#exgender

[lgbt3]

I am not part-man part-woman. Some people are. And that is fine. But I am Not A Man and Not A Woman. I AM NONE OF IT! I'm not on the gender spectrum at all. I'm off the spectrum completely.

[nooonbinaryyyy]

wanted to pop in and say THANK U so much king for mentioning how u identify or could identify as exgender even tho u also use other identities, therefore contradicting yourself...me too!!!! i love that idea!! i love doing that!!! thank you for inadvertantly giving me permission to exist as a contradiction mwah have a beautiful day

Yes! Be full of contradictions! Gender is messy and complicated and so should be the words we use to describe it

I see exgender as less of an actual gender and more as a relationship to gender, and my relationship to gender changes, so sometimes I'm exgender and sometimes I'm less so

[cubeflag]

Exgender flag

(A genderless feeling that is stronger than agender. It is a refusal of the concept of gender, and of any gendered identity.)

[lets-make-some-flags]

[The exgender flag with "No" typed over in white with a black stroke]

[nooonbinaryyyy]

Recoloured the exgender flag because the original was too boring for my tastes. I couldn't decided if I liked the grey or the blue more, so I put both

[nonbinaryresource]

Is there a term for someone who doesn't understand having a gender? Like i know there's agender for not having a gender, but i just don't know what a gender is/feels like. And it makes me very confused when trying to figure out my identity because the usual question is "where are you on the gender spectrum"/"do you identify with your agab"/"do you feel like the oppsite gender - another gender" and i just respond with "what IS gender? How do you define it? How do you know which one it is?"

Sounds like quoigender could be very helpful to you! You may also be interested in exgender/egender!

Sorry you’re experiencing people pushing your boundaries and not letting you define your own gender!

~Tera

EDIT: Updated to correct link! Thanks so much to the user who pointed out the original exgender url linked to a bigot!

[xeno-aligned]

Egender is exactly what I've been needing a word for, tysm! Do you know if there's a flag?

there are 3!

[nonbinaryresource]

Is there a word that means 'Part of me doesn't WANT TO feel like I have a gender at all' I know of agender, but that still feels/seems like like a gender, to me personally. And I know of neutrois, gender neutral, and genderless. Also demigender, which I think I probably am because part of me does feel comfortable identifying as a girl. But I can't find another word to describe the other part of my gender that isn't a girl, and is nothing, besides agender, gender neutral, genderless, neutrois.

Exgender is the outright refusal to accept or identify in, on, or around the gender spectrum.  That sounds similar to what you’re describing.

-Quinn