“Maybe If You Stopped Trying It Would Happen”
I don’t think there is a sentence I hate more.
I don’t think I have ever heard more flawed logic than this. You don’t get that football scholarship without trying hard and getting good grades. You don’t get that promotion without proving you have what it takes. You don’t win the lottery without buying a ticket.
So why would I, someone diagnosed with infertility, suddenly get that bundle of joy when we stopped trying? Not focusing on it isn’t going to make me ovulate better. Not trying isn’t going to get anything fertilized (I mean, we have to TRY to even have the possibility of that happening, I’m not the Virgin Mary.)
Our pregnancy has a 2% of happening naturally according to our fertility clinic. Two. Percent. And that’s with trying.
And to be honest, after 3 years we are tired of trying. I am tired of ovulation tests, I am tired of temperature checks, we are tired of losing the fun of intimacy. I am tired of being left to symptom spot, get my hopes up, and then ultimately be let down.
We’re ready to move on to IVF. Which we have been told bumps our chances up to 50% per embryo. I like those odds a heck of a lot better. And we only get those odds with trying.