As an INFP, I feel that many many times, I am the one that spend most of her time, her heart and her soul giving. It’s true, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I like the way I am, but sometimes it does get tiring when it is always coming from one side and you are the one giving all the time. Then I personally get my feelings hurt when someone doesn’t show me the same consideration as I did to them. Though I know I consider, think and care too much at times.
But, when someone shows me the same consideration and kindness, or like takes care of me in some way little way, I just melt and that person has my respect and sometimes my heart.
For example, I have an ENFJ friend, that instead of making me drive all the time, she drives. I know that sounds so trivial, but she knows I usually do the driving for others so she wants me to be able to just relax and takes the burden off.
Or my friend that took notice when I said my hands were cold, so he took them and warmed them for me. Or the one that buys me pumpkin things because I am obsessed with pumpkin stuff, so anytime she sees pumpkin spice coffee syrup or pumpkin pie or anything like that, she picks it up for me because she knows it will just make me happy.
For me, it never takes much. I don’t need the most expensive things, nor the biggest flashiest new device/car/toy. All I want is to know that in the end, you have heart, caring and compassion for me. That, in a way, that person was willing to put me first and care enough to do something that took a little more thought and effort. It is the greatest feeling in the world. I don’t like to be catered to or given special treatment. I don’t expect it either and it actually makes me uncomfortable. That isn’t my lot in life, to be served or put up on high in anything. Rather show me respect and heart that you would treat yourself. That shows me more than anything who you are and the color of your soul.
