's your actual method for writing it? Do you alternate chapters? Do you each write certain characters? Did you plan the whole thing out and then execute it or did you keep each other guessing throughout? I'm so intrigued!

Also, I think you might just be the nicest person I've seen on Tumblr. You're so supportive of everyone's creations and I think it's just lovely.

Hi! Lovely seeing you here! You can always me questions, I love them!!

Sisi and Bebe rhyme, and they're long Es, so "See-see" and "Bee-bee".

Grimmauld Place is where Sirius and Bellatrix live. It's owned by the Black family, but most of them reside in the Hall. It's based off of the real Haddon Hall, but Arcturus rules the roost there and is where Regulus and Narcissa live and are privately educated. Think of it like: Grimmauld is the city house, while the Hall is the country estate and the seat of power. It's enormous!

As for the creation of the fic, it sort of just fell together. Fantismal and I have similar enough writing styles that we were able to mesh well, which IS NOT always the case, lol! (You can still usually tell which narrative bits are mine by the em dash abuse, run-on sentences, and alliteration.)

We started with the premise: how do they get each other's numbers? What compels them to keep communicating? What would be interesting to read?

We had broad ideas in mind: Remus loses his phone, Sirius finds it, they start texting. James comes into Remus's life after being separated from Sirius's. Remus and James become friends. Remus and Sirius meet (somehow), and the rest can be spoilers, lol.

Starting in June 2021, we wrote a lot over discord and then in a shared Google doc. We split up the characters to give a balance to conversations, and a lot of the actual smaller scenes in a chapter were off the cuff. We knew where we WANTED to get to for that chunk, but wouldn't plan out the minutiae of the conversations. This mostly bit us in the arse for Flo & Mary chats (absolute chaos) and me with Bellatrix, because no one tells Bellatrix Black what to do.

The narratives were written by the "owner" of the character, but the action beats and dialogue of other characters were done by their owners. So the Halloween scene, while in Lily's POV, had dialogue for James, Alice, Frank, Flo, and Sev written by Fanti.

I've never written something this large before, let alone with someone! We got stuck a few times with plot points and would rework them and do "what if?" scenarios that get dropped on the Discord Server (18+) every so often, until it felt right. It was an amazing journey, and we never thought it would take off this successfully or fast.

Thank you so much for these questions and for that really kind statement at the end! I really believe we should all support each other when we can, because fandom is a community, and I've never felt more at home in one than I have in the Wolfstar fandom. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[krethes]

i had a question about dymm. okay, more like a request since i don't know how you're going to write about it ( but i trust you anyways )

i was hoping that when remus opens up about his past to sirius (considering he does at some point) i really want to sorta read it from Sirius's pov. so even if you guys are not planning that, can we get like a bonus or something? because I really wanna know sirius' thoughts, especially because regulus sorta went through the same thing. (it's just a request tho, so really no pressure)

Hey there, anon! Thanks for the ask! Glad you're invested! DYMM? is already completely written, but we are making sure to keep an eye on how it's coming across and making adjustments so it hits the best it can: you know, sometimes we as authors think our point is coming across perfectly, but there may be some grey areas that are brought up in the comments, so we'll add a convo or clear up some language here and there, that sort of thing! That being said, @fantismal and I really think you'll be satisfied with how Remus opens up to Sirius, when he does. :)

[krethes]

hi, so i’m interested im reading dymm? but when i skimmed a bit the fic to kinda get the feel before getting into it i got the impression that sirius is some kind of porn star? it may be a stupid ask, but i need to know what exactly does sirius do as a “celebrity” bc it’s a sensitive topic for me. thanks! and sorry for a weird ask lol

Hi, anon! Glad you're interested in giving DYMM? a read!

Sirius is definitely not a porn star in this fic. He and Bellatrix are globally-famous pop stars/singers in a band called Black Magic. No sex workers in Did You Miss Me?, just child stars turned celebrities.

Thanks for asking before immediately writing it off! These are the sort of concerned questions I like to see, and I will always answer as openly as I can. For any specific questions, particularly about the trigger warnings, DM me. :)

[krethes]

hey there! i started dymm and i'm am HOOKED!!!

but i did have a question. will we ever learn who was remus/regulus' attacker, or is it something that won't be explored? ( either ways, no complaints, as long as my boys are happy and safe, i was just curious )

Hiya, anon! So glad to hear you're enjoying DYMM!!

We will definitely learn the origin of their attacker (s) and it will be explored. The topic of childhood SA is extremely heavy and serious, and we absolutely did not want to just drop it and run without any kind of resolution for Regulus and Remus.

Thank you for the ask! ❤️