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The Dark Side of Venus square Uranus synastry 🐦‍🔥 (Part One)

This is included in my Problematic Aspects in Synastry post. This aspect can signal toward a connection that is unstable as well as unsustainable. The connection may have come together quickly or abruptly in Uranus fashion, taking one or both individuals by surprise, as meeting one another on the surface appeared to be unexpectant. But the universe makes no mistakes. Especially when it comes to connections. Uranus is the planet of the freedom, unconventionality, upheaval, the unexpected, and rules Aquarius. The Uranus person is a breath of fresh air or change for the Venus person. At the start of it all the Venus person is enamored and welcomes the excitement of it all. This aspect is seen in casual affairs and situation ships, which can seem unconventional and taboo, and sometimes that is the point. But often times what starts out as "let's just go with flow" turns into something neither individual anticipated. Particularly for the Venus person who is constantly feeling like they're heart and needs are not being considered. The Uranus person may be attracted to and even may love or be in love with Venus, but is at odds with themselves because although there is a connection. The Uranus person does not want to be tied down, and may even be non committal. I have been on both sides of this type of dynamic. It is frustrating for Venus who just wants to connect fully and have consistency. The Uranus person knows this and sometimes purposefully is inconsistent so not to get too attached and or to send a message to Venus that the connection is not a priority and not to get too invested. The Uranus person will breadcrumb, stone wall and even ghost the Venus person once they feel like Venus is putting too much pressure on them, or getting too comfortable, only to come back when they are bored, run out of options, want attention or their ego stroked or boosted. This is considered a "heartbreak" aspects and relationship astrologers do not like to see this aspect in synastry or the composite as it could be seen as a "bad omen" even with beautiful Moon and Saturn aspects. This could mean that there may be a strong emotional bond, and with Saturn there, this situationship can go on for months sometimes years, before the Venus and or Uranus person finally let's this go. Before that happens there is discord, the two may be on again off again. The Venus person may date other people or even get into a relationship with someone else and still "entertain" the Uranus person or will start connecting with Uranus again once that relationship ends. The Uranus person may finally move on once they think they have found "the one" which is heartbreaking to the Venus person who could not get Uranus to settle down and commit. There is a reason why Venus tolerated this type of treatment, there is usually abandonment wounds that need to be addressed, and self worth issues. You will have to look at the Natal Venus house placement (Placidus) to find out what it is that the Venus is working through. If the Venus person has Pluto and or Venus in the 12th, 7th, 8th houses this aspect can be very triggering for them, and can cause quite a bit of emotional, mentally and physical distress. This connection can cause self esteem and abandonment issues in the Venus person, which causes them to hold on tighter the connection and the Uranus person, especially if Venus is "afflicted" in the natal chart. The Venus person must learn how to let go of connections where there is no equal give and take and reciprocity. And that the Uranus person's actions do not determine their worth. They must give up issues with control. If the Venus person has Venus opposite or square Uranus in the their own natal chart this connection can have a "mirroring effect" where they see their own behavior and actions in another person which causes them to be more mindful of how they're actions and non action affects others. They will be more thoughtful and more aware of how they show up and are seen in their dynamics going forward. (to be continued)

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Saturn square Ascendant in Synastry (A Cautionary Tale) 💔

Saturn square Ascendant aspect in synastry is the restriction of self expression from the the Saturn person, Saturn person wanting to change or control the persona or actions of the Ascendant. I had this aspect with someone in the past. He was Saturn and was super critical of my looks, and how I presented myself, because the Ascendant is how we present ourselves, how we carry ourselves and has to do with our appearance. He would suggest how I should wear my makeup, my hair and even at one point suggested cosmetic surgery. This aspect can be extremely damaging to the self esteem of the Ascendant person if they already have their own issues with their appearance, or lack confidence and do not have a strong sense of self. I consider this aspect a "heartbreaking" aspect because it is a "square" and as I have explained in previous post, "how to deal with squares in synastry" squares are uphill battles and cause constant friction as well as unrest in a connection. Saturn is the planet of restriction, discipline, lessons, hard work, commitment and contracts. And when you have this planet squaring someone's Ascendant which is their identity and presentation, this means that a person will be constantly defending the right to be themselves authentically and unapologetically in a connection. This aspect is extremely toxic and karmic. Regardless of the sign and house placement, this is one for the books. The heartbreaking part is that the Ascendant person may actually start to make the changes in how they act and look to appease the Saturn person and win their approval, only to face another needed upgrade or modification by Saturn. It will never be enough there will always be something wrong or something that the Ascendant needs to fix, work on or improve. The Saturn person is merely projecting, the truth is that inside they are insecure, intimidated and do not feel good enough for the Ascendant person. They may be secretly jealous of how outgoing, confident or admired the Ascendant person is, and wish that they themselves possessed these qualities. Instead of supporting the Ascendant they instead choose to nitpick at them, point out flaws and be hyper critical to take them down a notch or knock them off their pedestal, they feel like if they point out their flaws, this will cause insecurity and keep the Ascendant in the connection and also keep the Ascendant under control. This is the ultimate hater, sleeping with the enemy aspect. This aspect is very similar to Saturn square North Node, except it is worse because with North Node they are critical of your life path and with this aspect they are critical of YOU. If Saturn is in Capricorn, Virgo or Scorpio this is going to be exceptionally hard. Because Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, Virgo in Saturn is a hypercritical perfectionist, and Scorpio in Saturn is toxic and unapologetic. When the Saturn person does not get their way or the Ascendant finally decides they have had a enough and stands on business. Saturn will punish the Ascendant by stonewalling, giving silent treatment, blocking or refusing to support them. Especially if they are married or the Ascendant is financially dependent on them. The lesson in this aspect for the Ascendant, be true to yourself and honor your authenticity. You should not have to change who you are for someone to accept and love you. Love and acceptance does not come with conditions. The only person you need to be good enough for is yourself. Do not let anyone have control over your personal autonomy. Saturn cannot love and accept you for who you are, because Saturn does not love and accept themselves. The lesson for Saturn, people are not projects, you cannot control anyone, lighten up, stop projecting your insecurities onto others and deal with your issues, you are avoiding inner work (shadow work) by finding fault in other people. ....(To be continued)

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Madison

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