#foster love

[kelly-clarksons]

kellyclarksonshow: Feeling musical today with Paul Bettany & Will Sharpe, Michaela Jaé Rodriguez, Mya and a performance from Jobi Riccio! PLUS racing legend Katherine Legge and Foster Love!

[theuniversalscat]

[cherishedcavies]

Nutmeg has made it safely to her new family.

Recap, Nutmeg desperately needed some piggy friends, after her buddies passed over the Rainbow Bridge. Not always an easy task with an older piggie.

I want to personally thank everyone for the messages offering help and love for Nutmeg. You guys are amazing, and because of you guys, Nutmeg now has a safe forever home, with an amazing family and piggy friends.

The piggy community is a great one and I have the best followers and friends on this page. Special shout to Alex! You have an amazing heart! Thank you for getting Nutmeg where she needed to be. Huge thanks to her new family! Thank you for offering love and compassion to an older piggy in need. You guys are amazing.

Thank you everyone for the support, help and love.

Nutmeg thanks you too! 🌸🐾🌸

[thebroccoligoblin]

Hey inspiration I have a few questions about being a foster parent:

How long do the kids get to live with you?

Do you have to own the house you're fostering in?

What are consequences you're allowed to give the kids when they act out?

Is the stipend given enough to play for activities, food, clothes, and bills for the kids?

Do you ever worry about the kids not adjusting to the house and what happens if they dont adjust?

Why did you start fostering and did your parents foster kids when you were growing up?

Hey 🖤

So first off everything will vary from state to state and can even vary county to county

I knew nothing about foster care until I volunteered a few years ago. I highly suggest you volunteer!

You will get calls from the adoption/foster agency you’re licensed through and they will tell you something like “I have a 9 year male with autism and adhd who needs placement” or “I have siblings 14 year old female and an 11 year old male with a history of self harm and neglect who need to be placed together.” You can do night to night programs where you have a different child/sibling group each night and if you don’t want any kids that night you take in zero kids. You can also set it up to where you take in a kid for the foreseeable future and if something comes up like the child is not being kind to your pets or you’re going on vacation you just kinda….give ‘em back :( it’s called a “disruption” and happens very, very frequently.

So the kids stay as long as you allow them to or until they’re parents are out of jail, have a stable home environment, complete parenting classes or a family member steps up to take them.

You don’t have to own a house. You can foster in apartments and there are even some programs that will provide you housing!

I only condone natural consequences for all kids foster or not. You cannot of course put your hands on the kids in any form of punishment and ages/mental capacity should be considered with all consequences.

I’m only aware of florida regulations but here you get money for each child depending on how many meds they take and how strong the meds/diagnoses/traumas are.

The money per child per month is enough to do the bare minimum and a few activities if you’re budget savvy. You’ll come out of your pocket more often than not if you want to give your family extras.

The kids not adjusting to the house is and should be expected. The kids you get that are comfortable right off the bat either have major boundary issues or have been in the system so long that being at a random persons house every night of your life does not faze them.

There are more instances where the child does not adjust and is disrupted from a household than the former. Sometimes for valid safety issues and sometimes due to impatient and burnt out adults.

I feel like this sounds bleak but it’s the reality of foster care. If these biological parents had resources and a village to lean on this would happen way less. But Cest la vie

Thanks for taking a interest in the kids that need support most. Call up your local agency to get some info that would be more tailored to your future. Facebook probably has good resources too! It’s a huge honor and responsibility but the most fun and self growth you’ll ever have.

[thebroccoligoblin]

Dude I’m so grateful for my kid’s foster families but more often than not it’s difficult as a mental health professional to see a parent do and say things that are so detrimental to child welfare.

Like I understand anger is anger and sonic is panic but when they don’t separate themselves from the situation to evaluate what is BEST for my kids and they just do what comes naturally…..it sucksss. Inshallah breakthroughs will be made and I will have a rational convo on this topic.

It’s so frustrating to know what the right thing to do for these kids is but not be able to do it. Sometimes all I can do is be an advisor and just the kids understand that these parents aren’t professionals.

And sadly at the end of the day a decent foster home is better than a group home facility.

[thebroccoligoblin]

Took my 15 year old to see guardians of the galaxy3 and successfully smuggled in an entire Wendy’s 4 for 4, his sugar cookie AND my pineapple mango lemonade. Can’t wait to take him back to see these Ghibli movies can u believe he hasn’t seen any??

[thebroccoligoblin]

We flew a dinosaur kite today and my darling child asked “Should we see what happens if we let it go?” I said yes and it’s currently stuck in our neighbors tree ✨🦖

[thebroccoligoblin]

One of my teens is living with his older brother and brother’s gf (mid twenties) and although I’m immensely grateful he and his sister are out of foster care………it’s still not ideal. And that’s just a reality I have to live with for most of my kids. But damn it’s a 3 bedroom apartment with 6 ppl and 4 animals.

They recently got a cat to add to their 3 dogs and the cat is in a dog crate??? Like….okay I’ve seen kittens kept in a dog crate for short periods of time or at night time all snuggled in a blankie but…a full grown cat……with no toys or blankets…….being barked at and harassed by 1:3 dogs? Nah. On top of that the cat is being fed dog food. On top of that my kid smells like weed every time I pick him up and he doesn’t even smoke. So like. Yeah this is better and more stable than a group home could ever be but it sure as shit ain’t showing him normalcy and healthy family dynamics.

I know in his heart he felt uneasy about how the animals are being kept (he calls me when he has questions about what do in certain situations with them 🫶🏽 cutie) and I’m definitely bringing flea medicine and cat food over to him tmro.

It’s an undeniable privilege and honor to know and love my kids but it can bring me to a dark place knowing I’m only seeing a fraction of what they’re exposed to.

All I can do is love them and empathize. (Side note he told me he loved me like 3 or 4x before we hung up tonight and he just deserves the whole entire world)