Not well thought out/written rant below
My sister’s ex husband, who doesn’t even pay rent and does nothing around the house yet has been allowed to live here for over two years, invited three friends over without asking us first. I am stuck hiding in my room b/c I don’t want to be around people that I don’t know but I also really need to go out there and put away dishes in my room/run the dishwasher b/c it hasn’t been run in two days and is super full.
Also if you don’t pay rent you shouldn’t be allowed to have friends over without permission??? (Obvs it’s different if you live with your parents or something like that but a grown man living with his ex wife should ask permission first.)
Also why the fuck this man has friends is beyond me. He is a lazy asshole with no job and whines whenever we ask him to do ANYTHING around the house. A list of things he has complained about being:
- Cleaning the living room. Note that his mattress is on the livingroom floor, the leather on the couch seat where he spends 95% of his day is HARD b/c he sweats so much and he ruined it. There’s plates and cups always left in there from him eating in there. HIs clothes are all over the rest of the couch/floor. There’s trash all around the floor in there.
- Cleaning the stove after he makes one of his super greasy gross meals
-Turning off the portable AC unit when he’s not in there.
- Taking his daughter to/from taekwondo
- fucking SHOWERING. He SMELLS all the fucking time because he won’t shower until TOLD to or if he is going somewhere. And even then he waits until the very last fucking second. I can’t be in the same room as him b/c he smells so bad.
My sister had the guts to kick him out last year. It lasted for 3 weeks. She told me he was coming over one Saturday to hang out with my niece. Cool fine whatever. They were supposed to go to a game shop that day. They spent the whole day in the kitchen playing MTG. He asked to spend the night so they can go in the morning. Skeptical but whatever. I get home from work the next day, he’s still there. Sister asks if he can stay until Monday because he got a job interview. I don’t like it but whatever. Monday comes, I’m off work that day. I wake up at noon, he’s still there. “When is your interview?” “Oh it’s an open interview anytime today through Thursday.” I tell my sister that he’s taking advantage of us. She ignores me. HE NEVER FUCKING WENT TO AN INTERVIEW AND HE’S STILL HERE. HE HASN’T HAD A JOB SINCE HE’S BEEN HERE. HE OFFERS NOTHING BENEFICIAL TO THIS HOUSE. My sister is too fucking chicken shit to kick him out. I think she’s worried her daughter will hate her if she kicks him out, but like, so what? Your daughter won’t hate you for that. She’s going to end up hating you b/c you aren’t taking her ADHD diagnosis seriously and you treat her like shit/constantly yell at her for shit she has no control over. You know how I know she has no control over it? Because I went undiagnosed for 23 years and I had to deal with the same shit from both you AND our mother. I mean rest her soul but my mom was a fucking maniac. Maybe if you did some research on the disorder like I suggested you could figure out ways to HELP and ENCOURAGE your kid instead of yelling at her because she put the big pot away in the wrong cupboard???
Jeez this went from a John hate post to a Sarah hate post. Whatever I hate them both.
I’m defo. not mentally prepared to be a parent but I’ve definitely fantasized about being financially stable and taking custody of my niece and watching her fucking grow up and thrive in my care b/c I’ve done and continue to do research on ADHD and have dealt with the same fucking type of parents she has.
I just
On the bright side I’m going to stay with my boyfriend again for a couple weeks on Thursday.
I spent like 3 months at his place during most of quarantine but a bit over a month ago I came home to do some house sitting jobs. I knew that I’d have these problems once I came home but I did it anyway b/c money. I’m very excited to get out of here again Q.Q
