Hello all,
i have read that it takes on an average 66 days to form an habit.
here is a little background....
since long, i’ve been trying to breakup with my boyfriend who i LOVE by the way, but as a partner he doesn't feel right, he doesn't understand me the way he should despite 4 years of continued relationship, and there is a less chance we’d end up together because of various reasons! we are poles apart, and minimal communication due to LDR, lack of understanding etc... i want to end things, but i really love him and i keep going back to him. i miss him, i want him.. and i go back to him in a hope, he’ll love me the same amount, or want me as much as i want.. but the more i want to talk to him about issues, he drifts away... that makes me feel like he doesn’t care enough about anything.
It’s crazy how he doesn’t take my issues seriously and doesn’t consider my breakup calls as a final closure.
so i’ve decided to fight my fears of uncertainty. i heard this today “its always better to be miserable rather than uncertain”. i want to give this man, a closure.. more than to him i want to give myself a closure with this relationship. *believe me my hands are shaking while i write this*
i have decided not to talk to him and focus on what i want and try to be happy without him. we have been together since 4 years and he has become my habit, my love, my addiction, my other half literally.. its difficult to separate.
we have been in LDR and i really don’t know if we’ll really be able to meet ever.
i miss everything about him, everyday!
but i want to fight this... my fear of being without him.
i will try for 66 days, without talking to him. and see if i can form a habit of living like this, a “single person” life.
when i miss him, instead of telling him.. i will write here, what im missing about us.
and i really hope, that one day i won’t have to post this list of “missing him”
i hope i conquer this, i hope i move on!!
and just incase if my boyfriend ever reads this (which i know he wont, he isn’t on tumblr, but just in case), i want to tell him this- “I LOVE YOU, I WILL LOVE YOU... no one can replace your place in my heart.. but i’ll choose me because i want someone who loves me like this too, i love myself more, and i care about how i feel, when you behave in a certain way. i don’t want to be so affected due to any person. i don’t want to cause myself depression or anxiety because of my beautiful love for you. so i’m taking a step back and i’m sorry. i love you more than anything in this world, and i wish i didnt!”
today is the first day- 29/11/2020