#handling rejection

[giulietta-hearthful]

Betty Blue (1986) by Jean-Jacques Beineix

Dear Sir,

I have been an editor at this publishing house for a good twenty years, and believe me, things both good and not so good have passed through my hands. I have never seen anything, however, that compares with what you have had the incredibly bad taste to send us.

I have often written to young authors to tell them of the admiration I hold for them and their work. I have never until now been tempted to do the opposite. But you, sir, have pushed me over the brink.

Your writing for me evokes the preliminary signs of leprosy. It is with deep disgust that I am sending back this nauseating flower that you mistakenly thought was a novel.

Nature sometimes gives birth to mutations. You will agree that it is the duty of an honest man to put an end to such anomalies. Understand that I intend to do some publicity for you. My only regret is that this thing can never be returned to the one place it never should have left—I am speaking of some murky swamplike zone in your brain.

Quote from the rejection letter in Betty Blue by Philippe Djian

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Handling Rejection as a Christian Part 3: Biblical Way to Handle Rejection: Mt 10:14

Dusting Off the Sandals – The Sower’s Boundary This is part 3 of the Handling Rejection as a Christian series. Part 1 talks about the Blame Game. Part 2 discussed the rejections. When we share our faith and face a cold shoulder, our instinct is often to try harder. We think that if we just explain it one more way, or provide one more piece of evidence, we can “force” the harvest. But Jesus gave…

Handling Rejection as a Christian Part 3: Biblical Way to Handle Rejection: Mt 10:14

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Handling Rejection as a Christian 2: Why People Reject the Gospel

Why the Door Shuts This is part 2 in the Handling Rejection as a Christian series. We continue from part 1, the Blame Game. In our last post, we saw how a friend might ignore a financial warning and later point the finger at the messenger. But what is actually happening in those moments of rejection? Why does a message of hope and life often meet a wall of resistance? When we understand the…

Handling Rejection as a Christian 2: Why People Reject the Gospel

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Handling Rejection as a Christian I: The Blame Game Parable

This is the first part in the Handling Rejection as a Christian series. A Tale of Two Investors Warning a friend about a pitfall is an act of love, even if the warning is ignored. You spent two months researching a specific investment. You saw the red flags, the shaky foundations, and the inevitable bubble about to burst. Out of genuine care, you approached your close friend, David, to warn…

Handling Rejection as a Christian I: The Blame Game Parable

[simplicius-simplicissimus]

Fatal Attraction - dealing with rejection

Comment: New York lawyer Dan Gallagher leads a dream life. He's highly successful in his career, has a beautiful wife and a charming daughter. When he meets the seductive Alex one day, he recklessly jeopardizes his perfect family life. A disastrous affair develops for Dan. While the lawyer sees his relationship with Alex as only a brief interlude, she can't accept this boundary and puts increasingly perfidious pressure on Dan.

An extreme example of a woman who can't handle rejection. Some "princesses" really can't handle it well. Men are more accustomed to rejection - because women still expect men to follow traditional gender roles and make the first move. Dealing with "rejection" is part of a man's life. Although men get used to it, rejection is always also a hurtful judgment. Most (not all) men become numb to this, take it in stride and simply move on to the next flower. So the next time you have to turn someone away: be firm, but polite!

[romilly-jay]

A useful reminder ...

Easy to think that everyone else is crushing it all the time, living their best life, garlanded and successful in everything they do.

Maybe some people's lives really are like that. Bet they still find things to moan about from time to time. Whether or not they "should"...

Anyway, because of this shadow, I'm particularly touched by John McCullough's note of May 2022, and reposted recently - written after he'd judged a poetry competition, addressed to the people whose poems were not chosen...

I would add that I'm sorry if you sent in work that wasn't selected this time. I do know how that feels. Imagine there is a giant bar where only writers who haven't placed in a competition or who've recently had a magazine rejection are allowed to go. I am there. I showed up so often they gave me a lifetime membership.

It's necessary to be kind to yourself as a writer as there are always knockbacks. An individual instance of not coming out on top means little in the long run both in terms of the future competitions you might send the same pieces to and the poems you have yet to write.

If you're willing to devote yourself to carrying on growing as a writer by trying different approaches, taking on board feedback and reading widely, you will keep developing. And as long as you see development in your work, as long as you see yourself pushing forward and breaking what is new ground for you, then as a writer you're already winning.

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[muzammilheree]

A Crash Course In Handling Rejection

Dealing with rejection is something we all face at some point in our lives. Whether it’s a job application, a romantic relationship, or a creative pursuit, rejection can leave us feeling discouraged and disheartened. However, it’s important to remember that rejection doesn’t define our worth or abilities. In fact, it can be a valuable opportunity for personal growth and development. Read Now

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Your rejection is my motivation

Your rejection is my motivation

When I was thinking about writing this post, a well-known song by Elton John came into my head, but the words morphed into something my writer brain could comprehend – “Rejection Seems to be the Hardest Word”. If you replace the word sad in Elton’s song with the word rejection, this could be the anthem for anyone who has written a novel and sent their words out into the world, only to receive an…

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