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[imperhius]

[labmousegirl]

one of the things that makes autism a disability (and why some of us choose to label it as such rather than an “alternate neurotype”) is the stress. 

part of autism is just being incredibly stressed. overstimulation? stress. holding a conversation? stress. something happening to our schedule? stress. people talk about how often autism is recognized and diagnosed via our stress responses (like meltdowns) because it is just so common to see autistic people stressed because of lack of accommodations to how our brains work.

and this matters because stress kills. stress causes a lot of health issues, or it can trigger pre-existing ones by making certain chronic conditions flare up. i once had a psychiatrist very unhelpfully tell me i “just need to manage my stress” when the stress i was describing was things i could not avoid in neurotypical society and can’t “just get over”. i can do “self care” all i like but i cannot at the very base level change the way my brain inputs information and reacts accordingly.

[roach-works]

i only learned this year that loud noises aren’t physically painful for other people. i have lived 34 years in a world in which my friends and family regularly physically hurt me at random just by shouting, and i thought everyone else just thought i was kind of a wimp for not dealing with the pain as well as they did.

like. loud noises physically hurt. it’s like a static shock from my ears to my spine that doesn’t stop until the volume goes back down. i thought we all agreed that ‘that’s too loud!’ and covering our ears meant ‘ouch!’. turns out i’ve been dealing with a stressor almost no one else has, my whole life, alone.

autistic people have to keep functioning through debilitating levels of stress that no one else in their life acknowledges or helps them with. it’s no wonder that their most visible ‘tells’ are breakdowns. 

[everythingfox]

Who needs therapy when this exists

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[nonbinaryjudean]

made you some graphics to help you remember

[sixpenceee]

A deep sea monster scene inside a block of epoxy | source

[amygdalae]

still fucks me up what a bad rap coyotes get in peoples eyes. like ive talked to people who  see em as like. gross pests who should be culled. theyre literally just as cool as wolves just a lil smaller and less confident. i love them with all my heart to balance out all the coyote haters out there, coyotes rule theyre doing great

[amygdalae]

imagine having hatred in your heart for this beast

[amygdalae]

this post was so fucking funny I literally was just like “I like coyotes I think they’re cool” and so many people fucking hated it. Shut up I’m trying. To enjoy animal

[raccoonmilf]

Ohh my sweet beasties… if I were not raccoonmilf, I would be coyotemilf. But alas, I do not have the time to devote 🥺

[nerdy-valkyrie]

[aurora1040]

i remember when i was in cosmetology school there was a coyote on campus grounds and the classes actually shut down because they needed to get animal control and i was so sad that they were gonna kill the beautiful animal that i wrote a poem about it while we waited for things to go back to business as usual.

[tastefullyoffensive]

“Most Awful Sleeping Face in Japan” (photos by @mino_ris/via neebus)

[sterlingkato]

I can’t not reblog this. I tried… impossible. 

[acekoral]

The cat looks dead in every sleeping picture

[kittybroker]

The terrible sleeper so bad at sleeping it died! Very sad! Worth 22 cents!

[actualbampot]

So this cat isn’t sleeping badly. In fact, this cat is such a deep in sleep that it’s sleep cycle is probably never disturbed because: It’s probably completely deaf.

65-85% of all white, blue-eyed cats are likely to be partially deaf, or fully deaf. Does that make them ugly sleepers?

May I present my completely deaf son:

✨️Tofu✨️

Bonus:

[memeuplift]

[thebonehoarder]

[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[ruinedchildhood]

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[dailymanners]

Do not ever be rude or condescending to someone who asks "obvious" questions, no matter how obvious or silly you think the question is.

For one, in some cultures asking an obvious question is just a polite way of acknowledging the situation. So for example, if you just put your jacket on and start clocking out, a co-worker asking "oh, you done for the day and heading out now?" doesn't deserve you sneering at them like an idiot, scoffing, and saying "uh duh, just like I do every day at this time" when it's likely they knew the answer, but were just asking as a polite way of acknowledging the situation.

But even if they were genuinely unsure that you're leaving even though it seems obvious to you from context clues, so what? What does being rude and condescending to them achieve? Maybe they couldn't sleep last night so they're really out of it today, maybe they're dissociating, maybe they're about to pass out from low blood sugar, maybe some other employees sometimes put on their jacket and only clock out briefly but come back.

There's all sorts of reasons they could be confused about whether or not you're leaving, but intentionally making them feel bad achieves nothing except, well, making them feel bad. Either way, they're not hurting you or anyone by asking a "stupid" question, so there's no point in being rude about it. If you still want to make them feel bad about themselves for looking "stupid" when they weren't hurting anyone, that is the mindset of bullies and abusers.

[dailymanners]

Thank you everyone who is pointing out in the notes that this is usually an attempt to connect with someone and/or strike up a conversation. Because honestly in my experience 9 times out of 10 when someone asks an "obvious" question that's what they're trying to do. If someone walks into the kitchen and asks "oh are you cooking?" while you're standing over the stove holding a spatula, they probably already know the answer, but they're just trying to start a conversation with you and connect to you.

All the more reason it's sad and hurtful when these attempts are met with sneering and being treated like an idiot.

[sarcasticmothwrites]

There are no stupid questions, only assholes providing snarky non-answers. Because aside from the bid for connection or genuine confusion, sometimes there are REASONS why you might get an obvious question.

“Oh, are you cooking?” asks person who thought you were going out tonight.

“Are you leaving?” asks time-blind person who’s surprised it’s 5:00.

“Are you going to lunch?” asks person who remembers there’s a meeting in 30 minutes.

This is where I make my occasional reminder that Emily Post said the reason for manners is to make others comfortable and foster kind, thoughtful human interactions.

[the-haiku-bot]

“Oh, are you cooking?”

asks person who thought you were

going out tonight.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[aurora1040]

Also

Not everyone was taught "common knowledge" or "common sense". They may actually, genuinely not know the thing they are asking. or they may sincerely believe their inaccurate facts. Or they may have a disability which genuinely prevents them from saying or doing things the right way.

Always just assume they are being sincere unless and until they give you a concrete reason for you to think they are being sarcastic or trolling. At worst, you fed the trolls for a minute or two. At best, you helped someone who's education or situation made them have a gap in their knowledge. I think a minute or two of wasted tike is a small price to pay for being potentially helpful to someone who genuinely needs it.

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

@jorality

[jorality]

We know who has all the brain cells

[arsnof]

It makes the dream work

[naamahdarling]

Being smart enough to know when to consult and listen to someone more knowledgeable is in fact quite smart! Many humans cannot manage this!