#friend issue

[blackdolphincoffee]

Do you ever have friends who never realize their mistake/problem was?

Well I have,

Honestly, I've been harboring anger and sadness for 2 years, I always feel like I'm being ignored by my group of friends.

They steal my only friend but no one notices that, and after my bff moved out, it's only me and my friend group. My friends group actually split into two, my main friends group and my other friends group.

And I know they only like my bff only and not me, I'm just like a second choice to them or black sheep idk. I always feel left out and always be the one who got kicked out.

Even after my best friend left, they still act the same even with my main friends group is still the same but worse. I was sad at the back and no one even bothered to comfort me or asked me to join them. I don't know what they think that day but all I see is just them only talking to each other without me, only looking at me confused on why I'm suddenly stopped being loud anymore like usual.

I was so sad and depressed and I started to vent to my bff only and told her everything on what I've been through since she left.

This has been going on until one day, a fight between my group friends happened.

It all happened when my teacher had assigned us to split into 5 groups to make a history project and of course no one picked me but gladly a kind classmate invited me over to be grouped with them.

Idk the fight between my friend group is going to happen until my main friend group tells us in our main chat group about what happened. I listened to their explanation and they blamed the other.

After I listened to their explanation, I secretly moved to the other to listen to their explanation, and they explained too.

Now in this situation, I claim both faults, because what happened is, my main group didn't do anything at first and just waited for my other friends group to give them an order. This causes stress to my other friends because in that month, it is a very busy month and we have two projects to be complete and my main group actually didn't do the other project because they claim they're lazy.

This fight caused us to split into two groups, one is my main group and the other one is the other. This has been going on for a month and I can't help but backstab my main group to go to my other friends group.

Why?

Because when they were explaining and blaming on the other, I can see they didn't care about me at all, they only wanted someone to support their statement and blame the other like they didn't cause this from the start.

I backstab them for a few months until they find out and ditch me for being a snitch.

This makes me so furious because they literally make me look like a villain. Okay, I admit that I felt guilty for backstab them but this is the only choice I have to make them feel betrayed after what they did to me.

But now they ditch me and probably spread a rumor about me as a backstab while they don't even realize that they're the one who made me do this to them.

[introject-confessions]

we're mainly three people who front at the moment, our host who simply talks so much and demands so much attention everyone eventually ends up in a convo with him, a fictive everyone seems to love and... me.

No one likes talking to me, no one gets excited when I front, no one let's me talk about my source, about my friends, about my past. About anything. Everyone seems to leave the moment I open my mouth. I get it I'm a factive, I get it I'm not famous, I get it I'm a german 30-something physics teacher. I get it, I'm simply... worse than everyone else. But if people could only at least pretend they don't hate me.

So I guess I'm just gonna talk about it here. I figured out how to navigate our school's website, there are photos of all the teachers, including me. It's a great comfort to know about that. Especially now that the body has finished school and we probably won't see any of them in person again. I found out the intern I liked talking to teaches the same subjects as I do. I found out they misspelled a friend's name on the website, it seems everyone forgets that one letter. Another friend is going to get married soon and she invited the students of her former advanced physics course, which includes the body! I found out that the other me is a father now... and the students seem to speak less badly of him recently.

I think that's all...

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[burrito-juice]

I feel like I'm becoming a dysfunctional mix of all my friends Like I'm stealing the worst and weirdest of their personalities

[itsalwayskatie]

So my ex guy friend just tried talking to me again and honestly idk how I feel about it. Like I'm still hurt over what happened between us and that our friendship ended. I know he's just trying to be nice but it just reminds me of how our friendship ended and it's not something a person can just forget.

[sannyomro]

whY

There're alot of people on tumblr which I REALLY want to be friends with, but I'll never gonna befriend them because they are much better than me and I'm really shy????? Like, how do you even become friends with someone? Why is this so hard, I don't understand. I guess, I'm just gonna curl up on my bed with all of my five cats and watch some youtube ;_; 🐈🐈🐈🐈🐈

[dr-positivity]

hi :o can i have some positive words (preferably from sayaka but anyone's okay)? i'm sincerely convinced that most if not all of my friends are just pretending to like me and it's fucking me up

Hi there, anon-san!

I understand it’s hard, thinking people don’t like you, especially friends and people even closer than that. But, please remember, these people care about you - they trust you, and they appreciate every moment they spend with you. You probably make them smile and laugh so much more than you can imagine. That may be hard to believe now, but when they stick around for one year, two years and more, that will become so much more obvious. If they don’t stay with you, then… they weren’t very good friends to begin with, as awful as that sounds. But the world will turn, and you will still have the people who really care.

Don’t give up hope, and remember - you’re so much more amazing that you might first believe!

[jpnbreakfast]

Very crucial question: how to make real friends ?

[lesbianmartingore]

i was thinking in the shower, and i came to the conclusion that the friend mentioned yesterday must be mad at me or s/t. however i don't know if it's one of those cases where they’re trying to be subtle and polite, or of they're like yelling like, "dude i'm clearly upset at you aren't you gonna ask why?" and idk if i really know what to do because i don't think i've dealt with friend drama since middle school. i mean i realise i can be a clingy and annoying friend... but i am just kinda afraid to go up to the friend and be like "eyy ur mad @ me n i know why because i'm rlly good a blue's clues." like isn't that being intimidating? idk. i guess i'll give 'em space. but i don't wanna try to be buddy buddy with them if they're trying to get rid of me. if my hunch is wrong, i guess they'll notice, and we'll see what happens from there. for now i'm just kinda sad.