Can we know a little more about the issues with Z, I've been talking to him for a few months and was supposed to meet soon but now I'm scared as I don't know what's gone on 🥺
Yeah sure.
He lied to and about multiple women (myself included) and tried to deliberately pit us against each other to cause jealousy and competition to try to make us all compete and beg for his attention. He did not care how much that was mentally affecting the people involved with him, he cared only about his ego.
He lied/manipulated/gaslit/deflected when issues were raised to him by any of us making communicating issues futile. He continues to lie/manipulate/gaslight and defect by claiming all of our collective complaints are just “misunderstandings” or “miscommunications” instead of owning the fact he’s behaved atrociously and been caught the fuck out.
He pushed the boundaries of many of us. From pestering and pestering about meets to degrading people’s partners there was an obvious pattern of him not listening when told “no” or “don’t do that”
He has an extremely unsafe approach to meets. He does not get STD checked between partners and relies on the clear results of someone else from at least four fucks ago and considers that safe and sufficient. He also engages in hard kinks with no safety plan in place. He will have to leave any meet at a certain time to go home so if an emergency was to happen towards the end for example… you’d just be left to it. There’s at least one occasion where someone has travelled many hours to meet him and then been left stranded alone in an unfamiliar city until the early hours of the morning due to transport issues and him just leaving her there to go home so he doesn’t arise suspicion.
I could go on but that’s the v v v watered down gist of it.












