Do you have any spells you would recommend to someone living in a stressful emotionally abusive house? I already do all the mundane things I can, like seeing a therapist, and taking medications, but I was wondering if there was anything else
Hi there! I’m sorry you have to go through this right now. I grew up with an emotionally abusive father and later spent some time renting a room from an emotional abusive woman, so I can totally relate to how oppressive it must feel. I’m glad to hear you’re taking some mundane actions, and I have some suggestions for things you can use to hopefully help supplement them.
I use crystals a lot in my practice. You can use them in spell jars, keep them discretely in your pocket or purse to feel their affect, sleep with them by your bedside, under your pillow, or even wear them around your neck as a piece of jewelry. I would recommend:
Amethyst - for soothing anxiety, nightmares, and promoting healing
Citrine - to dispel negativity
Snowflake or Regular Obsidian - for protection, balance, and being able to see the truth (seeing through the manipulative lies you may be told).
Rose Quartz - love (self love in this particular situation), peace
Tigers Eye - courage, strength, the Tiger’s heart
If you feel comfortable giving my your address I can send you a little package with one of each of this stones, except citrine.
I would also recommend using a sugar scrub as a vessel for spells of protection on your person. Take about a half cup of sugar, and then add enough oil to make it a viscous, but not runny, consistency. I like to use baby oil, but you can use coconut oil, or even canola oil in a pinch. If you use olive oil just make sure you throw it away after about a week. Most of my sugar scrubs only last one use anyway. Make the scrub, then you can add in herbs related to your intent, and/or essential oils. The nice thing about this is because you are using it in the shower, your spell casting can be verbal (the shower will cover your voice if you’re quiet), it’s private, and you can really let your heart out to work the magic. As you scrub the sugar and herbs over your skin, watch the oil bead up and imagine it’s the negative energy coming from your household - it beads up and runs down your skin, but never sinks in. Focus on their words doing the same. Here are some herbs/spices you can use:
Peace: Mint, Sage, Lemon Balm, Chamomile (you can just tear open a tea bag if you have one in your kitchen!)
Protection: Basil, Bay leaves, Rosemary, Raspberry Leaves (picture the thorns of the raspberry plants invoking to protect you).
Cleansing (for when you need to scrub away the icky energy): Coconut (perhaps use coconut oil in place of baby oil in the scrub), Honey, Rosemary, Sage, Thyme,
I would also make a protection/peace witch jar to keep in your room, or where ever you consider your sanctuary. You can include any of the above herbs, as well as:
Courage: Pepper, Chives, Nettle, Horse radish.
Happiness: Cinnamon, Mint
Protection: Cinnamon, Cloves, Garlic, Anise
Any of the above crystals
Plants or things that you association with protection. Maybe some raspberry stems with the thorns or other thorny plants (be careful gathering!)
Combine your chosen ingredients in the jar (just swipe an empty sauce or condiment jar from the kitchen if you can’t purchase one), focusing on your intent. Seal the lid, and charge under the full moon, sun, or with your own energy if you choose. Keep it in a safe place (near the door if you’re able to, but under your bed would be fine if you needed to hide it).
Also consider making some protective sigils that you can keep in your pocket, draw on your skin with a safe marker (the power is released as it rubs off), ect. When you drink your morning coffee, tea or water, stir counter clockwise to dispel negativity, or clockwise to attract positive energy. Make a simple protective wash of rosemary and lemon juice, and spray at the threshold of your room (your door) to keep out negative energy.
This ended up really long but I really feel for you and hope this gives you some options to let you empower yourself. Another option would be cursing those abusing you, but its not something I personally have much experience, so I don’t feel right giving you spell suggestions in that facet. However, I do know that there are witches on tumblr who can offer insight on that, so if you think about it and feel like it would be helpful to your situation, maybe look into that.
Keep me updated and let me know if you have any other questions!!