thanks for rec’ing “top or bottom: how do we desire?”!! I really enjoyed it and learned a lot. def something i’ll recommend to people
oh yay! I’m glad you enjoy it! I read it for the first time a few years ago and it expressed a lot of feelings and ideas that I’d been rolling around so deftly and subtly. They discuss racial politics, sex as commodity, the top as brute, class conflict. It’s such a rich text. The interlocutors are so incisive and poetic, as well, there are so many lines that really strike me. It feels like if everyone read it, we could move on in the discourse, and I feel like I’ve been seeing a lot of discourse about sexual roles recently, so it’s been top of mind for me.
Ultimately, I think queers who complain about a top shortage are usually people who’ve written themselves into social roles that exclude the kind of sex they want and who refuse their agency in doing so. Or they’re trying to wheel and deal about it, to have their desires met without making changes in their own lives or accepting the compromise of social position that would come from immersion in a world where people actually fuck.
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what can I say! What else can I say!!
