So, hello everyone (including the ones who will read this post).
So for starters, I want to say that I hope this will be the only time when I will do this because I don't like to stir up trouble and drama but it's needs to be done.
Because this is not a topic that it's related to the message this tumblr page was supposed to transmit.
So without further delay, let's start.
As you, people who have seen this page may know, I'm a multishipper. I like a lot of ships (some of which may seem controversial or problematic for some people). And there are some ships that I hate, don't see their compatibility or can't see in a romantic way (but I never bash those ships... I prefer to ignore them).
So up until yesterday, June 3rd, 2021, I was a moderator on the Kirinowa discord server. And also yesterday, I got kicked from the server without any warning whatsoever (and another thing, I never broke any rules of that discord server because I was the one who came up with the rules so it would kinda hypocrite of me to break my own rules).
So now I want to talk about how it got to this point and why people shouldn't join Kirinowa discord server.
1) Back in March 2021, I beta-read a one-shot fiction for the admin of the server called Kirinowa.
All good to this point. Then she posted that fiction without having the common sense to mention her beta-reader (something that I never do in my own works... I always mention my beta-readers, because this is how you respect, first yourself as a person, then the ones who helped you... one of my values is to acknowledge and recognize in some way the ones who helped you). I didn't say anything about the matter at the time. I thought that maybe that's how her culture it's like... things like that. Though right now I wish I said something back then (even if I told her in DMs on discord about this on June 3rd she just didn’t care).
Also, if you want proof to point 1, you can always leave me a message and I will provide you with proof (so my statement, it's not without proofs but I don't like to post them on the internet).
2) You aren't allowed to talk about anything that it's not related to Kirinowa in the general channel on the server.
So what I mean by not being allowed, you might ask yourself?
So at some point you were indirectly shut up in a conversation if you talked about something else.
When it first happened to me, I was talking about Miraculous Ladybug (another series that I like) and the member I was talking to, straight point told me to get back to Kirinowa even if no one was engaged in a conversation about them (I gave her an answer accordingly, that I think makes her think a little bit about about she reacted... or at least I would like to think it did).
The second time it happened, it was during a conversation with Kirinowa herself.
We were talking about ships from another fandom (I won't give details about the fandom or the ships because I don't want to be attacked by antis Kirinowa but loves those two ships).
The respective ships were also one of the ships that Kirinowa likes, but nonetheless, she was the one to shut me up back then, which forced me to become less active in the server because I didn't want to be shut up again.
I think it's okay to have a server dedicated to a ship where people are free to talk about the happiness that that ship brings to them, but it's not good to become an obsession and to shut up people when they are talking about other stuff (and now this is pretty hypocrite coming from Kirinowa, because she talked about the Darklina and no one shut her up).
I'm a member of many discord servers and in none of the servers people were shut up (only in the ones from which I got kicked where the admin was a toxic person and abused her power as an admin).
3) Baseless accusations
So like I mentioned above, I'm a multishipper and I avoid ships that I don't like or have no interest in (but never bashing them or spreading hate about them).
So two days ago, Kirinowa made a statement directed to the moderators (alongside other members) where she asked us to not bash other ships because we would be like the antis (this happened due to the fact that someone used bad words while talking about a ship). This was the last straw for me (I already had two nightmarish weeks in real life, I wasn't about to back down from this crap thrown in my direction).
And I told her that I'm miffed about her baseless accusations and to show me the proof of those things she said I did. And her answer was that I shouldn't take things personally.
Like hell, I wouldn't. So in her statement she mentioned moderators (one of which was I) and then when I ask for proof to back her up, she is telling me that I'm taking things too personally.
Then to make things worse another member ganged up on me, and Kirinowa (I feel disgusted at this point using this name to call her as such because she is toxic while the ship is not) didn't have no reaction whatsoever.
Then in her specific style, she decided to close off the matter and move on. So she attacks me, I ask her for proof, she tells me that I'm taking things too personally, another member gang up on me, she doesn't have a reaction and then she choose to close the matter. Of course I talked to her in private, but she only gave me the same answer. That I'm taking things too personally and that is not about me. As long as she mentioned moderators (me being one of them) then give me proof of the things you said I did.
4) Breaking rules and making up lies
So one of the rules that I came up with for the server was:
1) Be respectful and kind. Do not name call. There is an actual human behind the screen. We come from different backgrounds and many of us are dealing with illnesses or mental health issues. Please refrain from making anyone feel invalidated for their opinion. Politely disagreeing is encouraged. This is a place where you will not be judged for your interests, but please be aware of differences. Moreover, do not bash any authors for any reason.
Please refrain from making anyone feel invalidated for their opinion. - that's everything Kirinowa stands against. If someone tells her that her behavior is not okay, that person will be belittled and invalidated. At point 3) my feelings didn't matter. No, I was taking things too personally.
And Kirinowa broke her own rule by doing what she did.
So due to the shit that happened to me in the last two weeks in real life and the abhorrent crap Kirinowa made me go through made me snap yesterday morning. I told her everything that bothered me regarding her toxic behavior (I called her a toxic person and a cyberbully) and then I blocked her on discord and I left to take care of my own business. Because I hoped that she will meditate about what I said to her and maybe realize that she did wrong.
Higher expectations for a person that loves power more than anything.
When I checked up discord, I noticed that Kirinowa group wasn't in my list any longer. And I realized that I got kicked. Then I asked another member (who I won't name in this post but who noticed the toxic behavior of Kirinowa, too) what she (here I mean Kirinowa) said about me being kicked.
The answer of that member was that Kirinowa said that she won't tolerate being blocked on her own server (the perfect example of abuse of power; I will only kick people if they broke the rules of the server or I realize that they could become a danger to the server... I was none of these).
For one, discord and discord servers are too different entities (they are not the same). You can block someone on discord (as in discord in general, not servers)
And two, she won't tolerate being blocked, but others need to tolerate being shut up and invalidated, right?
And also, according to this member that I talked to, Kirinowa said that if someone believes that environment is toxic they are free to leave.
I never said such things. I called her a toxic person, not the environment. But I suppose she wanted to fall on her feet, so to speak.
So this was a lie, she spread (possibly in her attempts to make me look like the villain).
And what do you know?
The member ,who, two days ago ganged up on me got promoted to the admin (alongside others). This is, also according to my source. So the way to get higher in the hierarchy of Kirinowa server is to gang up on others (I only talk about the member who ganged up on me and got promoted, not the others).
And I think that other members who asked about why I was kicked were shut up by the cyberbully Kirinowa.
I have also a discord server and I always take in consideration two things for an international server: the cultural differences (stuff that isn't sensitive for some culture, could be sensitive to other cultures) and the fact on how you are wording statements in English (due to the people who have English as a second language and the message would be different than to a native).
Kirinowa preferred to overlook these two things and to not give a fuck about them.
And also Kirinowa choose the easy way to solve problem. As far as I know, you can tag people on your server (even if they blocked you... as long as they still are members in the server, you can do that). But she wasn't up for communication. She was only up for extreme approach.
So here it's my advice to you: don't join her discord server. She is very toxic and a cyberbully in her own right.
I never shut up people, I admit when I went too far or I did something wrong, I never threw baseless accusations around, I don't make up lies and I always respect my beta-readers.
So if you receive an invitation from this twitter account: https://twitter.com/Kirinowa1 or any of its followers, I urge you, do not accept.
So I will end my tirade with this: All that's necessary for the triumph of evil is that good people do nothing. (Marinette, Miraculous Ladybug).