#internalized transphobia

[nililihim]

sexy kinger

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[boybeetles]

I keep seeing people say “it’s impossible to misgender yourself” and tbh it’s not true, and I think continuously repeating that is going to make it hard for others to do introspection on how they describe their gender and their relation to the social construct of sex.

I see this most in conversations about trans man lesbians. While I’m supportive of trans man lesbians who are lesbian bc of non-binary/gender weird reasons. There is a non-zero amount of trans men who call themselves lesbians not for gender reasons but instead because they define their sexuality by sex assignment. Defining lesbianism not as queer attraction to women, but instead as a label for people who were (c)afab being attracted to people who were (c)afab. They see themselves not as men, but instead just as ‘females’ and they believe in the sex binary. I think these people have internalized transphobia and are misgendering themselves, and would benefit greatly from doing introspection on how they define their gender and sexuality.

This is also the same for nonbinary people putting their (c)asab in their bio, those trans women who call themselves ‘male’/‘male women’, those trans guys who call themselves ‘female/female men’, some trans women who call themselves gay/gay men, etc. etc. instead of defining themselves by who they are now, they are defining themselves by their assigned sex.

Internalized transphobia is so common, and I think the best way to fight it is to encourage people to think about how they define their gender and going “are you defining yourself by who you are now, or by what a doctor assigned you when you were born?” instead of hand waving it and going “do whatever you want forever!”

[peteytheparrot]

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[ravenlynclemens]

my terf experience

[rbremington]

“Ew!!! The side effects of testosterone are so gross!!!”

Maybe you just don’t want to medically transition… stop demonizing it for other trans folks.

[greycoloredhounds]

i totally believe in trans will byers but im also a huge connoisseuir of trans mike wheeler and just t4t byler in general

i think mike would figure himself out rather quickly in terms of gender around 13-14 but by no means do i think he'd be anything but turbulent

he'd totally subscribe to toxic masculinity esp with his relationship with jane. he'd drain himself of all his energy keeping up with this idea of 'the perfect boyfriend' and just be spurred on by following in lucas and dustin's footsteps with their girlfriends as well. and he'd always feel this need to 'keep up' with the other boys because he think there's something he needs to prove

he'd also be really restrictive in things he'd allow himself to do and say. especially when it comes to his feelings for will. because will's a boy. mike knows and sees him as a boy and mike can't have feelings for him because thats something that girls do.

which of course i think is another angsty plot line because i think of trans will constantly battling with the feeling of 'if i could just make myself okay with being a girl then he'd like me' even though being a girl makes him uncomfortable

AND thinking of the s3 rain fight breaks my heart because mike would be projecting his same feelings about what the rules a boy. a man. is supposed to adhere to and how neither of them can follow it as he shouts "it's not my fault you don't like girls!"

anyways yeah internalized homophobia + internalized transphobia is a deadly combo..

[shamebats]

Posting stuff about hrt & medical transition on here is rewarding & I get just so many positive reactions from ppl which is why I'm doing it & will keep doing it but man do some ppl feel comfortable writing entire essays about why T isn't for them & listing all the ugly men traits it gives you that they would hate to have...on posts of trans ppl being visibly & openly very happy with their medical transition. I don't think it'd be productive to confront them bc I think that's something you only do when you have a lot of internal work left to do & I'm not exactly mad at them. I just wish they they'd keep those thoughts for their own posts, their diary or perhaps their therapist.

PSA: Talking at length about how much you'd hate it if you looked like a trans man on a trans guy's post is, in fact, quite rude.

[guyevic]

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