Dianthian and hydrangian
⚠︎ TW: mentions of trauma, vague mentions of biology, describes what could be misgendering but isn't explicitly stated as such ⚠︎
Dianthian
A term to describe an AMAB nonbinary person who has or desires a feminine gender presentation, and wants to pass as a cis woman. They may have a strong connection to femininity and derive euphoria from their presentation. Their presentation may also be as a coping mechanism to avoid trauma associated with being AMAB/raised as a man.
They don't necessarily use she/her pronouns. They may or may not take estrogen or testosterone blockers, tuck, make their chest larger, be in women's activities/spaces, or legally transition to female. Dianthians do not have a feminine gender identity in any way.
This term may also be used by CTM/raised as men intersex nonbinary people.
The flag has purple for queer experiences, white for being nonbinary, pink for femininity and passing as a cis woman, and dark pink/red for being AMAB/CTM but not a man.
(Flag ID: A flag with 9 horizontal stripes. The stripes are purple, lavender, gray-purple, light pink-gray, light pink, pink, purple-pink, pink-red, and red.)
Inspired by the dianthus barbatus (sweet william) flower, which traditionally symbolizes masculinity but is bright pink. Most people who see this flower without knowing what it is often think of it as a good flower for women. Sometimes this flower will be the color blue. I felt like it represented being AMAB/CTM, but also not being a man, and presenting femininely to the point of passing as a cis woman.
Hydrangian
A term to describe an AFAB nonbinary person who has or desires a masculine gender presentation, and wants to pass as a cis man. They may have a strong connection to masculinity and derive euphoria from their presentation. Their presentation may also be as a coping mechanism to avoid trauma associated with being AFAB/raised as a woman.
They don't necessarily use he/him pronouns. They may or may not take testosterone, pack, make their chest smaller, be in men's activities/spaces, or legally transition to male. Hydrangians do not have a masculine gender identity in any way.
This term may also be used by CTF/raised as women intersex nonbinary people.
The flag has purple for queer experiences, white for being nonbinary, blue for masculinity and passing as a cis man, and dark blue/purple for being AFAB/CTF but not a woman.
(Flag ID: A flag with 9 horizontal stripes. The stripes are purple, lavender, gray-purple, light blue-gray, blue, dark blue, dark blue-gray, blue-purple, and indigo.)
Inspired by the hydrangea macrophylla (bigleaf hydrangea) flower, which traditionally symbolizes femininity but is bright blue. Most people who see this flower without knowing what it is often think of it as a good flower for men. Sometimes this flower will be the color pink. I felt like it represented being AFAB/CTF, but also not being a woman, and presenting masculinely to the point of passing as a cis man.
Hydrangian should not be confused with hydrangean, which is an aesthigender connected to flowers and nature.
Note: a couple days after coining these, I found the terms aboy and agirl, which refer to agender people who like/don't mind being perceived a as boy/girl. Aboy and agirl are both less specific (in terms of AGAB) and more specific (in terms of gender identity) than dianthian and hydrangian. I don't propose classifying the terms together unless it's under the very broad labels of "gender non-conformity" or "nonbinary people presenting as binary".