#lifechanger

[gogod0gg0]

omg i love aseprite................. how come i didnt get this sooner idk i am inlove..........

[inmomentsofhappiness]

The small habits. How you spend your mornings. How you feel about yourself. What you read. What you watch. Who you share your energy with. That will change your life.

[klare1111]

With all honesty I thought this was a gray, empty thing, filled with beautiful literary words. But by the time I read it again, I saw the colors. 

This book is called: The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller. 

[bigdblogger]

TOP 8 MOTIVATIONAL FACTORS :

Hello Guys 👋, How you folks doin 👌? Today I have posted about the types of motivational factors that is very required for this situation. In this pandemic situation we all are so stressed about the situation around us. In this time we need is just a motivation to get us stay active all time which is very important. Yeah guys even I go through the same, so kindly go through this article completely and so you could develop your character, attitude, career and who might know you could even become a great Motivational adviser or speaker. If you do like this article kindly please visit my website  bigdeepblogger.blogspot.com. Thank you.

Types of motivation and how they work:

👉 Intrinsic Motivation & Extrinsic Motivation :

Broadly speaking, there are two types of motivation: intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation states that people are motivated by internal rewards like fulfilment and contentment. Conversely, extrinsic motivation states that people are motivated by external rewards like a bonus or salary hike as well as negative external factors like getting fired. However, while the opposite of each other, intrinsic and extrinsic motivation can be used together. For example, you might be motivated by a potential hike in salary but end up loving the more complex work. Conversely, you might be motivated by the fulfilment of a job well done and then be rewarded with a bonus or hike.

👉 Achievement Motivation :

Achievement motivation states that people are driven by the desire to pursue and achieve specific goals. People who are motivated by this type of motivation are motivated by the achievement of a task or goal itself, and not necessarily because of the reward. For example, an entrepreneur might build a business for the joy of building a world-class organization, and not necessarily because of a potential exit. If you are driven by achievement motivation, you are typically self-motivated and process-oriented, meaning that you value the process of getting better more than the end result itself. While the achievement of a goal might be seen as an external reward, the actual reward that this type of motivation gives is largely internal. This is because you are not enamoured by the glitz and glamour of a reward like money, but rather the feeling of accomplishment you get when you complete a worthy task.

👉 Incentive Motivation :

Incentive motivation, unlike achievement motivation, says that people are motivated more by the reward than by the achievement of the goal itself. Instead of being process-oriented and being motivated by movement towards a goal or task, those who are motivated by incentives commit to actions because of an expected reward. For example, if you want a promotion because of the higher salary and not because you will feel more fulfilled, you are motivated by incentives rather than by achievements. However, incentive motivation is not a bad thing. In fact, while it seems like the opposite of achievement motivation, the two can actually be used together. For example, if you want a promotion, you can be motivated both by the higher salary as well as the more complex and fulfilling work. In scenarios like this, it is a win-win outcome, because you are externally rewarded as well as internally fulfilled. Seek goals or tasks that have incentives as well as elements of achievement motivation.

👉 Fear Motivation :

Fear motivation is a motivational type that uses consequences to drive people into action. Fear motivation can be thought of as a ―negative motivator‖ in that you are not motivated by a reward but by the avoidance of pain or consequences. Rather than incentivising yourself or others with positive motivators, fear motivation uses punishment or negative motivators like getting fired as a way to keep you productively moving towards specific goals or tasks. While fear motivation sounds bad, it can actually be used as positive. Think of fear motivation as positive stressors or positive constraints that help you outsmart your future self, overcome bad habits, and live the life you want.

👉 Power motivation :

Power motivation is a motivational factor that says people are motivated by control over our own lives and/or the lives of others. Everyone wants choices, and people are often motivated to increase their overall life-options. For this reason, power motivation manifests itself in the desire to affect the direction of our lives and sometimes the lives of those around us.

👉 Affiliation & Social Motivation :

Humans are social creatures, and social motivation also known as affiliation motivation states that people are motivated by social factors like belonging and acceptance. Humans have an innate desire to connect with others, and social motivation causes us to seek connections by contributing to a social group. Social motivation can be macro and manifest itself in a desire to help the world, or it can be micro and manifest itself in our love for family and friends.

👉 Competence & Learning Motivation :

Competence motivation, also known as learning motivation, is similar to achievement motivation in that people are motivated by the process itself rather than by the reward at the end. However, the difference is that people who are motivated by competence motivation are literally motivated by the act of learning as they move towards the completion of a goal or task. For example, if you want a promotion, not because of the higher salary but because you will learn new valuable skills, you are motivated by competence or learning motivation. This is an extremely valuable motivator and should be used in almost any motivational strategy. This is because new, relevant skills are often more valuable than even money because, unlike material things, they are assets that no one can take away from you.

👉 Attitude Motivation :

Attitude motivation refers to the type of motivation that is cultivated through the desire to change the way people think or feel. While it has similarities to affiliation or social motivation (and can be argued is a type of social motivation itself), people who are motivated by attitude engage in actions and interactions with the express intent of making themselves and the people around them feel better in a positive and uplifting way. For example, if you are motivated to work for a non-profit or volunteer in a soup kitchen because making people feel good makes you feel good because you are motivated by a change in attitude. Similarly, if you are a manager at a company and you get joy out of helping, your direct reports grow and succeed and you are also taking part in attitude motivation.

[sariea]

This is a reminder to all my woc, WEAR BLUSH!

[tawneybel]

Imagine finding out the reason that you’ve only been able to have short flings is because Drew has been killing and replacing each of your lovers. And has actually slept with you who-knows-how-many times without your knowledge.

[katandabbieslife]

The Long Awaited Update, maybe, if anyone still reads our stuff...

So, it’s me, Abbie, who dropped the ball this time and not Kat. I promised you guys an update about why we were gone all summer and that did not happen. To explain it, completely, I might need to go back Winter break 2 years ago. It was right around the time we started this blog. Kat and I were both full time students and working to pay for food and bills. We both let our jobs know in September that we’d need winter break off to go home for the holidays as a lot of employers in college towns expect. We were both told that would not be a problem and we made plans, book flights because they’re much cheaper when booked in advance. We were set! Wrong, we were both screwed. Schedules came out for the weeks of winter break and Kat was scheduled for 2 days that first week and then scheduled for Christmas Eve, and the day after Christmas. Kat went to ask if it was a mistake and her boss told her no, that it wasn’t a mistake and they couldn’t spare her for two weeks. She explained we booked our flights in early October because we were told she’d be off. Kat explained she needed the time off to visit family and they told her they couldn’t do it. Kat told them she was already told she’d have to time off and was going home to visit family at which point they told her if she was a no call no show, that they’d have to terminate her. She broke down in tears and went back to work. Over the next couple days, she kept begging them to give her the time off. She talked to co-workers to try to get those days covered and several said they would do it. They just had to convince their asshole manager.

 Just as Kat was seemingly ready to get her situation finished, mine popped up. My schedule had me scheduled for a full 40 hours for both weeks. I was beyond shocked because I never worked over 32 hours and usually only 28 hours. I went to ask why I was scheduled for a full 40 hours and the bitch told me “Oh, you only work a short schedule because you’re a student, and since school is out for these two weeks, we had some of you kids want to go home to family for the holidays and we need you to cover some of those shifts since classes are out.” I threw my schedule down on the desk and said “Yeah, some kids wanted to go home for the holidays, I was one of them, I put in for this in September and you said it was approved, what the fuck happened?” and she just blankly stared at me. I asked when some of the other put in for the break and she was like last month, and proceeded to tell me I should ask for time off 3 weeks in advance, I pointed out I asked 3 months in advance. She gave me a shitty grin and a chuckle and told me to get back to work. I refused and told her we had flights booked for over two months and they were non-refundable (not sure if they were or not, just said that to hopefully change her mind) and she told me, I hope you didn’t pay a lot, it would suck to lose all that money for something you can’t use. I told her “I’m not going to lose money, I’ll go to the labor board or small claims court since these were booked AFTER you approved my time off.” She told me to stop being dramatic. I explained I would be going home for the holidays one way or another. After arguing with both our respective bosses, we were finally told we’d get the time off. We thought it was all settled. We left, we had a great holiday, we came back to school. We stopped by both of our places of employment to get our schedules and Kat was told she’d been replaced. She came out in tears and I comforted her and explained we’d get her another job. She calmed down and we drive to my shithole job and I get my schedule and I’m scheduled for 3 hours one day, 5 hours another and only have 5 total days scheduled in two weeks. 16 hours for 2 weeks. I raised hell and it did me no good.

 Kat started her job search and I worked my few hours while filing out applications Kat brought home for me since I was looking for a new job too. Our parents knew what went on just before break and they weren’t surprised when we had to call them for extra money for bills and rent. As some of you know, My mother is an attorney and my Stepdad(Now Dad, he officially adopted me Aug. 2018) owns a small chain of like 30 or so sporting goods stores in my home state. Kat Parents own a huge Horse farm/Ranch made up of three original farms combined to make one large one. Our families are doing nicely. By this time, almost a year into our relationship, our parents were already friends and talking on a regular basis through texts, Email, and phone calls, I figure initiated by my slightly over protective mother because she feels responsible for my abuse at the hands of my biological father. Anyway, they are all friends and talk often. Mom told me to get a list of our rent and average monthly bills together and call her tomorrow. And in the meantime, Kat’s Parents put money in her account and mine did the same. I called mom with the rent and average bills and I expected her to be putting a budget or something together because “moms love that shit” right? We talked for a bit and then she said she had some phone calls to make.

 She called back a couple hours later and she told me to put it on speaker phone and I heard her asking “Katherine, are you guys there?” and we heard Kat’s parents chime in and say “yes, we’re here.” We all said hi and Kat and I were looking at each other like “W.T.F.?” Mom started by telling me I needed to go quit my job immediately after the phone call, Kat’s mom told Kat to tear up any applications she had filled out and to never mind finding a new job. Again, Kat and I looked at each other like “W.T.F.?” Mom and Katherine(Kat’s mom) both started telling us how they couldn’t believe how much trouble we had just trying to come home for the holidays and how upset they were when, at first, they didn’t think they’d get to see their girls for the holidays. They were glad when we finally got to come home but they expected we’d face some kind of retaliation for taking the time off. They were a little shocked at what actually happened, they thought it would be the opposite and we’d get the hours dogpiled on us instead, causing our schoolwork to take a backseat. They both wondered that if we got new jobs, would we get too many hours to handle both work and schoolwork? Or would we go through the same trouble next holiday season? Would we get to enjoy summer break? At which point they collectively decided to pay our bills, our rent, our food, and we’d get a small bump in our monthly allowances. My allowance was guilt money from Mom anyway. Most of it goes into a saving account anyway, I also get money from stud fee’s from my German Shepherd Franklin. Usually around $500 a month sometime more (if he gets lucky, if you know what I mean? : ) Our parents were paying for school anyway, our bills did not add that much more in comparison.  We just had stipulations. Every break, we have to go home to visit at least for a week unless we’re granted a reprieve. This only applies to Thanksgiving, Winter, and Summer breaks. All other breaks are short and we’re free to do with as we please. Because of comments I made to my mother about how much cam girls make online and how I bet Kat and I would make bank doing the cam girl thing, we were told “Absolutely no porn!” If they ever found a single picture of either of us online, a nipple, a lip, a butthole, our agreement would be null and void and we’d have to get jobs and all money would be pulled except for tuition, of course. (Way to go Mom, take all the fun stuff away and leave us with Work and School only! LOL) Anyway, we agreed, we wouldn’t do Porn. We also have to keep our grades up, which wouldn’t be hard since we wouldn’t have to worry about reading chapters on breaks at work, or getting papers written before our shifts. Everything seemed great. We agreed. Without having to work a part time job after class, I used the free time in the evening to pick up a few more classes each semester and have since taken classes from (8am to 7:30pm) 3 days a week and (8am to 7pm) 2 days a week, assuming the classes are offered, and luckily they have been. Those extra classes allowed me to double major and earn two bachelor degree’s this past spring, when I was only on track for one degree and only a few classes short of my second which I had planned on earning the end of this current semester, but my schedule worked out and the classes were offered during my new found free time.

 Skip ahead to December of 2018 and you have stories of my Birthday Party, our Holiday party, and that’s where we left off. Through spring semester, things got hectic again. I loaded my schedule to get as many classes done as I can and with any luck, I can graduate early.

 Our lives were also changed last year when we went home for winter break and I can’t wait for that chapter to start. Some of you know we’re both engaged with full blessings from both my family and hers, and we’re planning on getting married in June. One year of dating, and then 2 years and 3 months of engagement until the wedding. We’re still as happy now as we were on day one, if not happier. Kat’s mom corners us every chance she gets with wedding planning. We’ve already decided on getting married by our favorite lake on their farm, but the details are what Momma Katherine loves to obsess over and I love her for it. Ok, on to the life changer. I wrote about Kat handling the purchase of the farm northern property line of her parents property. The days leading up to arriving back home for winter break were filled with Exams and Kat making contract changes with my mother, the attorneys advice. She and Kat talked as much the week before we went home than she and I since summer break all combined. Mom helped Kat make changes and Kat emailed it to her parents attorney to make the changes official. Kats parents had been telling us they were going to take us out to celebrate when we got home and were just told we were celebrating the new addition to the company and the plans for that part of the property. Ok, well, the life changer will not be in this quick little update since the original draft of this was 28 pages long and over 22,000 words. It kind of bled into everything above then into Winter break 2018/2019. I found my Word document that I journaled in during break, just as I do with stuff I think I will write about later. So, we have this update that will hopefully explain a few things about us, and I will follow that up with the posts about last year’s winter break. I have my word files from the spring and summer too so those will be written up when I get time. For now, here is a chance to learn a little more about us. If you’re still around reading our ramblings, thank you for your patience, if you’re new, enjoy what’s been posted already and please, do not hold us to a schedule. We don’t mean to be liars by saying we’ll be posting soon and not posting for months, it’s just that life and schoolwork take precedence over Tumblr posting. I hope you understand. -Abbie

[wolfinsheepsfeelings]

“Her heads in my lap, and with it so is everything else that matters in my world. Yesterday, I held the future in my palms, all because I was holding her. I didn’t move for an hour. Couldn’t let go of the thought of her blue eyes on a rollercoaster and flying to Italy on a whim. By the way, I hate heights. And planes. And I never cared for pasta. But if I hold her hand I think I could learn to love them all. Adoration through her eyes. Her heads in my lap but her heart is in every part of me. Every breath and sigh to leave my body flows through her first.”

-Have you ever met a life changer?