#kae rants

[alittlemxchievous]

As I'm getting back into the swing of things with domming again I keep running into the same frustration.

So many online Subs seem to think that doms are just sex dispensers. They don't consider what will make the Dom feel good. They just want their fantasies fulfilled and then they stop engaging.

There are plenty of problematic Doms online, but the kink community does not hold Subs to the same standards.

In a scene the Dom and Sub should both be accountable for consent and for the content of the scene. You can't just use each other and toss one another to the side.

[h2833662]

(// mentions of wilbur soot , /neg rant )

probably not an awesome idea to rant publicly about it but. i saw moot talk about this and honestly i am really missing the community behind w*lbur/tnt/ccrime like that was where i thrived and i felt safe. which is so bad because i swear to GOD that was on purpose to lure in younger mentally unstable people into one place 😭😭😭 in no means am i saying i would like to go back to being oblivious though , ultimately im growing as a person as a result of this loss …..

to be completely frank ive always seperated c from cc but i think drawing him kind of icks me out a lot more than say, cdream or cschlatt, because i dont really care about either of those ccs. i did care a lot more about cw*lbur than the real one because i was more passionate about the C because. writing is a form of art and im passionate about the art of character development ! (yes i say that even when i had an album of all the pictures i had of him in my photo gallery which totaled to almost 2k until yeah. its bad i know 😭 yes im starting therapy soon) and ctntduo is a big factor because they are the most important out of all to me, i was very intrigued by them because of their dynamics, literally everything is ctnt to me……….. i guess it can become a cdiscduo situation?? but for now im disgusted by even thinking of c!w, i keep saying this but i can only give it time

im slowly moving closer to ctommy and cquackity and other fandoms like splatoon more now though and you will see a lot more of them, it’s embarrassing to dwell on something like this and i can acknowledge this isnt about me but at the same time i can understand why im having such a hard time with this shift in my mindset, and i am genuinely mourning and grieving for a part of me and my identity as an artist that is kind of tainted and basically gone. a lot of media and art is about to become/has become lost to time which is even sadder

all to say if i do eventually draw him again, which im not sure about, designs will be changed, just wont be using tags like “w*lbursootfanart”. dsmp has long been dead and the creators do not profit off of me drawing the characters (which frankly most of the time dont even look like the creators). 99% sure people outside the fandom will never go watch present day ccs because of their c!s and art of it. that’s qsmp’s job

anyways wilbur soot should jump and he WILL be facing karma for his actions 💗 i cant believe men like him have the guts to hurt the most kindhearted people without remorse

[bitterblackboricua]

if youre gonna make or talk about a bisexual, pansexual and polysexual thing could you like remember to also make or talk about an omnisexual thing 

if youre gonna make or talk about a bisexual, pansexual and omnisexual thing could you like remember to also make or talk about a polysexual thing 

if youre gonna make or talk about an mspec thing at all could you like remember to make or talk about all the mspec identities because there arent that many and its really not that hard 

[euphxmia-pxtter-blog]

Identity Rant

Damn, do you ever just suddenly realized that you've drifted so far away from important aspects of your identity? Like, they're things I still care about, but somewhere along the path of depression and mental disorder I just... stopped thinking about it. I dunno if it's that borderline 'unstable sense of self' or if I just avoided the world so hard that I avoided myself, but I'm honestly really pissed at myself right now. When people say "Who are you?" I've been answering, "I'm a writer", "I'm a fandom geek," "I'm disordered." Sometimes (again, identity confusion) I feel like I am something that I realize I never was, something that I cling to for a little while because I want to feel like I'm /something/, but I somehow forget that the real me Is. Still. There. I'm a biracial girl, and that means something to me. Black history means something to me, is a part of me, and I just forget? I'm a Jew, if only culturally. All through my childhood, I went to Hebrew School. I had a bat mitzvah. I was in Junior Choir. I was even a teacher's aide for two years. I love the holidays and traditions and songs and history and the feeling of unity and family. That means something to me. That means a LOT to me. And I forget? How? There's more, too. There's so much about me that I just disregard. I 'forget' that I love standing in the rain, arms out, head thrown back, feeling free. I 'forget' that I love the smell of new books and I could spend hours in the bookstore even if I didn't have any money because it just feels right. I 'forget' that I loved going out to tea at a fancy little place with my grandmother and cousin when we visit. I 'forget' that the color turquoise makes me smile and having fresh flowers in the house seems to take a lot of the bad energy away. I 'forget' so much because of my mental struggles, and it honestly makes me so angry.

[alittlemxchievous]

A reminder. I'm not a crossdresser. I am not a sissy. I am not a transvestite.

I am a transgender woman.

I am a kinky bitch, but I am not your fetish. If you can't get that, then leave me the fuck alone.

[alittlemxchievous]

I have had so many subs tell me that doms give them shit for being too eager. What the fuck is wrong with these wannabe online doms!!!

You have a sub that is eager and wants to please you? That's the best fucking part!!! Give me those sluts that know how to listen and are eager to serve.

If those doms don't want eager sluts, that just means there is more for me.

[alittlemxchievous]

Can you discuss what you mean by "ethical financial domination"?

Gladly! There is a lot of findom that, in my opinion, crosses the line from play to genuine financial manipulation and abuse.

I consider a Findom session to be the same as any other paid custom work. I discuss budget as part of the boundaries. I make sure that I meet that budget if not take less than budgeted.

I then create a scene or scenario. Since the draw for finsubs is sending the money, I have them send multiple small payments to progress the scene. "Send me $X for the privilege of playing with me", "Send me $X for permission to touch yourself", or "Send me $X for permission to cum". I incorporate the kink into the session and scenario. Some times the scene will include other kinks the sub is interested in engaging it.

I often will send newds, lewds, or audio commands to create a more compelling experience. I want my finsubs to feel good about themselves for having played with me. I am always sure to provide aftercare, unless specifically informed that they do not want aftercare.

Again. This is a service. This is no different then buying feet pics or paying for phone sex. (Both of which I'm down to do if any one wants to. DM me we will talk about pricing. Always in that grind.)

One of the things I am most proud of is being a safe Findom for trans and queer people. There are a lot of overlaps between findoms and more bigoted and abusive kinks (sissy play, misgendering kink, ect). I only engage in predetermined safe kinks. I won't let my finsubs give more than they can financially handle. If it's their money for food or for gas then they don't get to give it to me. Safety and consent are my biggest priorities.

Thank you for the question. I have been. Really wanting to talk about this.

[alittlemxchievous]

Had a few too many people harassing me for my taste, so I'm turning off anons and I'm making messages follow only until this blows over.