Good-hard/challenging
One of those thing I feel like I have a :weird experience: with and am wondering if anyone else - knows things with this or has experiences or etc.
Things that are good-hard/challenging.
Physical things work here to give me both experience examples and conceptual underpinning.
-When I used to run and I’d be getting tired etc but be like ‘I’ll get to the end of this minute/distance/etc’, this feels like good-hard type things (if maybe a shorter term example). I do it and it feels like pushing myself or whatever the words (but it doesn’t feel *badthings etc*) and and then I did it and I catch my breath and things it’s :nice: etc.
-If I try to lift/move more weight than is good for my capabilities/body, this is *not* good-hard/challenging. It will feel miserable and [physical] badthings and I can hurt myself and [outside of emergencies where the alternative is worse] I *shouldn’t do it*.
-’Push on this wall until it moves’ is not good-hard/challenging. It just won’t work.
-’Stand here for half an hour doing nothing’ is not good-hard/challenging. I already know I can do this, I just don’t want to because it’s not net positive etc and isn’t actually a good use of my time.
For non-physical things, I know the *idea* of good-hard/challenging things. I run into it a lot in readings, other people’s experiences, etc. It’s very common there, it’s something I see all the time. And, well. It’s something I *want in my life*. But I have a really hard time thinking of examples that *actually work for me this way*. (Rather than working as other categories of the things). (This then also runs into the problem where our culture and various people have issues pushing people into doing things that are actually in the other categories, not believing them on this, etc. Which is badthings and does harm and etc.)
And, *oh*. I got to the non-physical part of writing this (this is all something I’ve thought about before but came to on my mind just now and I wanted to write about it) and in fact thought of an example! (Which was my calculus class). Which did certainly have *elements* that were just not good and that should have just not been that way and that would have been better etc. But overall does feel like this experience to me. And, well, that involved both circumstances and abilities that I had then but don’t anymore. But, this actually goes to and gives actual :substance-feeling: (not as in validity but as in having things) to the whisp-thought I’d had that I *should* be able to have things like that, it would just have to involve things *that would work that way for me*, etc. Which is often not what I’ve run into. (And I don’t actually know how to change that or find things). But it does also give me more thoughts on what such things could *look* like. So - hm!