Sep 5, 2025
Talking it over with a friend
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Talking it over with a friend
'There's something I want to tell you.' Her voice trembled and the happiness she had been feeling for so many days was changed to pain.
L. P. Hartley, from My Fellow Devils
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a difficult conversation
This is another portion of the conversation with my wife that came up around my IUD.
“So, what’s happening with it? Our open relationship? What about Hal?”
I’m out of the room, so she can’t see the look on my face. “I haven’t heard from him in months.” It’s the only truth I can manage to tell her. I can’t tell her he didn’t want me. I don’t want her to know how hurt I was when he ended our friendship forever. I don’t want her to know how much I was in love with him. Because I don’t want to hurt her. Because I love her.
“I thought we were going to work on our relationship before we opened it.” I thought she said our relationship could be open as long as we were working on it. Work in progress. “That’s why I brought it up in the car.”
“Yes. I’m glad you did. But it wasn’t a good time to have that conversation. And then I got covid and we weren’t exactly spending a lot of time around each other.” So little in fact, I was becoming depressed.
“Multiple sex partners and IUDs means you are more likely to get STDs.”
“I don’t plan on having unprotected sex just because I have an IUD. In fact, I plan to absolutely lie about having it so condoms will get used.” A little tip I heard from a listener on Savage Lovecast.
“Okay. Insist on seeing the printout of their tests.”
“Yes, of course.”
“How are you going to feel if I start going on dates?”
It’s not the first time she asked me this. “I think you should feel free to do that. It’s only fair.”
“What are the rules? Is once a week too much?”
“You said no sex at home. I would want you to be safe. Health and safety first. Vet the people you go out with. Use all the prophylactics.”
“What if I want to go out on a date but you say, ‘we were going to watch a show?’”
“I would of course want you to honor any plans we made together. I think it would be a different conversation if you started canceling our plans for someone else.”
“What if I want to stay out all night?”
“Please just let me know if that is going to happen. Don’t make me worry.”
“You do realize you coerced me into this.”
“Yes, I’m aware that you do this under duress. Which is funny, because it was you that wanted to open the relationship all those years ago. 2013, when we were at Burning Man.”
“I just want sex. You are the one who fell in love.”
I didn’t attempt to deny it.
“I didn’t mean to. It was the last thing I wanted.” I had been attempting to spare her the knowledge, but she had gleaned it all along. I suppose it’s a little freeing that I didn’t have to say it, that she already knew. But of course, that knowledge must have hurt.
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