#jonxygritte

[thefifthmarauder02]

Love is the death of duty

Duty is the death of love

[absolute-hulk-jizz]

Jon Snow is a bottom.

[fedonciadale]

need Sansa's love and would probably find her lacking compared to his previous lovers. Meanwhile no matter how disillusioned Sansa is she will always deep down want a loving marriage and with nothing to compare it too except, Ramsay and possibly Sandor. It would be different if UCL is true and Jon has been in love with Sansa this whole time, unfortunately I'm starting to think the show will just not go there. Even if UCL were true, lets not pretend it was a great difficulty for Jon to sleep with

(2) with the most beautiful woman in the world nor would it be so easy for him to forget her, she is now constantly part of his thoughts just like Ygritte. While Sansa has Ramsay and Littlefinger, I just what I’m saying is as it stands Sansa is the vulnerable party in their union and honestly Jon isn’t that deserving. I just want better for her, it would be nice if for once Sansa were to have a relationship with a decent man other then Jon. If she were someones first choice not second or third       

(3) (fourth if you count Val in the books) but it seems Sansa story arc has her destined to attract the scum. It’s like by falling for Jofferey she must be punished and doomed herself. I actually think Sansa saying she will never marry for love was her prophesying her future. Perhaps thats her tragedy, she’ll never find true love and even the love she’ll develop with Jon in the future will forever be tainted by Ygritte and D@ny.  

Dear nonny, it looks like a tumblr glitch ate your first post…. But I think I get the gist of it. A) you fear that it might be difficult for Sansa because she has only known shitty men and B) you fear that Jon's former love life might get in the way. To which I would answer the following : Love and Sex is complicated as hell. There are several kinds of attractions and love and they all come into play when it comes to a successful relationship. To name a few. Aesthetic attraction: You simply find that someone looks good Sexual attraction: You find someone hot (this is of course influenced by your sexuality) Intellectual attraction : You find someone is sharp and witty af. For lack of a better word: Soul attraction: You find yourself in tune with another person, you like the same things you share opinions, which leads to you constantly wanting to share everything with that person.Opposite attraction (again for lack of a better word): You see that the other person has characteristics that compliment yours and that make you a perfect team)This list is of course not exhaustive, but you get my meaning. Many of our meaningful relationships are based on some of the mentioned attractions and this is of course one of the reasons why sex and love are not the same. We are able to love without feeling sexual attraction for example, we are able to feel sexually attracted without even thinking that the person in question is nice least of all loving the other person.So, imho the potential of Jonsa lies in the fact that they tick several of the boxes in the possible attraction department - a very good basis for a solid long-lasting and caring relationship. Imho that is not lessened by the fact that at least Jon had other relationship that involved sex, nor is this hindered by the fact that Sansa was raped. It is possible to have a very meaningful love without sexual fullfillment. I know a married couple where he is an ace (or almost) and although she admits that she doesn't get enough sex, their relationship tops many married couples I know. Not that I think that this is Jon's and Sansa's case. Jon loved Ygritte, but Ygritte is dead and there is nothing Jon can do with that love. And there was after all very little basis for them to work in the long run. Jon might have had a crush on Val in the books - a mixture of aesthetic and sexual attraction. Nevertheless by the end of ADWD he is keenly aware that Val is not compatible to him. I would also argue that Jon is attracted to Satin - And as far as we know him in the books he would be a better match than Val. As for Da€nerys I would argue that there isn't even more than average sexual attraction a man might feel towards a beautiful woman. She doesn't tick the other boxes. But even if she did, that would only complicate Jonsa, not prevent it. We might think that it is incredibly romantic that someone pines after his dead love for decades, but in reality this is not how humans function. We move on, and we have a need for meaningful relationships - of several kinds and simultaneously. So, even if Jon was in love with D and she dies it would not mean that a Jonsa marriage is doomed. We work on our relationships, and since Jon and Sansa are perfect for each other it should work out just fine. Not that I think that this is what will happen. I don't think that Jon will mourn D like he mourned Ygritte, nor do I think that there will be any long-term effects of his crush on Val. If my hunch is right and we will see Shireen's death in ADWD and Val having a hand in it this will destroy Jon's crush soon enough, as for Satin, I don't think he is aware of his attraction - which is no surprise given that he lives in a society that seems not that open. As for Da€nerys I think that Jon will feel relief and regret at the same time, if she dies - preferably a Gollum death. My headcanon is that Jon will feel an occasional pang when he thinks of Ygritte for the fact that she might have lived. Nothing wrong with that. I have no doubt that Sansa will be Jon's first choice once the time comes, but even if she weren't thus would not necessarily mean perpetual unhappiness.You know what really bugs me about Jon€rys shippers who scream at us, that Jon and D are canon because of boatb@ng. Sex and love are more complicated than that, and I would argue that the only thing that is canon as things stand now is that Jon€rys had sex.Regarding Sansa you have to talk with GRRM himself. He decided to insert her into the Beauty and the Beast trope (compare @lady-in-a-song's metas on this) and give her one beast after the other until she meets Jon again, the real beast and the real Prince. I don't think that for a relationship to work both have to have had the exact same numbers of former partners or the same amount of experience. Relationships are not static and what Jon and Sansa will do with the excellent basis they have will probably not be depicted in the show, although I hope for a glimpse into the future in an epilogue.You know maybe it's my age, but I don't care about how many relationships Jon and Sansa has before nor how many times they had sex. After all they still think that they can't be together in that sense, so it's not as if boatb@ng was a betrayal. I also would actually dislike them having no other meaningful relationships like Jon 's friendship with Sam, hopefully Sansa's friendship with Mya Stone, their love for their children, the sibling banter with Arya.. Etc. I want them to have it all and live for decades in a happy marriage that will have its occasional downs like any marriage. That would be realistic.Thanks for the ask!   

[adela-en-el-carrusel]

Do you remember that cave? We should have stayed in that cave. 

[ygrittesfire]

My heart is where it snows...

@lordcommanndersnow

[ygrittesfire]

Where is my @lordcommanndersnow

[wewillgobackthere-blog]

—Source: Ronan: Taylor Swift

[cleromancy]

Okay, but Sisky. Which if any of the throne characters would sing Hopelessly Devoted when they are being melodramatic shits and to who?? (Also Summer Nights... who is lying about their summer when they were really a nerd in love?)

oh god lmao if jon is sandy that makes ygritte danny and i jfklshdsgjsdgshdg i mean i can see it. i Can. for both songs. like................ oh my god bye i cant do this.