Asking for advice on how I M27 should handle my F27 GF lazy habbits?
I've lived with my girlfriend for 1.5 years and we are about to be together for 5 years. I work remote while she's on-site. With the exception of the first few months when we've moved in, my gf has consistently slacked on household chores and upkeep. For context I shovel, mow grass, cook 95% of the time, vacuum and clean nearly all the time, do the grocery shopping, as well as clean up my own messes. I've tried to justify it in the past since I'm remote and home that I have more availability to do more household tasks. So I wouldn't expect the division of chores to be 50/50 but the past year it feels closer to 90/10. Within the past few months she has to be reminded to clean up after herself. Whether it's empty bags and boxes from shopping laying on the floor, dirty bottles/cups/dishes & bowls in the living room, and literal piles of her own dirty laundry across 2 rooms, etc. I've told her that this bothers me before and she gets emotion and feels like she's failing for not doing more but doesn't seem like she's actually trying to better herself. I still love her but it's causing me to be a bit frustrated with our relationship and I'm starting to see her in a less romantic light. Besides for this issue our relationship is great but I can't go on living my life this same way. We've talked about marriage before and I'm tempted to tell her I will not propose until these habits change because I don't want to marry into this situation, but before I do anything rash I thought id hear the advice of others.
All you can do is communicate. If you've tried several times and nothing has changed, then nothing is going to change. Dating is to figure out if you have long-term compatibility. Sounds like you're discovering that the answer is no.