#dealing with failure

[bea-sthetic]

After experiencing a failure, it takes a lot of strenght and willpower to allow yourself the grace and patience to recover, to learn and then to improve again. Today, I choose to give myself that grace and patience, loving myself out of this episode.

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

FAILURE IS OKAY

A lot of my posts are geared towards reaching success and achieving it, but I want to remind you guys that it’s okay to fail. We put so much pressure on ourselves, especially as women, to be the best at everything, but we need to remind ourselves to breathe. Perfection is impossible and beating yourself up over the impossible will do nothing but bring you pain. You are so much more than your failures, please remember that.

so much love,

a girl unfiltered 💋

[orbitingtheson]

3 October 2245

I just sold my dream.

I used to fantasize about owning a bed and breakfast cycler and bouncing around all of cislunar space with strange and interesting guests. It took me a decade to scrape up the money to get started. And it took me five years to finally admit that I can't keep the business above water and enjoy my life at the same time. Cashing out got me just enough to close my loans and walk away with a couple months worth of the salary I'd been drawing.

Now I don't know what to do next. It seems like every other contact I made running the hotel wants me to go into business with them. Some of the plans sound kind of interesting, but I can't quite feel any passion for them. A little voice keeps reminding me that the dole's enough to keep me fed and in better quarters than I gave myself on the ship.

Would it be that wrong to just sit and rot for a bit?

- how do I grow moss?

So long as you're actually taking care of yourself and working on enjoying your life, I think you're better off framing that as healing rather than rotting.

You've been through a lot in a few years. There's no reason you need to be in a hurry to get back into the rat race. Take your time, reflect, grow, and be kind to yourself while you see what new dreams come your way.

[safely-scarred]

journal 200807

I’m beginning to realize that it’s all my fault.

When I was sixteen, I could blame my parents. They didn’t raise me right. They didn’t want me to do the things I liked. They didn’t understand me. But now I’m almost twenty, and I can already see that they are as lost as I am.

I missed having sleepovers with my best friend for fear of catching gayness. I missed sneaking out at night for fear of bruises at school the next morning. I missed high school parties for fear of losing the A I’d been working for all year.

(inevitably, I lost the A anyways).

But after my first year of college, there was nobody left to blame but myself. I could have lived differently, but I didn’t. I keep letting myself down. It’s the pathology of my personality, that I am my own worst enemy, and deep down I know that I will never be happy for longer than a few minutes at a time.

It makes me so angry, but never angry enough to change. I am still seeking comfort instead of chasing adventure. But adventure is what I have always wanted. I don’t know how to have fun like I’m supposed to, but I do know that time is running out and it is already almost too late.

I’m almost not a teenager anymore, and the time that I have left has been stolen.

[gomedorgohome]

Understand that it is an unavoidable part of life

Everyone fails. EVERYONE. In the midst of one sadness and disappointment, it is easy to forget about that, but we guarantee that everyone you idolise has a fair share of failures behind them (seriously, google “famous people failure”). Once you realise that even the most successful people had to deal with what you’re dealing with right now, it becomes a little easier to carry on and start again

Talk to someone

It hurts to fail, plain and simple. It might make you feel better if you talk to someone about it- it can be a family member, a friend, a therapist or a random person on the internet- anyone you feel comfortable talking to. Find someone you can ask for advice or just someone you can vent to, as there is no point in dealing with it alone and it might actually make the whole process harder. The stigma surrounding failure is absurd and everyone would be better if people were just open about it. (also, sidetone: nothing bonds people more than talking about difficult experiences, really)

Give yourself time to get over it

Every wound needs time to heal, specially ones in your heart and although there is nothing good in brooding in your sadness for weeks and weeks, it is perfectly natural to not be ok for some time. You tried, sometimes really hard and yet you failed and this must hurt. Give yourself time to acknowledge your feelings and some time before you’re ready to try again

Re-evaluate

Not succeeding at something is actually a good moment to think about your goals. Do you still want to pursue the thing you failed at or maybe is it time to try something new? This one is actually a little tricky, because of the natural lingering fear of failing again, but try to ignore this little voice and just be honest with yourself- do you want to try again and if not- why? Is it because you are scared or do you just not want to do this thing anymore? Try to not let fear dictate your decisions, however hard it might seem to be and really think about what you want in the long run.

Realise what went wrong

Be honest with yourself - did you do everything you could’ve done? Focus on bettering yourself and trying to avoid the same mistakes next time.

Plan

This is connected with the previous ones- if you decide you want to try again and you realise what you can improve, the time comes for creating a plan. Having everything written down- when you’re doing something, what you need to remember about and what you need to focus on- will give you a sense of control, which will be priceless, because it will keep you motivated and in higher spirits.

If you want to stop trying, stop

Like we mentioned before- sometimes failure makes you realise you just don’t want to do something and that is ok. If you find yourself in a situation where pursuing something again will cause you more stress and unhappiness than the possible positive outcome, just give up and be happy.

[You can find our other original masterposts here- give them a look ✨]

[aspiring-nehrd]

I GRADUATED!!! 🎓⚡️

Took me longer than expected, and I learnt so much more than just science - I’m talking about self discovery, y’all.

Friendly reminder (something I could’ve definitely heard more of) that everyone moves at their own pace and that failure is an essential part of life!!!

Anyways, do I now have the koala-fications to call myself a zoologist? 🐨

[thenorthernvet-blog]

Day 2

It’s been a busy day. Which is good and bad. It was very nice to see some amazing surgeries today. Even though at this placement we are allowed to do very little. 

Keratomas - Very rare condition and we had an even rarer version. In one foot there was three unique keratomas. Keratoma is a benign tumour in the foot from the keratin-producing epithelial layer. It is usually found along the dorsal wall. It is diagnosed via radiographs. They are taken out by surgery. You can approach it by the dorsal wall or the sole. From what I know, the dorsal wall is used more often. They pop out like pearls once found. They are perfectly circular masses of destruction. *fan girls*

EORTH - I honestly forgot this was a thing... We did a standing removal of all the incisors and canines. It was a long ending to the day but actually got to do some holding and got a really good review of anatomy in the skull. It was nice to be quizzed in a feel-good way. 

What I am grateful for...

Today, I am happy that I went out and enjoyed true learning. Not stressful review. I am glad that as introverted as I am that I am making good friends and looking at life outside The Day. 

And thankful for this perfect soul:

[stormphyre]

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