#ftm issues

[st-dionysus]

A cis women's right to comfort should not be more valued then a trans man's right to medical care.

A cis women's right to comfort should not be more valued then a trans man's right for safe housing.

A cis women's right to comfort should not be more valued then a trans man's acsess to SA recovery recourses.

A queer person's right to comfort should not be more valued then a trans man's right to take space in their community.

A queer person's right to comfort should not be more valued that a trans man's acsess to queer recourses.

A queer persons right to comfort should not be move valued than a trans man's right to hrt, srs, or medical transition.

I do not care if cis women and some other queer people are uncomfortable with "passing" trans men being at the gynecologist, at the planned parenthood, at the homeless shelter, at the SA survivor meeting, at the trans pride event, at the queer resource center, or with us just existing. Trans men's right to exist and to be treated like human beings should not be disrespected or disregarded becouse some of you think testosterone or facial hair or butchness or masculinity or phalloplasty somehow gives you cooties.

[albiealivetmrw]

wish I was more masc so I could get away with pulling that Henry Jekyll fit for formal events 😔 I desperately need to wear a buttoned shirt cravat waistcoat and tailed jacket. It’s a need not a want at this point. I need to pull up to the Function™️ wearing that. Please gods please please please let me have a masculine figure after puberty 🛐🛐🛐

[mrdeniability]

I’m doing this instead of my morning sudoku so sorry if I’m disorganized, but I think the problem about transfem jokes about transmascs isn’t in the words, but in the context of transmasc invisibility. Like, a few months ago I got sent a screenshot of what I think is the first “Fake an FTM detransition” joke by a transfem, typed out on 4chan and sent to a groupchat by a friend known for shock humor. It wasn’t in the “greater trans community”, it was another absurdist story from the people you didn’t take seriously until something went wrong.

Then, people started putting the story into more normal language and onto twitter or other sites where the takes aren’t the same baseline of absolutely unhinged, and now the joke is supported by transfem hypervisibility and transmasc invisibility. Now, boiled down, it’s another story about a transfem speaking for transmascs.

Same with the “let’s swap bodies” joke- A trans woman I know and I have said kind of similar jokes to each other, but what’s funny in a makeshift changing room isn’t funny from a Reddit stranger. But I noticed someone saying that these are categorically bad jokes, and while that’s regular internet puritanism to me I think it merits my take on the issue.

A joke can be harmful and triggering if it reaches the wrong audience, and sometimes the wrong audience is the general public. Still, breaking down why these jokes are transandrophobic is only useful as an theorizing example. The people making bodyswap jokes aren’t consciously upholding transandrophobia, they’re newly out trans women on Twitter or Reddit or fucking 4chan that haven’t figured out internet literacy and might have lacking social skills, and the message that needs to be spread is “this joke isn’t appropriate to say to internet strangers.”

[humanlyimprobable]

[fffeel-good]

im so sick and tired of talking after a customer calls me. idk, sir or something and them going "OH!! im- im so sorry miss i thought you were a boy! with your hair so short and your name, i just- i just figured-"

like please stop apologizing, i am a man!!! my names sebastian ffs!!! and if i say something they act all weird about it and im just so tired of it. ive been on t for about four months and my voice has barely dropped at all. ive tried vocal therapies as well and it hasnt done much for me yet either.

[theuniverseisforgetting]

Being transmasc and bisexual WITHOUT any way too bind is such a curse because every morning I have to choose between the classic bisexual-tuck-shirt-in style or the classic trans-baggy-shirt-to-hide-lump style </3

[mpreg-official]

Ah my birthdays coming up

Tis the season to get stupid, sparkly, bright pink cards in the mail that say something like “To my beautiful granddaughter”

Tis the season of wanting to die

[st-dionysus]

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