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Sevika dating an asexual person

I think Sevika is a lesbian (which means no men), and I feel that her ‘type’ is that she really doesn’t have one- for looks at least. I do feel however, that she is much more particular with personality as that is what matters most to her. I think she likes stubborn people, those that really stick to their guns and know how to defend themselves, physically or otherwise. I also think she likes a good bit of dry humor, emotional maturity, and those that are willing to stand for what they believe in. She also likes people who are unashamedly themselves. But, I also think she quite cherishes those that make her insides melt a little by just being sweet to her. In Arcane, she is 40. I think a lot of people forget about that. And, because of her age she wouldn’t want someone who’s a lot younger than her, and she isn’t as crazy about sex anymore (I do think that she got around heavily when she was younger though). At the point in the show that we’re in right now, she goes to the brothel regularly. To me, it's because it is easy for her, she can relieve any pent up stress, and it’s really the only form of relaxation she knows other than drinking, smoking, and gambling. 

And, so, I think that she would date an asexual person. Now, it’s well known that in the Arcane universe people aren’t discriminated against or looked down upon based on their ethnicity/race/sexual or romantic orientation/gender/gender expression, and that the biggest issue has to do with class division. So, we can only assume that the ASPEC community isn’t really looked down upon as that community is queer. Same with AROSPEC people. So, I feel that she wouldn’t care that much, mainly because sex is not her biggest priority when it comes to sharing her life with someone. She would be much more interested in who you are, your values, your beliefs, and how you show your affection versus how sexually active you are. Because being asexual is a spectrum and thus, it’s different for everybody. She is allosexual, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t respect those that aren’t. 

Alright, here are my ideas on how a non sexual romantic relationship would go:

Sevika would appreciate partners who are active in emotional intimacy: being a good listener, actively being interested in what she likes and believes in, taking her as she is but still supporting any healthy changes she wants to implement into her life, allowing her to slowly open up on her own time and never forcing her to share when she doesn’t want to, direct communication, appreciation for who she is, honesty, being able to apologize properly etc.

Sevika doesn’t ever get told she is enough, and I feel that she’d need someone who will validate her struggles and let her know that she is enough and always has been. 

Physical touch, as in: smooches (if said aspec person is comfortable), hugs (this is a big one), cuddling- Let me talk about cuddling real quick. She loves it, but isn’t comfortable with it. She needs to be slowly broken into the idea of cuddling as well as the action itself. That form of vulnerability is new to her. She doesn’t feel vulnerable during sex, but when it’s just laying down with her partner and watching a movie- it’s so new to her, she hasn’t tested the waters quite yet.

Developing interests together as partners, finding movies that are fun to watch together, hobbies that are interactive, parallel play, playing cards with the woman- she would love if her partner plays or learns cards with/from her.

Agreeing on things such as neither marriage nor kids. That last ones a biggie with her. I don’t think she despises kids per say, but she certainly doesn’t want them. I don’t think she likes to share her person (unless it’s a poly relationship, but that is a different conversation) with others that often. Not in a possessive way, but in a way that takes all the attention from her and to someone else, the way that taking care of a child would. And, she would need a partner that understands that, agrees with that, and respects that 

So, a normal relationship. A lot of times people get hung up about how a romantic relationship without sex would go, but this is just one of many things that will likely happen. Asexual people, I feel, are better partners in general because they care more about the personality rather than looks, though this varies from person to person. Also, there are a lot less complications when it comes to relationships without sex, as long as all parties are good communicators and emotionally mature. Have a wonderful day!

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