Mystery, I know you have a lot going on right now but I need your help. You see I used to be friends with this boy cole, we don’t live in the same state so we would chat over Instagram. But recently his account disappeared. Without a trace, can’t call him, can’t find him. But he was never the kind of guy to leave like that. He was kind, sweet, and caring, and true to his word. But before he disappeared, he acted very “jokery” and I’m just worried he snapped took his own life...
The first thing that we need to do is to breathe...
Out through your mouth...
I cannot help if we are in a state of panic, we must align ourselves again to calm...
It’s going to be okay. We need to remind ourselves that when we’re in a situation as such, we cannot always assume the worst.
Things happen. I’ve had problems with this blog before, one where it would say that it no longer exists. Usually it’s an email to tech support to see if my blog here can get back up and running. I’ve had situations like this before where I’ve had social media accounts deleted or not load properly and they’ve ceased to exist. Maybe the Instagram account will appear again soon.
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Please don’t get upset with me, I shared this with @movie-robotnik-positivity after receiving this message. He wanted to help. This is what he wrote:
“First of all, I’m very sorry about what happened. Cole sounds like a nice person and you like a very caring friend to have.
“I think it’s important to take a breath and try not to immediately assume the worst. An IG account can just be deleted for no reason, or if your friend wasn’t feeling too well, perhaps he needed to disconnect for a little while. There are options to consider…
“Sadly, all that can be done is wait to see if the account returns or if he contacts you. I do need you to promise me not to blame yourself for whatever happened, maybe he’s going through some stuff and needs some time.
“I have hope that Cole is fine. You’re a very good friend...”
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We must take time to step back and evaluate something here: warning signs of this type of situation.
I have had people in the past that have been down this path. I have been there coaching them through those thoughts—it’s not them. I have known people who have tried and sat with them in hospitals afterwards or waited them outside of their therapy appointments to make sure that they were okay. I have come to recognize warning signs and assure them of their worth, that’s why I make a point in telling people here that they do, in fact, matter and that they are worthy.
I feel the need to be honest here, I’m not entirely sure of what the word “jokery” is implied here. Two things come to my mind; The Joker from Batman and when we bring dark humor into our lives. I think that what is being implied here is, that he may have been holding characteristics similar to The Joker? Am I correct?
Unfortunately, and it pains me to say this, he might need a bit to be left alone. Sometimes when one struggles with the negative voices in their heads, they may need time to quarrel with them on his own. We have battles and journeys in our own lives that need to be taken alone. Some paths are only big enough for one. The best thing that we can do is be there for them when they return.
For you, I ask that you remain hopeful. This is not your fault. I promise. I know that it’s easy to blame yourself in this situation...
“If only I did this, maybe this wouldn’t happened...”
It may not be much, but you were there for them back then. Cole will remember that. He may need some time to have a conversation with himself and think about what is right for him. If he returns, give him this address: “Dépression Hotline Numbers.” There are options there where he can call and/or text a therapist if needed. I’ve given this to some and I e been told it helps.
If Cole really is gone, then I’m sorry that you’ve lost a friend. Do not cry because it’s over, do not grow angry with yourself, appreciate the time that you’ve had with them and cherish the memories. Remember them as you always have and hold their memories dear to your heart.
Give it a day or two for the account to appear again.
For now, I ask that you stay safe.
Remember that you matter.
And remember that you are worthy of self-love.❤️
