#kc posting

[nuclearscheme]

Have you ever seen a bell pepper before

isnt that the song by spice girls?

[pikmin2apologist]

since im pikmin posting now...... here is the pikmin bucket hat that i crocheted by hand!! im so proud of it (and yes i will be wearing it all day friday hee hee). if u want to see a video with a couple more angles, here's a link to my insta post about it! i am just so happy w/ how this came out hee hee

[crossroads-system]

Just a few reminders:

1. Plurality exists and has always existed far beyond the narrow scope of a colonial medicalized lense. Denying/Ignoring/Invalidating cultural/spiritual/Indigenous knowledge and presentations of plurality is inherently racist.

2. Not everyone who experiences plurality has or meets the criteria for CDD/DID/OSDD.

3. Having separate/multiple altered states of consciousness alone does not meet the criteria for a DID/OSDD diagnosis.

4. The ICD itself mentions forms of non disordered plurality within the section of the boundaries with normality threshold.

5. Claiming to know more about someone's lived experience than they do does not make someone an advocate. It makes them an ass. Especially if said experience is mainly/largely an internal experience.

[crossroads-system]

I've seen a few new, very aggressive anti-nondisordered plurality blogs pop up over the last week. Going out of their way to post anti crap in inclusive plural spaces. So I just want to remind everyone that:

No one knows you better than you.

No one knows what you're going through/experiencing better than you do.

There is no 'definitive 1000% way' to 'prove' someone is a system or not. It is a largely internal and subject experience. And that's absolutely ok.

You do not need other people's permission to exist.

You do not need to prove yourself/selves to others.

Your system's origins no matter what they are do not make you more or less of a systems.

You DO NOT have to relive or reveal any trauma/s you have suffered to prove your validity. And anyone who asks you to do so does not have your well-being in mind.

You aren't harming anyone by talking about your lived experience and seeking community with others that understand.

You are a human being who is deserving of respect and kindness.

Respect and kindness of someone else's lived experience SHOULD NOT be contingent on if they can scrounge up articles or peer reviewed studies on if an extremely personal experience is valid or not.

Over medicalization and pathologation of plurality as a whole is rooted in racism and colonialization.

Do not let others act as if they get to dictate who you are and what you experience. The only reliable witness/s to the inner workings of your own mind are those who reside in it. No one else can tell you how you think or what your internal experiences are.

(And its bonkers that some people try)

To any and everything system and plural out there regardless of origin:

You are amazing.

You are valid.

The world is a better place for having you in it.

[crossroads-system]

So anyway. Some of the biggest steps we took on our healing journey were:

1. Finding a culturally competent therapist. I cannot tell you the absolute game changer that was. FOURTEEN YEARS of therapy on and off with predominantly white therapists who couldn't understand how race and ethnicity played into my trauma lead to very little progress. And frankly, inappropriate takes and comments. Our first therapist who came from a similar culture and could actually identify those connections lead to more understanding and healing in the first few months than the previous fourteen fucking years. Seriously. Culturally competent therapist are a god sent.

2. Was reconnecting with our tribe and learning from our medicine person. Just having conversations about the place of plurality within our specific culture and the roles it plays truly helped us move past alot of lingering dissociative barriers. It's also reshaped how we interact with each other and has brought with it a sense of harmony we struggled to maintain beforehand.

One of these days we may share a more nuanced explanation of the second point but don't feel like it right now.

[crossroads-system]

The over medicalization of plurality is harmful.

Fakeclaiming of systems that differ from your own is harmful.

Questioning the validity of systems with good communication or few disruptive traits (i.e. dissociation, dissociative amnesia, memory blocks) is fucking harmful.

The hyper/sole focus on how traits of Dissociative Identity Disorder can be a burden is harmful.

Claiming only disordered systems are valid is harmful.

Truly I don't understand how others don't see it. The DID part of the plurality community in particular is so focused on proving that other systems suffer and that the suffering is what makes you truly DID that they completely forget to ask themselves what a systems might look like after they've healed or worked past dissociative barriers. So much surrounding syscourse is so fixated on providing your trauma was severe enough or that your life is disrupted enough to qualify as a system to others. But what about systems who've healed?

Syscourse is so quick to call functional systems fake that it seems like many truly believe you can't have multiplicity without being severely disordered. Not only is that categorically not true but it perpetuates the idea that you can never heal. That you can never overcome the symptoms of DID that are most disruptive. That you can't find harmony or equilibrium with your system.

Systems can heal from their trauma. Systems can coexist in harmony. Plurality DOES NOT need to be painful. Functional multiplicity is real and attainable.

Plurality is not inherently disordered.

I could go on but I don't want to write a book. Open to questions, comments, etc.

[crossroads-system]

Its simple and a bit stiff but I'm happy with how this tuned out.

[crossroads-system]

Ok I've been told by my system mates that I've harped on the 'plurality isn't inherently disordered' train for enough posts in a row 😅 That isn't what this blog was supposed to be centered on. We'll go back to posting nonsense about our system now. Maybe we'll share some system art or something idk. Apparently I'm being 'too confrontational'.