When im annoyed i never explain anything well ty for explaining it calmly
No problem and no judgment here. I understand as it makes me uncomfortable too.
I'm 100% in support for people advocating it but as I said in other posts, it's about agency. Let our decisions be our own. If they turn out to be good, then it'll be because we proved we have the strength to carry ourselves forward. If they were bad, we can at least take solace in the fact that we had agency, which is a huge, HUGE part of activism.
And I feel like dudes should appreciate this too. If they ever feel like there is something that specifically and unfairly targets them, they should be the ones to speak up about it. I bet if the shoe were on the other foot and they felt like their agency was stripped of them, they'd want that much, you know?
I am absolutely thrilled when people want to advocate for the rights of those of others. I am absolutely thrilled when people WANT to adopt the label of feminist, and even better when they TRULY adopt the ideals and support women of various backgrounds, cultures, sexualities, and body types. But I just wish people understood it can also come with some level of uncomfortableness, you know? Maybe that discomfort is something we need to work through, but you can also argue that the label isn't truly necessary to fight the good fight, and that as a feminist you should understand why we would feel that way.
Regardless, I hope it doesn't change how feel about a movement in general. I DO welcome men to participate in protests and to participate in discussions about women's rights, because I feel every perspective is valuable in some way. I'm not saying they shouldn't try to help, because that's foolish. I want everyone who feels compelled to do the right thing to do it. People just have to understand how complex of a situation it is, though, and have some self-awareness.
