I was tagged by @merilsell and I'll tag @dickeybbqpit @apostatetabris and @ you
Ellana spares Cassandra a glance beside her and admires the way she looks in her dress uniform, smaller without her usual armour but the fabric straining in areas that leave no doubt about the strong and capable physique hiding underneath. Something that she hasn’t been able to appreciate for over a week now in any context, let alone her preferred. Cassandra smiles softly at her, and Ellana doesn’t miss the twitch of her fingers, knows that they probably itch to reach out and find their home entwined with her own as much as hers do. She wonders briefly when it was that she became so sentimental.
sticks leggy out far- you want attention? ok why don't we just say that? (luckily i think this one is dead. i havent seen anyone utter this phrase in ages)
vibe check- still don't know what this means. but if you don't use it legit people will not know that you mean to check if they're online. it's like code word.
sorry not sorry- said when people intend to communicate their bratty bitchiness but saying "fuck you" is too harsh.
simp- no idea what this officially means and nobody else knows either. someone who's nice to someone else (not sure how this is distinct from the negative 'nice guy 'except he's looked down on bc he's not gonna get laid). i know what the 'Nice Guy' is because it's distinctly the guy who thinks he's in the right and owed sex/dating and is in the 'friendzone' with a woman just because (whatever reason having to do with being a decent human being). Simp seems to be anything as mild as agreeing too often, to extreme as being the woman's paypig basically.
thot- that hoe over there. idk. this is Hoe's next pokemon evolution.
white knight- used sarcastically here for a guy who's standing up (usually for a girl). presumably with ulterior motiv of getting laid. because yknow that's the only reason men are ever nice to women. This is just Nice Guy wearing knight armor, I guess.
pick-me- the "not like other girls" girl. really i can't waste time on why it's annoying to see the word everywhere. its mutated to be thrown at girls for any old reason.
karen- if i start to rant on this, this will turn into an essay. this is now used for any woman you don't like. it began as "basic" with a new coat of paint, more targeted. A method get the message not to complain, have long hair, and keep their kids quiet.
basic- the worst one. internalized misogyny. and reiteration that you must at all times be impressing others with your choices of clothes, drinks/food, movies, music, etc. You don't ever want to be "basic." Like those "other girls."
Also, why Karen is a garbage word you and you probably didn't realize it.
I've been meaning to explain this at length. How humor can be used as a social reinforcement to keep sexism going. Read on if you want to see why I've got it out for the term. It divided everyone, especially women, against each other. Seems harmless, is insidious.
For one, it's just being used for any woman people don't like . Seriously, just be upfront and say bitch if you're going to be sexist, at least be honest about it. What did any chick named Karen do in specific to get this ire?
And more specifically
It is a sexist trash word that women need to project their internalized misogyny and men their blatant sexism on to one annoying chick with a specific hair cut who has a noisy kid apparently. Bc you know. Women being loud and occupying space, am I right? Why isn't the guy who does the same thing in costumer service named? Idk, Bernie. John. Dennis. Whatever common random name. Oh that's right. Because the woman is the one who should be smiling, polite, and have her kid well behaved.
Also slice of class divisions going on. You thought that was dead? Haha. I've been called a Karen fur asking my order be redone correctly. Let me reiterate. I am below poverty line. And I don't fit the stereotype. People are using it for any woman who annoys them or is inconvenient. (Also the order was very wrong. And I asked politely. But I suppose I should have just accepted the wrong order and smiled politely, idk.)
People say it's about rude people in customer service. As someone who was traumatized in the work place by my co workers and customers (wish I was exaggerating), I disagree. I think this is aggression bubbling up during the pandemic being taken out, once again, on the wrong fucking people. A disgruntled mom with her crying baby. Yeah, it's not okay to be mean to someone in customer service. But you know what else isn't okay, generalizing an entire group of people into a fucking stereotype because of your own bad experience. That's called bigotry. And it's just as bad as what you're apparently pissy about.
You know how many 'Karens' I would technically have dealt with then? But by that same token I dealt with the male equivalent. The old lady equivalent. The PoC equiv. The lgbt+ equiv. Anyone immune to being a goddamn asshole to costumer service? No.
Why is Karen pointed out and not every other group of rude people in customer service?
it's not a coincidence that a mom demanding things, who has a baby crying would be the one mocked. Women are to be seen, not heard. I was raised by this notion. So it hits me especially hard,mas I think it does anyone who has been frequently silenced. I know a silencing technique, no matter how subtle, when I encounter it. And this is social reinforcement through humor. And people have made it about class too, so we're all at each other's throats while we're most isolated during the pandemic.
This is why I don't like 'Karen.'
Because it discourages women from asking for things at restaurants and places of service for fear of being seen as a 'Karen.' It's hard being a soft spoken female. People knock you over. But as soon as you speak up, you get called a Karen, believe me. It's a silencing tool. There is no in between.
It's a trash word, and it's even a lazy insult.
Just call me a bitch if you don't like me. At least you won't sound like a moron. And I'll know where you stand. I won't have to guess if you're just joking or not.
So instead of all that artwork of Sans walking around without a shirt please consider him wearing a skeleton shirt. Cmon. Ur already drawin the boneafide bones my dudes and you CAN NOT tell me sans would pass up such an opportunity. This is the kind of guy who would put a skull mask on and go out as a skeleton on Halloween despite being a skeleton he’s such a meme I swear.
i reblog like two things related to biology and now my Personalized Tumblr Advertising Experience™ is trying to sell me state of the art lab equipment
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p>like i live in a trailer and i'm on disability income. do i want a machine that can grow bones? yes. can i buy one? no! stop making me sad when i realize i'll never legally be able to fill my house with human skeletons!! goddamnit
hey uhhhhh i dont care if you're an exclusionist but. please don't make jokes that lump together ace people and 'sapiosexuals' (ableist trash) thank you goodnight
