#gendered things

[shiftythrifting]

[mj-irl]

Gender Normitive Binary BS

My mom wants to get a picture of all my grandmother’s great grandkids. My sibling’s kids and cousins and she wants to put them in themed t-shirts, which ok fine, it’s cheesy but they’re all little so it could be cute.

We were talking about colors for these matching shirts and the next thing I know she’s suggesting we put the girls in pink and the boys in blue.

I was like ugh please don’t do that I’ll like totally throw up at the awefulness, that’s a terrible idea.

The conversation continued:

Mom: what’s wrong with it?

Me: it’s reinforcing the gender binary

Mom: no it’s not

Me: you really think putting girls in pink and blues in blue doesn’t reinforce the idea that pink is for girls and blue is for boys

Mom: that’s not what I meant by it

Me: it might not be what you meant but it still reienforces the idea

Mom: it’s not hurting anyone

Me: just because you think it’s not hurting anyone doesn’t make that true (thinking:me mom I’m hurt by this bs) and I don’t think we should be teaching it too the kids

Mom: I don’t think you can criticize the older generation for this, this is how we grew up it’s what we know

Me: that doesn’t mean I have to stay quiet and say nothing when I feel something is wrong

This led to a conversation about how I’m too passionate for my own good and maybe I should tone it down a bit so I don’t upset people. Yep, that’s never been said to an AFaB person before// sarcasm.

My parents were generally ok with letting me do what I wanted as a kid but I could see the difference in the way my boy cousins were treated and the way femininity was forced on me and I was frustrated by it. I see now the way my nephew is discouraged from doing anything remotely precived as feminine and I get sooo upset for him.

My family can’t even see how much emphasis they put in gender and I’m causing a problem when I point it out. Uuuugggh

[philosophicalpoodle]

As an agender person I have to spend more money buying both and mixing them

[birdsintheory]

strangers are just that- strangers. if they get it wrong, thats on them. they dont know you. the people who matter and love u will respect u being trans masc, even if u like girly things. do wat u want, gender is a fuck

I really appreciate you saying this, this is all very true,,

Yeah I know who I am isn’t dependent on others, I just need the confidence to believe in it

Thank you! I do feel better on this matter <3

[birdsintheory]

it’s so nice to just. be shirtless in like cargo pants in my own home like just existing

[puraiuddo]

like there’s an insane amount of unecessarily gendered things

but i think perhaps one of the most ridiculous is fucking

glasses

they all look exactly the same!!!! what the fuck!!

[birdsintheory]

your gender isn’t what’s in your pants, your gender is how loud you sneeze

[birdsintheory]

I’m starting my first full time job soon and my boss had called to make sure I was prepared for my first day and asked me preferred name and said they’re using that for everything and asked for my pronouns and.. I don’t know.. I have been closeted about my gender for so long it’s hard accepting that there are accepting people out there..