Ate Pau!! Can I ask for an advice/thoughts about this? Huhu
So I was in an unofficial relationship with someone. 2 years kaming nasa mutual understanding stage kasi ayaw niya pa magcommit and i agreed naman kasi I can't force him if he's not ready.
Tapos last month lang he broke up with me kahit unofficial lang naman kami. His reason was he doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone daw muna. He fell out of love siguro guess ko lang. I was hurt kasi pinatagal niya pa and I was waiting if he could ask me to be his girlfriend.
Tapos ngayon balita ko, may nid-date na siya. Kahit one month palang ng break up namin. I felt like I was emotionally cheated on. Gusto kong magalit sa kaniya pero wala akong karapatan kasi di naman ako naging girlfriend.
I felt sad and hurt because he's become my best friend, too, during that 2 years we were together kahit hindi man official relationship iyon.
Hi bb, i am not sure kung bakit ako yung napili mo iask about this pero thank you for trusting me. Naappreciate ko sobra. Sobrang naiintindihan kita and your feelings are valid, that feeling na you got emotionally cheated on was how i exactly felt a lot of times noon. Tho sabi mo na wala naman talaga “kayo” there was still a connection. That is still considered a relationship para sakin. The fact na may break up means may pinagsamahan kayo.
You are hurt kasi he lied. Hindi na nya sana sinabing ayaw nya talaga ng relationship if he would actually date someone agad agad. Siguro nga naiisip mo na he was already talking to that person habang naguusap pa kayo. Pero, wala narin tayong magagawa e. Baka siguro he found the person na makakapagpabago nung decision na yon, masakit lang na hindi pala ikaw yon.
Wala na tayong kailangan gawin but to accept nalang. Hindi na natin kaya pilitin yung taong piliin tayo kung ayaw na talaga satin. Kasi selfish din yon. Kung di ka pinili, piliin mo sarili mo. I know mahirap to sobra, na kahit ako hirap na hirap paring gawin til now. It’s a process. Unti unti lang, yung can start sa pag accept sa nangyari. It is not necessary to forgive, but it actually helps, siguro kapag kaya mo na, kahit matagal na panahon, mamamalayan mo nalang okay na. Start focusing on yourself, bb.
Siguro kung you still have a lot of questions na gusto mong masagot, you can ask him directly. Just ask para sa ikakapanatag ng loob mo, but sana di na dumating sa point na magbebeg ka din for him to stay, kasi isipin mo na din na he is dating someone new na. Sorry na wala akong masabi or maiadvise na something that could work things out between you two kasi may bago na sya. Mas maiiaadvise kong mas magfocus nalang sa sarili mo and sa healing mo. I am rooting for you, luv! Thank you for sharing this with me. I hope i helped you a bit.
