So im thinking about that post about the fujoshi interest in the externality and visibility of genitals. And I think that's part of it, but another big part is the inaccessibility. That yes, you can see that someone is hard, and just straight up grab that.
But at the same time, I rarely see frantic scrambling for each other's pants in WLW content when I cross paths with some. There's a sense that there's a closedness, an inaccessibility to the penis that's sociologically projected onto masculinity itself. That the emotional internality is, to a viewer who herself is getting off on the interaction of others and on the impossibility of her (current, familiar) understanding of their own sensory experience (see What Is It Like To Be A Bat, Thomas Nagel).
It also seems to me that this internality/externality, distance/closeness collapsing of dichotomies is itself an extension of the self-as-tool idea, as posited by Cuntess (sic) Eden Roxanne Boochie Flagrante's seminal blog post (2012).
Tbh i really just want variety; that's alot of the appeal to lots of my kinks. Things like transformation, forcefem, forcemasc, intox, cnc, hypnosis, forced intimacy, magic stuff... whether I'm submissive and it's the surprise and variety in what's happening to my mind, to my body, or I'm dominant and it's in getting to see how someone reacts to the changes in their body and behavior. Both are fun! And fun—including from exploring discomfort—is what I like doing all this for, is the point of my gender for me really.
Notes: Yes, yes please. I would like to be restrained and helpless, yes please Sir.
Maybe it's my inner pillow princess but I like the idea of not having to move. My only job is to sit still and let Sir do whatever they want. Throw a little shibari if you want and tie me up in whatever way makes me look pretty.
I’ve cracked the case of relationships. It’s like tu and usted in Spanish: you must choose respect/distance or disrespect/familiarity. For both the insults and the trivializing/objectifying compliments, rudeness is the point: that’s the ultimate thing you couldn’t do to a stranger.
Helpful thing I found on this topic:
If my theory is correct, everyone should enjoy different types of objectification. For example, monogamous people are into ownership.
Personally, I like inertness and instrumentality, and LOVE denial of subjectivity, so much so that I sometimes use it/its pronouns on the internet just for a taste of that sweet sweet people-assuming-I-don’t-have-feelings.
this is the autism stereotype holy shit. doesn’t say great things about how society treats autistic people.
(Aww, Lee is such a vanilla cutie pie, but he has some kinks hidden in there that can be brought out by the right person. Let’s take a look!)
(N-sfw under cut~)
Turn ons –
Praise kink – This is definitely Lee’s biggest kink. Nothing makes him as happy as receiving compliments from the people he loves, so when his partner tells him how good he’s doing in bed, it makes it tummy all fuzzy and warm. He also dishes out compliments with enthusiasm, constantly lavishing his alpha with compliments in and out of bed. Nothing makes a relationship as romantic as genuine compliments according to him. Lee is very much a service sub, so getting compliments about how good he’s making his alpha feel, turns him on so much!
Different positions – Lee is very flexible and excitable in bed, so he likes to try multiple positions every session, it’s exciting for him! He is always down for a new position, and he’s very good at laughing off any awkwardness that can come from new things like that. Sometimes he gets all giddy with anticipation when he has a new position in mind but he has to wait for some alone time with his partner, it’s very adorable.
Size queen – To say that Lee likes a challenge would be an understatement. For that reason, he’s always drawn to big toys (but he’ll never buy them for himself). He’s too embarrassed/doesn’t know enough to bring this up or ask for it, but when presented with big toys, his competitive nature flares up and he gets very excited. He can definitely take it! Yosh!
Cross dressing – Just a little bit of crossdressing is something Lee enjoys, although he doesn’t like feminisation. Skirts are something he likes, he just enjoys feeling beautiful and getting compliments from his alpha, not the mention the skirt is very convenient. It’s not something he wants all the time, but occasionally, he enjoys it.
Turn offs –
‘Mean’ kinks – Any degradation, pain play, etc. He hates that, why would he want his beautiful and perfect love to be mean to him?? He lives for romance and sickening pet names in sex, and he is kind of worried when he finds out that some people like that sort of thing because he thinks they’re being abused in some way. His alpha has to explain to him what that sort of sex is, and while he grows to understand logically, he doesn’t ever want to try it himself.
Any restraints – Lee is full of energy and a very eager and active lover, so when he’s tied down, he doesn’t like it. Lee is very much a service sub, so being restrained removes a lot of what he loves from sexual relations with his partner. He likes to be free to love his alpha.
Sex outside of the bedroom – Lee likes romantic sex that’s kept only between him and his partner, that’s how he thinks a relationship should work. So, sex in public, sex with others, semi-public sex… that’s not something he would ever do. He doesn’t even like having sex in other rooms in his house. He would never have sex in the kitchen or the living room, and he would rather not have sex in the bathroom. The bedroom is where he likes to keep things.
Hair pulling – It’s a pretty normal thing to include in sex, but Lee hates it. His scalp is very sensitive, and it feels likes being stabbed with lots of little needles when his hair is pulled. If his partner gets it caught by accident then it’s not a big deal, he has a very high pain tolerance after all, but doing it on purpose really turns him off.
HI IM THE ONE THAT REQUESTED THE SUNGJIN THING KSJSJS NVM CAN YOU DO HIM A KINK ANALYSIS PLS THAT MAN'S RASPY VOICE HAS ME ON THE FLOOR
a/n: hi baby! i can do both if you want i don’t mind ;) but yes omg im surprised no one has thirsted over sungjin yet like. y’all good? y’all sleeping on sungjin like this?? smh bad energy.
doggy style: i was thinking yk, what would be his lowkey dom side. and i think doggy style is something he’d enjoy when he feels more dom. i can see him pulling your hair or grasping your hips roughly while doing so tbh....
riding: this goes w subbing. he likes it when you’re on top of him, because you’re setting up the pace, and because he thinks you look so pretty getting so worked up on him....
subbing: yeah ok i’m sorry for the ones with a daddy kink, but i feel like he likes being led. i mean, he has a whole group of 4 idiots. i understand why the man doesn’t want to have much to do in the bedroom LMAOOO
