I just blocked someone who was going on and on about Astarion obviously being a gay man and being pissed off that the fandom keeps trying to say he’s pansexual. But like. The writers and voice actor for this man all have stated he’s into people of all genders. You can be as pissed as you like about this, but effeminate men can be straight, bi, pan, ace, aro, etc.
And the thing is. Maybe he did mainly have male partners in the past. That wouldn’t be out of the question. If he presented as an effeminate man, I imagine a lot of gay men would be into that, whereas there would be less women actively seeking out that energy, but inexperience with women in those circumstances does not “prove” anything about him. He wasn’t seeking out people he was personally attracted to. He was seeking out the easiest marks. And I feel like refusing to acknowledge the fact that maybe he isn’t exactly who you think he is the moment you meet him takes a lot away from his character.
I don’t know. It just pisses me off that people really care that much about characters being a certain sexuality canonically, especially when it doesn’t come from a “but that means they wouldn’t be into me” point of view. He would be into you! That’s kinda the cool part of pansexual characters. You can imagine yourself with them no matter your gender. And I can’t imagine being legitimately upset about that.
