#infantilized

[howifeltabouthim]

In some sense, I was ancient, aged by terrible conversations and the tedium of six months in a hospital room. In another, I was stranded in childhood. I could not drive, I could not travel, I could not be trusted.

Abigail Dean, from The Death of Us

[ace-culture-is]

Ace culture is getting real sick and tired of the infantilization from others. Yes I like kids movies cuz I don’t have to worry about being triggered by a sex scene but if you talk to me like a 5 year old and act condescending one more time Ilo start swinging

[the-traumaa]

I could recognize that I infantilize myself especially when I am upset or tired as a way to get affection because my trauma makes me feel like I have to be younger and smaller than everyone else to be wanted and loved or I could say “I’m babey” and call it a day.

[ace-culture-is]

Ace culture is being annoyed at your friends baby-ing you.

[ednygmasbowlerhat]

Ok internet I need help. I’m autistic and the only neurodivergent kid of 3. I’m graduating from university with both a bachelors and masters in civil engineering that I did both of in 4 years flat at a top school. I got a job to start after I graduate that’s paying me 75k in my first year, so I’d say I’m doing well for myself and growing up, especially since I did just turn 22 and have been on my own at school for 4 years and was able to get a job that will pay me enough to support myself months before even graduating. The job I have (which is lowkey my dream position and I’m super hype) is like a 10 minute drive from my parents house, both of which are on Long Island. I said to my parents that I want to start looking at apartments in queens or great neck so I could be close to the city but also close to work, which would only be like 20 minutes from my parents. I said I want to move in right after graduation so I don’t have to get used to being at home and then going to move because every year when I come back to school leaving my parents house is really hard and I know at this point what is good for me and I even talked to my therapist about it. My dad was immediately like “no you’re moving home. You can’t handle all of this at once. Move home and then in a few years you could think about moving to your own place once we know you can handle a job without having to also take care of yourself.” I’ve taken care of myself and lived off campus for 2 years and I just feel super infantilized and don’t know what to do. It’s also like another layer that I’m queer and closeted and I wouldn’t be able to date if I’m living in my parents house. idk maybe I’m over reacting but it was never even an option for either of my siblings to live at home like this. I’m a middle child but my parents give my younger brother more independence than I get. He just went to the DR with his frat brothers but my dad still calls me every day to make sure I remembered to eat vegetables. I love that my parents care, but I’m an adult. When my older sister graduated college, it was never an option for her to live at home, not that they’d have kicked her out, but they knew she had a job and was making enough money to live on her own so she didn’t need to be coddled. In fact, they let her move to DC for a while without batting an eye. I know that I’m disabled and my siblings aren’t, but I’m still an adult who happens to be very smart and capable. Idk if this is a rant or a plea for advice. I just feel like my dad doesn’t trust me with myself. Also for reference, I have a mom and my parents are married but I’m way closer with my dad and my mom has actively avoided these conversations and told me to go to my dad. She and I fight a lot because we’re just so opposite, so like my dad is my primary parent I guess if that’s a thing. Anyway I just feel super infantilized and idk what to do about that.

[thechamberofsecrets]

infantilized replied to your post: Am sure you will be fine :-) what did you apply for?

IM A HOSTESS LEMME GIVE YOU POINTERS

OMFG SERIOUSLY CAN YOU PLEASE