#finally loving yourself

[labelleizzy]

Sometimes I just have to go back to old habits. Like back in the day, I was getting daily emails from the website Flylady.net.

Got my shoes on. Got my kitchen timer on. Challenged myself to see how much better I could make the kitchen look in 10 minutes.

I cleared the kitchen island. Put away all the food, got all the dirty dishes into the sink. Started a load of laundry. Made up my third cup of coffee. Washed out some recycling and got it to the bin. Oh, now I can see the acetaminophen which I need to take today.

Do I still have a big mess? Yes I do. I came home from 2-week trip, and I'm still finding stuff I need to put away and laundry I need to do.

But my ADHD ass developed the self-care habits, routines, tips and tricks, originally in the late '90s due to this nice southern lady. She used to send out daily emails encouraging us to take care of ourselves and giving us ideas on how to tackle big home care projects, self-care projects, but mostly home care.

It was a lot of email. And not being Christian, I didn't always appreciate her dropping of God references. But without her structure, without her having figured out that there was tons of us out there, struggling with our lives and managing our shit...

She helped me a lot. The chaos is mostly controlled. (She used to backronym CHAOS as "Can't Have Anybody Over Syndrome" heh)

I'm no longer ashamed of my habitat (and also, thank you, @unfuckyourhabitat for continuing the momentum of this particular way of working).

Gonna finish my coffee ☕ and then set the timer for another 10 minutes. Got a friend coming over for dinner 🍽️ and I can stand to do a bit more tidying up.

Use the tools that work for you!

[labelleizzy]

Had a conversation with two other women last night and the 18 year old was surprised that I, at 48, also had experienced family cruelty that was multi-generational... You can only get ahold of something you can name. You can only heal wounds that can be identified. We're definitely starting to speak out about men, this year, after generations of being silenced. Practice speaking out. Call it what it is. My dad was hit by his dad, and so he never knew how to be a loving dad to us, he never saw it. My grandma was forced into domestic servitude by her dad, and her anger, her fury, lasted into her 80's, shaped my mom and aunt's lives, and then mine too. Sometimes we need to know WHY. Sometimes we are only able to know HOW AM I AFFECTED and ask, What Can I Do Next To Heal This? I love myself. Finally. I love you too and I'm cheering for you. I hope you learn what you need to do to love yourself also.

[cambambaloo]

David Mamet and Flying Lady Agree

Here are the do-it-now principles I use (Not made up my be), that might help you as well. It fixed me from my world class procrastination. 

“Finally Loving Yourself”

First make a list of the three most important things you have to do that day. 

Tackle objective number one, for fifteen minutes. Play music while you do it (if you can concentrate with noise). Make it situational to your activity. If you are cleaning your room, listen to up beat music. If you are studying, listen to something classical or something like Keaton Henson. Once those fifteen minutes are over - STOP. Even if you aren’t done! I know you will want to keep going, and yes it will be hard. But STOP. You will come back to it.

Then work on number two for fifteen minutes. STOP AFTER FIFTEEN MINUTES.

Fifteen minutes on the third objective - THEN STOP. 

The last fifteen minutes of the hour, pamper yourself. Chew some gum, take a shower, color coordinate your closet, eat a muffin, whatever makes you happy. 

Then go back to number one, if unfinished, and finish all your work. 

Do not overload yourself on one thing at a time. 

You need to have a morning routine, afternoon routine, and evening routine. 

The night before you get up, have everything you will need to walk out of the door with in one spot. That’s your launchpad. You can just pick it up and go. 

Make your bed, brush your teeth, dress for YOU and no one else, eat breakfast, be social with people around you, drink a lot of water, exercise, and clean up after yourself.

I promise that little things like this make you feel better in every form. It gives you a sense of accomplishment, it’s a snowball effect. Little things add up to big things, and it encourages you to take your goals a step higher. This will reflect on your free time, mental health, emotional health, and physical health. 

[burnt-horizon]

New years resolution!

Right, so last year i lost 10kg(20 pounds) through hard work and good eating habits, most impressive thing is i did it all by myself. I went from not being able to  go 5 min on a exercise bike without being out of breath to completing 90min sessions at a time. i have to admit i fell pretty proud about it....

So getting to the point i need/want to lose another 12.6kg (26 pounds) this year and see if i can get more toned up. maybe even try to get done to a size 10-12. So i can finally stop looking like a Amish prude at the beach hiding every inch of skin if fear of having my fat showing. Hopefully by end Dec 2014 i will finally be able to feel comfortable in my own skin.