#lessons i've learned

[dksw0rld]

12 Things I’ve Learned In My Time Away

As I stated in my previous text post, I took an absolutely, and I mean absolutely, amazing break from Tumblr which, since I very rarely  use my Instagram and I don’t have TikTok or Twitter, is my only social media. Minus Pinterest, but I don’t count that as social media since I use it for inspiration. I can’t express to you how much my life has blossomed in my time away. 

During this time away I: 

- formed beautiful new friendships 

- have had absolutely amazing experiences (VIP concerts, PGA golf tournament in the VIP cabana, attending high tea, dancing the night away, day trips, road trips, trying new restaurants, etc.) 

- let my inner child run free, healing her in the process 

- broke my leasing cycle and financed a new car (that checked off EVERY single box on my car wish list - which I realized after the deal was done, so I wasn’t even thinking about it)

- met a soulmate who teaches me so much 

- let go of the need for control and learned to trust my intuition and God’s guidance (a work in progress but I’ve made huge progress in this)

- got crystal clear on my goals and have a clear plan laid out to achieve the rest of them 

- rediscovered my love for reading, writing and cooking 

- cleared my skin of the small fungal acne bumps I had 

- accidentally went vegetarian (don’t ask lol) and found it was the best non-decision decision I’ve ever made 

- grew my hair past my shoulder blades 

I wanted to share some things I’ve learned during this time in hopes it inspires / helps whoever needs it.

1. When you live in intense self love and trust of yourself, everything you desire seeks you or something better finds you. You won’t need to seek it.

2. You can love yourself deeply and know you have healing to do and trauma to work through.

3. Listen and observe who and what the Universe brings into your life. There is always a reason.

4. If you don’t find the beauty, love and romance within your life, you’re living in black and white when the world is full of color. Romanticize your life, find the beauty in everything. Vibrate with love and watch how much more love and beauty you attract.

5. Confidence in yourself, kindness, connections and putting yourself out there opens more doors than you know. 

6. Never pass up on an opportunity to experience something new.

7. Take pictures and videos. Keep mementos to remind you of that moment in time.

8. Do not let fear stop you. Be scared and do it anyways.

9. Move your body because you love yourself, not because you want to lose weight, tone, put on muscle, etc. Move your body to celebrate yourself and give thanks that you can. In whatever way that looks like for you. It’s not one size fits all.

10. Love yourself enough to take the best care of your body. You deserve it. Love yourself enough to take care of future you 50 years down the road. 

11. Honor and celebrate your sensual desires. Turn the lights off, light candles and move and feel your body. Stand in front of the mirror and admire yourself. Have a sexy photoshoot for your eyes only. Wear lingerie underneath your work clothes. Pleasure yourself. Your sexual desires are nothing to be ashamed of. Just honor them safely and with your best interest at the forefront. 

12. Private over public. Every time.

I encourage everyone reading this to take some time away from social media, from screens and from the noise of constantly being plugged in. Focus on you, your growth and your goals. Discover who you are outside of all the influences you’re bombarded with and watch how your life blossoms too.

[shmwrites]

when it’s over try to be soft. don’t let yourself come undone in front of him. save it for when you’re in your room alone after you’ve left his house for the last time. don’t tell him you love him one last time in the hopes that it’ll change his mind. it won’t. don’t put yourself through the deafening silence of him being unable to say it back or to say anything back other than “i’m sorry”. because his apology is more than just “i’m sorry for what has happened.” it’s “i’m sorry that i don’t love you anymore” and “i’m sorry that i can’t choose you” and “i’m sorry that even though i know i should regret this right now, all i can feel is relief.” please, don’t put yourself through anymore pain. when it’s over, just leave. respect yourself enough to know that there is someone better who will stay. don’t force someone to tell you that they don’t love you when you already know. don’t try and change someone’s mind about you. when it’s all gone and all you have are the memories trust that your love was real, it just wasn’t meant to last forever. and that’s okay. when you have to leave and walk away know that you don’t want a love that won’t stay. you don’t want a love you have to beg for. when you’re alone in you’re room coming undone just know that he has done you a favour. because there is someone out there who would do anything to be with you. and you’ll find them eventually. it just isn’t him.

let him go.

[cervus-scribe]

Let me learn you a thing or two

What’s up young pups, it’s ya critter, Elka. It’s my golden birthday this year. I’m 26 in 2 months and I’ve been on this hell site since I was 18? I think? and I wanted to share with you some of the things I’ve learned in life and Tumblr. I see so many youngins on this site and you’re all great, let this old goat learn you a few things. Of course, this all assumes that you’re a mostly law-abiding citizen who isn’t going illegal shit. If not, You Do You, Boo

You don’t have to justify everything: You’re allowed to like/do/eat something because you want to like/do/eat it. I grew up with critical parents and felt the need to explain everything I did because they’d demand an explanation for why I was doing x/y/z. Let me tell you, it’s not a good look to explain to your coworker why you’re doing something harmless, like eating yoghurt for every meal, when you’re a grown-ass adult. You don’t owe anyone anything. “Because I want to” is a full sentence. I had to double-check. It’s grammatically correct. 

Shame is for Catholics: If other people make you feel ashamed to like things, they’re the problem, not you. Do you like pop music? You do you! Do you like twee romance manga like my beloved? You do you! If you feel ashamed to like things, it can be a great moment for self-reflection. Shame isn’t created in a vacuum. I felt a lot better when I was….17, maybe 18? and I started university and realised that most other adults don’t give a shit what you like because they’re trying to get through their own lives in one piece. Don’t be like Elka. Learn this lesson early. Embrace the cringe. 

Age ain’t nothing but a marker of time: Don’t let age determine what you do and don’t do. Storytime: I LOVE animals, but when I was a wee flower of 16 I decided that liking animals was for children and I was a grown-up™, damn it. I hid my interests until I realised that a) my classmates were assholes and I didn’t care what they thought, b) I was only making my own life less fun, and c) animals are cool as hell. This goes for shit that’s “too old for you” too. My Grandma and I watch the same shows. Age is great, but life is simultaneously too long and too short to limit yourself with it. 

[atentativa]

“You knock yourself down. You don't think much of yourself. That's an uncomfortable feeling. So you project it on others and say, 'They don't like me.”    Flora Rheta Schreiber,                                                                                          Sybil: The Classic True Story of a Woman Possessed by Sixteen Personalities    

Visconde de Mauá, RJ, Brasil/ 2018

[infinity-and-dreams]

What I’ve learned after 4 years of high school: you can't give a fuck or at least you can't give a fuck enough to let it control your life

[creatingnikki]

What I've learned about love

1. Just like roses come in colours other than red, love comes in forms other than romantic.

2. The more you define love, the lesser the understanding you have of it.

3. Unrequited love is isn’t whole and something incomplete isn’t love.

4. Love is passion but love is not destruction. Love never destroys - the lack of it does.

5. People love differently but no matter how they express themselves, if they love you, they will find a way to make sure you know it as well as you know your favourite poem.

6. If being in love is hurting you more than its making you happy, chances are, it’s probably not love.

7. Love isn’t what two people share on social media but rather what they don’t share on social media.

8. Love isn’t blind and love isn’t stupid. Love has the most beautiful eyes and love is wise. Don’t let ‘love’ be an excuse for someone’s unacceptable behaviour.

9. Love is like glitter. No matter how much you try, glitter is hard to completely get rid of. Love leaves but it always leaves behind a part of it. If you’ve loved someone truly, a part of you will always love them irrespective of what year it is or how things ended. And that’s not pathetic and that’s not sad.

10. Love is strong and pure. Love didn’t make you weak or bitter - people who are unlucky to know and feel what love is made you that way.

[someawesomeamvs]

Warning: Spoilers, potential seizure trigger, violence

Title: Lessons I’ve Learned

Editor: Moonpie AMV

Song: Counting Stars

Artist: One Republic

Anime: The Boy and The Beast (film)

Category: Drama

Awards: Nan Desu Kan 2016 - Best Local Entry Nan Desu Kan 2016 - Finalist

[yvmoveon]

It can be really difficult to ignore someone who consistently picks on you and tries to get a reaction out of you. It can be really really really difficult to NOT respond (I have a problem with that) but in the end, you’ll let yourself down by entertaining someone who acts so childish. Walk away. If you feel like you’re at that point of eruption, just walk away or put headphones in your ears. Create some kind of barrier.