FINALLY got around to watching that ‘Debunking Transphobia’ video on YouTube by jasperdasper which I had seen recommended somewhere or other. I might have to go back and rewatch +take notes bc that was, you know, 5 hrs of pretty dense info but honestly the thing that stuck with me most was how good jasperdasper was at not talking about himself while talking about something else.
I'm not exactly sure how to explain what I mean. He did talk about himself sometimes -- his reactions to certain findings, his research process, his own gender identity --- the video wasn't impersonal or just the facts. But there's a certain way some people on the internet have of subtly inserting themselves into non-them-related subjects that he notably did not engage in. When he talked about conversion therapy, abuse, medical discrimination, etc, he showed disgust, but his disgust never took center stage. His handling of darker topics never came off to me as trauma porn, or sensationalized, or anything tailored to entertain a cisgender audience.
Jasperdasper himself is cisgender, but his discussion of trans people/issues/culture was fluid and confident. He spoke like an insider, if that makes sense; he never drew excessive attention to the fact that he wasn't through clumsy or outdated wording. Nor did he heap praise on himself for being such a good ally, or try to distance himself from other cisgender people, or self-deprecate for his cisgender-ness. If he was ever uncomfortable with anatomical/sexual terminology, he didn't show it.
And he never gave a reason, really, for why he did all this research. To my knowledge, trans rights aren't any more of a pressing issue for him than they are for any cis person. He just did it, I guess, because he felt it needed to be done.
Anyway, great video, def recommend watching