#headmate4headmate

[sunrest-sys]

btw if you’re dating your headmate(s) then that’s just as valid as an outer world relationship and SHOULD be taken seriously!!

I love my partner sm and they’re just as great and valuable inside just as they would be outside!! <3

[eldritch-emojis]

romantic insys relationship | headmate4headmate | dipian | plural4plural | fictivian | headmate loving headmate

Pride Circles!

[sc3m0-st1mz]

HEADMATE4HEADMATE stimboard!!

w/ heart + krystal stimz!!

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4 crow& X3 - requestz open!!

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for headmates in inside/in-system relationships!

Building trust and relationships is an important part of system life, and it’s normal to foster platonic, romantic, and other kinds of bonds between headmates! This post is for system members who are in close, positive relationships!

💓 Shoutout to headmates who have just started dating, getting to know each other better, or taking the next step in their relationship!

💘 Shoutout to headmates who are married or have been partnered for years!

💗 Shoutout to headmates in inner polycules or queerplatonic relationships!

💕 Shoutout to systems who manage romantic relationships both inside and outside their system!

💖 Shoutout to headmates who set up dates for each other and do little things to make their headmate partners feel cherished and loved!

💝 Shoutout to headmates who struggle to interpret their feelings regarding other system members!

💞 Shoutout to headmates who get shy, bashful, or butterflies when they’re around the system members they love!

💓 Shoutout to headmates and systems with complex, interconnected relationships!

💘 Shoutout to systems whose inner relationships can’t really be understood by singlets!

💗 Shoutout to headmates who are exclusively (whether sexually or romantically) interested in others inside their system!

💖 Shoutout to headmates who have dealt with others attempting to invalidate their relationship, whether inside the system or people outside!

Within the vast spectrum of plurality is a diverse array of relationships and experiences between headmates! There is nothing wrong or weird about pursuing platonic, romantic, or sexual relationships with the other headmates in your system. As long as you are respecting each other’s boundaries, actively communicating, and keeping each other’s best interests at heart, in-system relationships can be a strengthening and rewarding experience!

We hope y’all can continue to learn and grow together, and that your relationships will inspire you to take care of each other! Remember we care about y’all and we wish you the very best in all that you do. Rest assured your in-system relationship is beautiful, worthy of maintenance, and an amazing part of plural life!

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[aetherive]

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Sys4Sys/Plur4Plur || Headmate4Headmate

Plur4Plur/Sys4Sys + Headmate4Headmate Flags.

plain text: Plur4Plur/Sys4Sys + Headmate4Headmate Flags.

— Alternate flags for those who are sys4sys (system4system) / plur4plur (plural4plural) and headmate4headmate.

— Sys4sys/plur4plur aka SysLSys/PlurLPlur is a term for systems/plurals who are exclusively attracted to other systems/plurals and/or prioritize relationships with other systems/plurals.

— Headmate4headmate aka HeadmateLHeadmate is a term for headmates who are exclusively attracted to other headmates in their own system and/or prioritize relationships with other headmates in their own system.

[dear-diary-xoxo]

neither queerplatonic hubby nor bestie wifey have been active in system for awhile even though im listening to all of our fav songs on loop. hhhh. I miss themmmmm. im trying to figure out how to front trigger them but like i guess maybe their pos triggers have changed or just arent working as good,,, le sigh.

[faggily]

map of our intrasys relationships that we've made and updated since may 2021 [note: this only maps the alters of our "main" inner world AKA this is not a relationship map of our entire headspace]

explanation + notes:

names in red are the "main" alters or the heart of the map

names in orange are also "part of the pack" but not main alters

names in pink aren't part of the pack and can either signify a less prioritized relationship or just a hookup (this started as a hookup chart lmao)

two names connected with a back line: these two are dating

two names connected with a grey line: a hookup happened between the two (or along those lines)

this map does not mean we remember every dynamic constantly

the "pack" or entourage started with me and my two wives years ago circa 2016; we have since expanded as you can see lol

we might expand this map further to include familial relationships + i wish there was a dashed or dotted line option for "it's complicated" relationships (me / roman, judith / eto, etc.)

adding a platonic dimension to the map would over-complicate things (plus it's better to just demonstrate/flesh out what it originally was — a web i drew on a whiteboard once to gossip with my coworkers lol)

chart made on reteNoteLite on the app store for others who want to give mapping a shot

yes i'm a slut and i'll sleep with your mom too 👉😎👉