A Steady Diet of The Box and Abusive Boxes can be devastating. They can cause serious psychological problems for anyone. As this continues to exacerbate, we resort to suicide.
The book Living Beyond The Box can help you assess just how much The Box plays a controlling part of your life. Constant day-to-day, week-to-week and month-to-month episodes of someone using The Box to control what you think, say and do can cause us to adopt survival-like behaviors to live through it. Adding abusive methods to how they control us can make it even worse.
Indicators of Stress that Leads to Suicide
The words helpless, hopeless, and worthless are serious stress indicators of being controlled in an excessive manner. They almost form a scale measuring the mounting stress we feel …
H E L P L E S S -> H O P E L E S S -> W O R T H L E S S
ONE -> TWO -> THREE -> FOUR -> FIVE -> SIX -> SEVEN
In other words, the more we feel forced and controlled, the more stress we feel, which leaves us feeling little or no control at all. Too much of this and we can feel no way out and begin a climb from helpless to hopeless and even to worthless. And, this is a frightening place to find oneself to be, especially on a constant basis.
This kind of situation moves into a tragic direction when people experience being over-controlled everywhere they turn—be it under the domination of a single person or nearly everyone they encounter. Their self-esteem is gradually reduced to the feeling of losing the battle at every turn. When this happens, people can eventually find that they can’t even trust themselves any longer – and this is when drastic methods like fighting back violently, running away, or even suicide can cross their minds.
HELPLESS – feel like I don’t know what’s wrong or who I can trust
HOPELESS – feel like there is nowhere or nobody to turn to
WORTHLESS – feel like I’m incapable and unworthy
Most people encounter The Box and learn to muddle through the diverse impact of parents, teachers, religious leaders, bosses on-the-job, marital problems including divorce, and the influence of peers or friends. But, a few encounter more control than they can handle emotionally, be it constant or abusive. Professional counseling can help when The Box gets too chaotic or confusing for anyone, but it is especially helpful for those starting the dangerous climb of helpless, hopeless, and worthless.
Don’t let fear or pride keep you from getting help. And, suicide hotlines are a good place to start if you are too overwhelmed to look elsewhere.
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