Really unpopular opinion: I don't exactly care about harry saying that ws it's about female orgasm. Obviously, when you put in the public narrative about him being straight and a womanizer the situation gets bad, but we can't be sure(not that it is possible to know exactly how the person labels themselves without that person talking)about him not being attracted to women. I obviously don't believe in any of his public relationships or random women who talk about sleeping with him, but I don't see it as impossible for him to be attracted to women so for me it was something that just maybe correspond to his sexuality.
Still on that subject, I don't understand why the fandom, at least from my experience that is a few years, is so reluctant about them being attracted to women.
*Before anyone brings this up, I don't think they cheated on each other or actually dated their public girlfriends.*
Regarding the “female orgasm” comment, I think people were mostly upset by it. The purpose of it didn’t sound like it had anything to do with his sexuality but rather how it was presented. It was really unexpected and out of character for Harry to comment on it, especially during a show. He was fidgety and awkward and mumbled through it. The whole moment was just weird and uncomfortable. I also think some people found it inappropriate to say during a show where young fans were present.
Up until that point, Harry had never confirmed WS was about oral sex with a female. And suddenly, during a tour where fans were encouraged to bring signs at shows that showcased sexual harassment, the “female orgasm” is suddenly mentioned. Harry’s current fandom is fuelled by fans who are obsessed with the sex-crazed narrative HSHQ has been stirring up since 2017. He basically “confirmed” it to an arena filled with them. The comment didn’t feel like a statement about his sexuality and expression like Medicine does; it felt like a quota to be filled to guarantee money in someones pockets. That’s why fans don’t think it was genuine.
To be fair if we want to discuss Harry or Louis being bi, I’d like to bring up the fact that multi-gender attraction is NEVER brought up when discussing Louis sexuality. When he’s technically the only one who has dated a woman in his private life. We don’t see it as impossible for Harry to be attracted to women either, but maybe consider the narrative and public perception at hand. There is a reason individuals brand Harry as bi daddy and Louis as a gay twink. It comes down to fans (Harries and some Larries) WANTING him to be available to women, and wanting Louis to be submissive to men and feminized. If you actually consider the kind of LGBTQ+ media/art/writing (specifically) Harry engages with, it is often related to mlm rather than related to multi-gender attraction. Fans (who believe Harry is gay and attracted to men) consider these long-standing aspects when acknowledging or discussing his sexuality. I’d check out this excellent post by @tellmethisisnottumblisnextfuckup.
Fans are not reluctant about HL being attracted to women. A lot of them believe they likely not attracted to women due to their public perception (surrounding women), their closets (where their ‘parters’ are women, not men), and their many failed PR stunts with women. It is simply not bi-erasure to consider that they haven’t shown any actual interest in women. A lot of what people in the fandom claim as biphobia actually isn’t, and they give actual biphobia a free pass.
As a bisexual person myself, I was initially invested in the idea of Harry sharing my identity. And he very well could, we can’t be positive one way or the other. However, I came to the realization that my investment in the idea of Harry being bi (why never Louis?) was largely because of the demand of his public image that he be sexually available to women. An image that has been pushed since the boy was merely 16. Unpacking that as a fan is vital no matter what you think he might identify as!
