#effeminaphobia

[chazzam]

Serious question: are criticisms that Darren Criss is playing Cunanan as "unrealistically campy/effeminate" based in deep knowledge of Cumanan's reported mannerisms & affectations, or is it just that same tired effeminaphobic bullshit of calling all portrayals of effeminate queer dudes "unrealistic stereotypes?"

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

The Rise of the Gay Bigot | Advocate.com - www.advocate.com I recently stumbled across a Change.org campaign petitioning the Human Rights Campaign, GLAAD, Lambda Legal, and media outlets such as The Advocate to “Drop the T” and distance themselves from the transgender population. Although the petition hasn’t been able to drum up much support, it’s sadly in keeping with many negative comments I’ve read towards trans activists in other articles. There’s an audible “I got mine” mentality in these exchanges that repulses me. Yes, I’ve seen exclusionary language from trans activists as well, and comments that seem homophobic or misogynistic, but it’s all symptomatic of the same problem. Why should your opinion of what is the “correct” way to express gender, gender identity, sexuality, or religion become a mandate for others? If what we are saying is that along with equal rights we want the right to judge and persecute others for not conforming with our ideas, then count me out. I left Mississippi at 16 to escape a society that I felt valued “respectability” over my humanity, and I hate to see LGBT people shackling themselves to the same kind of hatred we have overcome.

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

From my collection, original graphic creator unknown

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Dana Aliya Levinson: How Femininity Shaming Helped Create the Divide Between LGB and T The term for the shaming of anything feminine, in presentation, mannerisms, or speech, among those assigned male at birth, is called effeminophobia (sometimes spelled effeminaphobia). It is fairly widespread and affects, trans women, genderqueer/nonbinary/agender persons (amab) who present femme, and effeminate gay men. It is a form of sexism and is evident to any person, amab, who was ever bullied growing up, endured anti-effeminate taunts/hate speech or was routinely excluded from some gay male subgroups as evident in dating profiles (no fats - no femmes). In this article the author theorizes that femininity shaming is a reason for the rift betweet some LGB (mostly G) and the trans community.

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

Gender Crisis (ft. Dion Yorkie) – Masculinity & Femininity

Two cis gay men, Calum McSwiggin and Dion Yorkie, talk about how restrictive gender role expectations impact their lives. A very refreshing discussion and one more gay men should have.

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

Bamby Salcedo: Someone spat on me at Target because I’m transgender

Bamby Salcedo: Someone spat on me at Target because I’m transgender

Sadly trans women, trans femme non-binary gender identified persons and effeminate gay man are targets of three intertwined prejudices: homophobia, transphobia and effeminaphobia then you add transmisogyny into the mix and you have the recipe for unprovoked attacks. It’s a encounter much like Bamby’s that leaves me in fear sometimes. Try putting yourself in her shoes… Bamby Salcedo -- Photo via…

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[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

Is It Okay for Men to Be Feminine?

A fabulous video by Justin Dennis:

Yes, it's totally okay for men to be feminine. If you're a man and you've ever been told you're not "manly" enough, this video is for you. I address five main questions you might have: Am I a transwoman? What if I don't feel like a man or a transwoman? Am I gay? Am I metrosexual? Can I just be a feminine man?

Gender roles are shitty. Let's work to break away from them.

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

The Top Eight Effeminate Badasses

I love this video for addressing effeminophobia and for a look at some effeminate badasses on the silver screen, cartoons and anime.