If you're gay and you use the split attraction model, you aren't a community traitor. You aren't hurting yourself by using what best describes you.
If you're gay and femme? Your life has meaning and value. You aren't dragging the community down by existing. You aren't predatory just for existing.
If you're gay and femme and not white? It's not true that only a white boy would love you. That's bullshit, people saying that aren't the grand Poobah of the community.
If you're gay and butch? You're allowed to exist. The word butch was used for you by the community for generations.
If you're gay and disabled? It's okay if you don't go to pride or gay bars much due to accessibility issues or the noise involved being painful. It doesn't make you less gay. It means you need better spaces to interact with the community.
If you're gay and a teenager? It's okay if your understanding of your sexuality shifts over time. That doesn't make what you feel right now something to be dismissed. You deserve to have a community there for you.
If you're bisexual but you identify more as gay, due to being more attracted to dudes than women or just not engaging in separatism? You're welcome at my table, and I'll defend you against anyone who tries to act otherwise.
If you're technically gay but hate being called gay (preferring homosexual, fag, etc)? Welcome to the club, I don't like it either. It's a word that's got some problems.
If you're trans and gay? Your body isn't gross, and your body parts aren't "mismatched". You aren't desirable in spite of your physical reality and you don't exist only for chasers.
