Sep 19, 2018
Understanding Energies & Auras
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Understanding Energies & Auras
When faith is central to your life and personal journey, what lessons and experiences can you expect along the way?
When faith is central to your life and personal journey, what lessons and experiences can you expect along the way?
Having Faith
The first lesson of faith is having faith.
Economist and author, Stuart Chase, encapsulates it beautifully in one of my favourite quotes:
‘For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.’
Like the addict who has to admit that he has a problem before he can receive help, you need to choose to have faith, to believe in order to see. The obvious exception is people who have experienced a miraculous event that has converted them to faith.
Blind Faith
The second lesson of faith is blind faith: holding your faith once you’ve chosen to have it, even though you have not yet seen results or a miracle.
Anyone who has consciously been along the path of faith will tell you that you always eventually see results and miracles; often in fact, people are converted to faith by having exposure to a miracle. While that does happen fairly often, a lot of people also come to faith slowly and gradually over their lifetime, choosing faith before they’ve experienced proof.
For these people, they will experience the lesson of blind faith: placing faith and belief in something that you have no direct personal experience of yet. Many persons indoctrinated into religious ideologies from birth will experience this test of faith.
Faith with Miracles
The next level of growth in faith comes after you’ve experienced miracles, or perhaps a single miracle, and you now have to align yourself with making them a regular reality in your life and experience.
In Maslow’s four stages of learning model, he describes the degrees of taking on any new learning as following this sequence:
1. Unconscious Incompetence
I don’t know that I can’t do this because I haven’t been exposed to it yet
2. Conscious Incompetence
I’ve tried this before and now I know I can’t do it
3. Conscious Competence
I’ve been doing this for a while and I can do it if I focus and pay attention
4. Unconscious Competence
I’ve done this so much and so well that it’s become second nature, a habit that I don’t even have to think about
At the point of experiencing your first miracle you enter the stage of Conscious Incompetence – you’ve experienced this once, but you’re not actually sure how you did it, and you’re nowhere near replicating the experience yet.
As you progress along this level you will get more comfortable with miracles, and your ability to create miracles and hold faith, and you will enter the level of Conscious Competence, and eventually, if you’ve chosen a path that far-reaching, Unconscious Competence.
During this stage you will have many of the experiences of faith, although these really can appear anywhere along your path.
Experiencing Miracles
As you move along your path, you will experience miracles in different guises and come to understand the many ways that miracles manifest themselves:
Physical healing of illness
Hands-on healing
Forgiveness
Reconciliation
Finding Inner Peace
Aligning with your Purpose
Creating Miracles
As with any learning experience, the more times you experience something repetitively, the more effectively you understand and can replicate it – miracles are no different.
In A Course In Miracles we are told that we do not create miracles ourselves, we are merely the facilitators through which miracles are created.
Creating miracles then, is about holding the space of faith so that God/Source/The Universe can facilitate a miracle through the space, belief and trust you hold.
Losing Faith
As you go along any path of faith, there will come times when you lose your direction and question what you know – and that’s normal.
In order to really grow, you have to stop and look at every aspect of your life, both good and bad, from every possible angle – you have to question it. You have to question everything.
Losing your faith is about experiencing a period of questioning. Once you have delved through the inconsistencies and begin resonating with new awareness, you often find that you regain your faith quite beautifully.
Regaining Faith
If there’s one upside to losing faith at times, it’s the homecoming experience of regaining your faith and regaining your connection.
When you’ve experienced the warmth of your spiritual home, the world can seem very cold and bare at times; no more so than when you feel completely disconnected from your Source.
Regaining your faith is a homecoming that allows you to feel complete, especially after the wilderness of losing your faith.
Nirvana or Revelation Experiences
At the end of many difficult periods, or when they are very aligned with their Source, many people experience the oneness of Nirvana or Revelation Experiences.
The only way to describe this is that you stand next to God and your soul can only sing thank you.
It is a beautiful, floaty, happy, perfect and sometimes totally impractical space to be in – it’s a bit difficult to get stuff properly done when you’re floating around on clouds of bliss and think every little speck of everything is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen. That’s why we don’t get to keep it all the time ☺
A Dark Night of the Soul
The final huge lesson of faith can take many forms, but at its essence it’s a test of your faith. It’s known as a Dark Night of the Soul.
As you go along a path of faith you will experience many tests of your faith, and many of these will appear to be Dark Nights of the Soul. In the strictest sense of the term though, a Dark Night of the Soul is the really big spiritual test of your faith, where you emerge as a Mystic on the other side.
From that point of view, entering your Dark Night of the Soul is a massive compliment: you’ll only be offered a lesson this advanced if you’ve earned your spiritual stripes. On the other hand, this is going to strip you bare and break you down to the very foundations of who you are – this feels like spiritual hell at times.
This experience can last a number of years and is a period of time in which you will use all your normal tools and resources and find they have no effect; you’ll ask for help and hear no answers; you will feel completely abandoned and alone and all doors will be shut to you. They will watch, sometimes answer, but you will get little to no consolation – and it’s time bound: it will only end when it ends, and you have no control over that.
You will push and push and to try and get results – and all the doors will stay closed to you: you will receive no consolation.
There’s a point to this, and that is first to show you who you are when facing the worst. Second it shows you who you are when you are alone. Lastly, this test will strip you bare, so that you are reborn completely anew: new ways of thinking and being, new belief systems, a completely changed person.
Wherever you are on your path of faith, there are more lessons and challenges coming. As Richard Bach so beautifully puts it in Illusions:
'Here is the test to find whether your mission on Earth is finished: if you're alive, it isn't.'
There’s more to come, more lessons, and you will grow and soar. Yes a test like this feels like literal hell to go through, with hell being the absence of God, but there is an upside and an end, and this will turn. Everything does.
Luckily knowledge and consciousness are among the things you can take with you ;)
My mind holds only what I think with God
A Course In Miracles
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Twelve life lessons taken from Matt Damon’s epic struggle in the recently released movie, The Martian.
12 Life Lessons from The Martian
Twelve life lessons taken from Matt Damon’s epic struggle in the movie, The Martian.
The Martian, starring Matt Damon, is a movie that will restore your faith in the human spirit and what it is possible for you to achieve. If you haven’t seen it, watch it. In the meantime though, here’s a brief overview of the movie.
Matt Damon’s character, Mark Wattney, accidentally gets stranded on Mars during an emergency evacuation of the third manned Mars mission, Ares 3.
With the communications antenna broken, he has no way of letting NASA know that he has survived, and the next manned mission to Mars is planned in four years and will land 3200km away.
His food supplies will only last a third of that time, and he’s on a barren, waterless planet with no atmosphere and no oxygen. He is literally the only man on the planet, and if he doesn’t do it for himself then there’s no help coming.
1. Trials can happen at any time
Even at the height of your success you can be hit by the worst trial of your life.
In the movie, Wattney is halfway through a manned mission to Mars when everything goes wrong and he’s stranded. He’s obviously done everything right – he’s an astronaut, highly intelligent, a scientist and squeaky-clean enough to make the astronaut grade for a manned mission to Mars.
Even when the emergency event happens, it’s nothing that the commander, crew or Wattney did – it’s just a stroke of bad luck.
Regardless of where you are, what you’ve achieved or how far you’ve come in life, stay grounded. Life changes in an instant, for the good and the bad, and often you will have no way to stop or control it.
2. Keep working no matter what
Even though his situation looks absolutely hopeless, Wattney doesn’t stop working. He starts doing what he can and then he starts making plans and finding ways to do things.
Yes, all the plans eventually amalgamate to get him home, but more importantly the busyness keeps his mind busy.
So often in life we tend to sit down and feel sorry for ourselves when we’re hit by a situation or tragedy, and this is one of the worst ways we sabotage ourselves. We sit down and worry about it, thinking about every worst possible outcome and eventuality that we could face, pouring every ounce of our energy into creating a deeper and more complex problem with infinitely more pitfalls.
Keep busy, keep your mind distracted and keep moving slowly towards where you want to be. Do the most menial tasks if you have to, or exercise intensely to remove your mind from your problems.
Once you’ve stopped endlessly thinking about the issue, you’ll find it’s a lot easier to start seeing positive solutions and hope in the situation.
3. Trials can last a really long time
We live in a world of instant gratification, and the universe sees our lifespan as fitting into a timeline of billions and billions of years.
From the universe’s point of view, 3, 4, or 5 years is nothing in the scheme of things. In fact, from your eternal soul’s point of view, 3 or 4 years in a reincarnating soul’s lifespan of billions of years is also nothing.
For us though, living on this physical plane, 5 years feels like an eternity of hell. The intensity of that pain is exacerbated by the fact that we tend to live in the moment and so our experiences are felt more intensely.
Add to this our instant gratification culture where a solution doesn’t work unless it shows immediate results, and you have the perfect breeding ground for the universe to give you a beautiful lesson in patience. As someone who’s recently achieved that resonance, I’ll say having patience is well worth it – but the lesson is hard and expensive. Rather transcend this one.
4. Trials will end just as suddenly as they began
From almost beginning to end, The Martian covers Wattney’s trial time on Mars, and the movie basically ends in a moment when he hugs the other crew members and jokes with them.
That’s it – after nearly two years of survival and hard work, in that one little hug and anticlimactic moment, Wattney’s journey was over.
When you’re in a life trial, you can often remember a moment where it started – where things just started going wrong. If this isn’t your first trial then you’ll also likely remember a moment when the trial turned and everything in your life just changed for the better.
From death to birth, beginnings to ends, life always changes in a single instant. We spend our moments in between preparing for little life moments in which our world will be irrevocably changed.
As hard as your lessons have been, as hard as your trial was, there will come a moment when it’s over – it’s just finished and done. Life always changes in an instant – and your life can too.
5. You’ll make progress and then be knocked back
One of the saddest moments in the movie is when Wattney’s botany solution to keep himself fed is destroyed in an act of God.
You’ve felt with this man by this stage of the movie, and if possible, you’re as invested in that little garden as what he is. It is soul destroying when he walks back into the habitat and realizes that all his work is gone.
If you think it’s tough to lose something the first time around, imagine losing everything, building up from nothing and then having that last hope ripped away from you in an instant. That’s what he went through in that moment. I take my hat off to Matt Damon for even portraying that role so well.
Sometimes in life you’re going to pick yourself up by your drawstrings and make something happen and you’re going to be knocked back even harder. As someone who has made it through moments like that, I can only tell you that the strength, fortitude and peace you will gain from overcoming that kind of trial is beyond awesome, but the lesson hits you like a sucker punch. I can honestly only believe that these kinds of lessons are sent as tests of faith.
6. One step at a time
Right at the end of the movie, Wattney gives a class and says something along the lines of: ‘You just keep solving one problem and then the next and then the next. Eventually if you get to solve enough problems you can come home.’
If the challenge is too big to solve in one go then just solve the immediate problem in front of you and then the next one and then the next.
One step at a time, you just keep going, doing what you can with the resources you have available to you. You cannot try to do more than you can do, or you will land doing nothing.
7. Don’t give up hope
There’s a moment early in the movie where Wattney has been alone on Mars for three days, with no way to know if anyone knows he’s alive and no way to contact anybody.
As he’s standing and watching the sand storm blustering outside he declares, “I will NOT die.” A little later in the movie as he’s making progress on his survival plan he uses two statements: “In your face Neil Armstrong” and “F**k you Mars!”
Whatever hope you can find to hold onto, hold onto it. Find a reason to fight, to keep going. With hope you can sustain almost anything. It truly is the light of the human soul.
8. Miracles can happen
As Terry Pratchett says often in the Discworld series: one-in-a-million chances tend to come around nine-times-out-of-ten, when you’re in a situation where you really need them.
The fact that I don’t have to clarify the word miracle, that the concept is commonly understand, should already tell you that miracles are a lot more commonplace than we give them credit for.
Miracles often appear when there is no other hope, so chances are good if you’re not getting one it’s because the situation is still in your control. But be realistic, believe in miracles, and know that you are loved enough to be entitled to miracles too.
9. You already have everything you need around you
Once the shock begins to clear and the situation normalizes for Wattney, he begins to make the most amazing plans to escape and move on.
Amazingly he’s able to create everything he needs with what is around him, including equipment forgotten and left as lost, like the Mars Rover.
Sometimes you will find it in stuff that has been lost and thrown away, but you have everything you need around you. With a little bit of ingenuity and application of your mind, you can find a way to create a solution – you have everything you need.
Don’t give up and don’t focus on your limitations and what you don’t have. Only keep looking at what you do have.
10. Sometimes you really do know better
There are a few funny references in the movie that Wattney makes about stupid instructions NASA is sending him, and a reference to how he keeps telling NASA to ‘go have sex with themselves’ about certain instructions they’re trying to get him to follow.
When you’re on the ground in a situation, you can see better than those outside the situation what is going on. You’re actually in a better position to make judgement calls.
Likewise, all tests of faith involve an element of intuition, and you are learning to trust and listen to your intuition in these trials – often because we turn to God/the Universe and listen when we have no other option left.
Trust what your gut is saying to you. Listen to what others have to say, but make the best decision for you in that moment. No one will ever be able to see as well as you what you need.
11. You will find successes in your trials
In life coaching, the little successes you have along the way are commonly referred to as milestones.
Celebrating milestones and little wins is a must if you don’t want to go completely insane through a life trial like this.
Even if it’s something you create in your mind, or logic your way into, find and celebrate every small success you can, or you will honestly feel like you are on a never-ending uphill treadmill of doom and gloom.
There are two moments from the movie that really stand out as Wattney celebrating his wins. The first is when he does a video journal entry speaking about the fact that his Alma Mater sent him information saying that you have legally colonized an area if you’ve grown crops on it. Here he wins first person to colonize Mars.
The second instance is towards the end of the movie where Wattney instructs NASA control to call him Captain Blondbeard, because as he explains, he is in international waters and about to commandeer a space ship. Technically therefore, he is a space pirate.
The last two little wins and records Wattney sets are to be the fastest man in space and to fly like Iron Man. Any of these is enough to log him in the history books, but to him they were just what he did to make it, to survive.
Each was a challenge, a problem he had to solve. Yet each was enough to make him a God in the eyes of man.
12. You realize what really matters
When Mark Wattney’s eyes fill with tears when he hears the first human voice in nearly two years, you realize what a huge difference human contact makes for all of us.
When you see his joy and relief at being able to connect with people, have contact and hear voices again, I’d be very surprised to find a dry eye in the house.
And then look at his first question when he first makes text messenger contact with NASA control: how are the crew? Immediately he looks for more contact, a connection and reflection to show him that he matters.
Likewise when you consider what he went through to survive, what he was willing to do and the chances he was willing to take, it makes it very difficult to look at your own small challenges and think of them as significant and relevant. So you’ve skipped a few payments, lost a few assets, spent a few nights crying. You’ll be okay. We’ll all be okay.
Go home tonight, put your arms around the people you love and hold them tight. Tell them what they mean to you, and how empty and meaningless your life would be without them.
Life changes in an instant – for the good and the bad. Don’t live a life filled with unsaid words and regret.
HOW TO PRAY & PRAYERS TO USE
1. Confession/Faith or Admit/Trust Formula
If you need to craft a prayer for a specific purpose, there are a couple of options.
First you could set an intention, e.g. God, I am praying for help to understand what I must do about money, and then launch into a recited prayer, using the meditative state to first put out your plea for help, and second to “hear” any answers and messages that are coming to you.
The second way to do it is to use the confession/faith formula, otherwise known as admit/trust.
All pain is caused by separation - keeping thoughts private is a form of separation as well. So we BREAK PRIVACY and ADMIT or confess to everything we need to.
“I’m scared. I don’t know what to do here. I’m feeling… (lonely, vulnerable, embarrassed, ashamed, jealous, inferior). I need help please.”
Then you TRUST or have faith that the Holy Spirit and God will help you.
This is the REALLY difficult one - and looking back, faith is the one aspect I wish I’d studied more on my journey.
Jesus said that you can move mountains if you have faith the size of a mustard seed…. and those things are like poppy seeds, miniscule.
In my own experience, this is absolutely true - when I give my faith to God, and trust his plan and his timing, then things work out the way he said they would.
But it’s taken me 36 years to get to this point since I woke up.
Faith takes practice. And it takes having your faith confirmed and validated multiple times for you to really start trusting it.
Faith is a verb - faith is GIVEN BY YOU and rewarded by God.
Faith is also dual layer… you give your faith to God, and then you trust yourself to receive the messages correctly, and then NOT to edit for your own ego or someone else’s ego.
What do I mean by editing for ego? When you adjust the message so that it fits into what will make you or another person immediately happy.
A great example would be Jesus with the crucifixion…. he got the message that he would be killed, and if you got a message like that, you would immediately not want to hear it. But he just asked if he really had to go through with it.
This is important because there are many messages that don’t make sense and that you don’t agree with, and so you’re going to resist them.
What does that look like? Well it’s like when you think of someone and then you think, “they must be thinking of me…”, but then you dismiss that thought as wishful thinking.
FAITH means that when that thought comes of “this person is thinking of me”, you trust it. If the denial arises inside you, then you say “NO - I choose to have faith that I am getting the right messages.” You will be doing that thousands of times every day at first.
In the beginning, don’t broadcast your messages that you’re getting, just log them in a journal or remember them - and wait to see it play out in real life.
Once you’ve seen it play out and be confirmed a few hundred times, you’ll begin to ‘know’ what truth ‘feels’ like, and you will know when you can trust messages.
But it takes a few years of ongoing practice to get there ;)
So once you have asked for help, and confessed what you need to, swap to faith and trust, and USE YOUR WORDS to confirm that faith and trust.
So an example could be:
CONFESS: Holy Spirit, I don’t know what to do here, and I need your help.
FAITH: I know that you have helped me previously and I trust you to help me again.
CONFESS: I’m scared and alone. I don’t know what to do.
FAITH: Please choose correct thinking for me. Please correct my misperceptions. Please choose for peace and forgiveness for me.
CONFESS: I don’t know what to do next and I need guidance on my next step.
FAITH: I trust you to reveal the path to me and so I choose to enjoy this time to relax before we get busy and kick off the next step.
You just keep swapping between them and your prayer will always work.
I can’t speed up the confirmation process for you, except to tell you to test yourself with everything. The more validation you get, the faster your faith will grow that you are truly receiving the truth.
And it’s something special to operate from a place where you know it’s real because you’ve experienced it for yourself.
It’s worth chasing - you don’t want to miss it ;)
2. Learn a prayer and use it as a meditation
This is a very Jewish approach to prayer, where prayer is recited and is formulaic.
This is my preferred method of meditation, and the point of it is that it is meditative.
What meditative in this case means, is that as you are reciting the prayer, it becomes background and habitual, and allows your mind to receive messages from Source.
By praying you overcome the difficulty of keeping your mind clear, you keep your inner voice busy, and you keep yourself focused where you want to be focused.
Often, when people try to meditate, they battle with the silence and letting answers come from that silence.
By praying instead, you circumvent a lot of those issues.
Also you anchor a meditative state to the words eventually, and so it becomes easier to slip into that state by reciting the prayer.
For me, who has been doing this a few years, it means that every time I pray, I trigger downloads and information now.
And it has the benefit of assisting me at the point of death - my default habit is to recite the prayer (containing the name of God) whenever I am scared, bored, lonely in pain - whatever. It’s my go to.
You can bet your bottom dollar I’ll be reciting that as I die…. and if you hold God in your thoughts completely at the moment you cross over, you are guaranteed to cross and not stay stuck in karma.
So you learn, parrot-fashion, an already crafted prayer.
For example, Ana B’Ko’ach is the Jewish Miracle Prayer containing the name of God: http://lifecoachestoolbox.com/index.php/ana-b-ko-ach-videos-by-life-coaches-toolbox
(There are slideshows giving the meaning and translation of the prayer on that page, as well as links to watch the videos. The videos have a cool cat purr overlaid for an extra healing boost <3 )
Ana bekoach, g'dulat yemincha, tatir tz'rura
Kabel rinat amcha sagveinu, tahareinu nora
Na gibor dorshei yichudcha, k'vavat shamrem
Barchem taharem, rachamei tzidkatcha Tamid gamlem
Chasin kadosh berov tuvcha, Nahel adatecha
Yachid ge'eh le'amcha p'neh, zochrei k'dushatecha
Shavateinu kabel ushma tza'akateinu, yode'a ta'alumot
Baruch shem k'vod malchuto le'olam va'ed
Translation
We beg thee, with the strength and greatness of thy right arm - untangle our knotted fate.
Accept your people's song, elevate and purify us.
Please, heroic one, those who pursue your uniqueness - guard them as the pupil of an eye.
Bless them, purify them, pity them,
may your righteousness always reward them.
Powerful and Holy One, in goodness lead your flock.
Unique and proud one, to your people turn, who remember your holiness.
Accept our cries, and hear our screams, oh knower of mysteries.
Blessed is the name of his noble kingdom forever and ever.
Other good examples are the Lord’s Prayer or St Francis of Assisi’s Prayer.
Lord’s Prayer
Our Father who art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come.
Thy will be done
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive them who trespass against us,
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,
and the power, and the glory,
for ever and ever
Amen.
St Francis’s Prayer
Lord make me an instrument of your peace
Where there is hatred let me sow love
Where there is injury, pardon
Where there is doubt, faith
Where there is despair, hope
Where there is darkness, light
And where there is sadness, joy
O divine master grant that I may
not so much seek to be consoled as to console
to be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love
For it is in giving that we receive
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned
And it's in dying that we are born to eternal life
Amen
3. Prayers for Specific Purposes
These are prayers that I have written and built over the years, mostly based on healing knowledge and A Course in Miracles.
Dedicating Relationships to Holiness invites the Holy Spirit into any relationship to remove the ego barriers, and is very powerful if done by both parties. It can be done by one party only though. This is a MUST for Twin Flames. http://lifecoachestoolbox.com/index.php/dedicating-relationships-to-holiness
Daily & Morning Prayers for Lightworkers - http://lifecoachestoolbox.com/index.php/a-course-in-miracles-acim-daily-prayers-for-lightworkers
Healing Prayer for Lightworkers - http://lifecoachestoolbox.com/index.php/a-course-in-miracles-acim-prayer-for-healing-for-lightworkers
Twin Flame & Lightworker Prayer for releasing relationship bonds - http://lifecoachestoolbox.com/index.php/twin-flame-lightworker-prayer-for-releasing-relationship-bonds
And there are more prayers on my website in the prayers section (surprise, surprise lol) - http://lifecoachestoolbox.com/index.php/prayers
Real Client Session Transcript
Real Client Session Transcript
* What a session can look like
* Covers jumping levels of lessons to go to a higher level of lesson, such as God level or Cosmic level lessons
* Jumping lesson levels also means getting out of personalization
* Themes of free will, life stages, parent child relationships, loneliness, the ego battle
***
Okay so this is something really cool… a transcript of an actual coaching session that took place with a client.
One of my awesome clients has agreed to let me use this transcript of this session to show you stuff in action, and how to jump to a higher level of lesson.
My deepest thanks for this!
For reasons of privacy, I’ve changed names. But the rest of it is verbatim ;)
Client message was first sent at 11.11, and we finished the session at 13.04. So it took a little under two hours after reaching out for the client to reach resolution on the issue.
To give you a bit of background, the client was married, and got divorced last year after discovering infidelity. Shortly afterwards, her 16 year old son, John, died in a car accident. The client, Ann, is living alone with her 14 year old daughter, Sue, and has recently ended a romantic relationship. That should fill in any blanks you have as you read.
Session Transcript
Session starts 11.11 AM
ANN
Hi. Facing something I’m not sure how to deal with. Sue is going on a trip with her dad to meet the children of his girlfriend. She is the one he cheated on me with during our 20 year marriage. He likes to use material things to win the kids over and so does she. I’m scared. Sue and I are so close and I feel so uncomfortable with this. How do I compete with their happiness and material lavish. I’m her mama. They’ve become this happy family. I’m scared.
CHEMORY
Give me the inner voice statements that are most present
Don't justify - just single serving statements
Also please just open your heart
Quite a big knot there
Just breathe it out with a Reiki breath release
ANN
I’m scared.
She’s MY daughter
How do I compete with that?
They can be a happy family
I show love through talking and experiences
They show through money
I’m afraid of losing her to the other woman
He has always said I was the love of his life and this situation would never happen
If John was still here, this wouldn’t be happening. He never wanted to meet her. Now Sue is doing this on her own.
They have family. On this end it’s just me.
CHEMORY
I'm lonely
And I'm scared I'll be left alone
ANN
Yes
CHEMORY
I'm scared I'll be abandoned because I'm not good enough
Say it out loud
Cycle it through
What's the next statements?
Unless you wanna cycle to God level?
How is this a God lesson?
How is God lonely?
ANN
As creator? I’m feeling so confused right now.
CHEMORY
I know
But you still have choice
So do you want to stay in personal lessons or do you want to shift and learn the God level lessons?
What you feel has nothing to do with what you learn
You're not obliged to feel this as personal pain
You can learn a higher lesson and bypass the identity level stuff
Lets the resonance flow down to the personal levels by clearing it higher up
You always have a choice about the kind of lessons you're learning
ANN
I definitely want to shift and learn the God level lessons
I want to bypass personal pain. I’m so done with that
CHEMORY
Okay so imagine this from God's point of view
ANN
Loneliness
CHEMORY
How do you think God is lonely?
What does the experience teach you about God's point of view?
ANN
We have free will on separation from god
CHEMORY
Yes free will
And what do humans choose to do with that free will?
And when they choose to leave God, how do you think that makes him feel?
ANN
Lonely
CHEMORY
And?
ANN
Scared like I am right now?
CHEMORY
Yes
And powerless
And jealous
And angry
And possessive
It makes him desire and miss them
Want them to come home
And like you, he offers security
Stability
Balance
Peace
And the world tempts with the instant gratification of money
Hard to fight against, isn't it?
All those bells and whistles?
ANN
Yes
CHEMORY
How does that help you to understand God more?
ANN
Wow
As a parent, how does God let us all go like that?
CHEMORY
Right?
It's like being detached as a healer
Or as someone that wants to change the world
You have to leave your kids to that free will
Another lesson…
Can you see how the experience and emotions only served as a catalyst and reference for you to extrapolate gods understanding?
And that the parent child relationship is God/creator and worshipper?
It's a recursion of the God relationship
So whenever you're thinking parent child it truly reflects God worshipper
ANN
Yes! I don’t like feeling this fear. It’s foreign to me
CHEMORY
It's a terrible fear
Can you see why God sent us?
Why he's fighting so hard for us to come home?
Why he sent us to save the others?
ANN
Yes, so much
CHEMORY
This, by the way, is what I call "the chosen one" lesson
Sue's your only point of focus for the energy
So it played out where it could
And this is dark night - everything gets stripped from you
The job here is to find your centre of calm in the fear
If you bow to the fear you can't think clearly
You add more fear to the morphic field
Which links you to the inherent programmed fear in the field of losing a child
And that exacerbates what you're feeling
So centre
Take a deep breath
Ground
And cut off all cords and energies from the field
Say out loud - just me
Three times
ANN
Better :)
CHEMORY
How much?
Give a measure
Scale of one to ten
Where were you previously, where are you now?
ANN
Was a ten on the fear scale. Now a 3.
CHEMORY
Ooooh nice
Well done!
How do you feel differently about the situation with Sue now?
And how much more do you understand the role that free will plays in everything?
ANN
I’m her mama and our love is strong. I understand that she has free will in her relationships outside of me. My love for her will never change
CHEMORY
Very nice
And free will as a bigger picture?
In what God does and what we're here to do?
How does free will drive uncertainty? And how does it make it hard to see what is going to play out?
ANN
It drives uncertainty in that I can’t control her feelings in relationships with anyone else outside of us. I can’t control how she (or anyone else) drives our relationship- being close, sharing experiences, luring with money etc. I guess free will strips her faith in me until she chooses it
CHEMORY
Exactly
Nice
That was my next lead
Can you see why serving God has to be a free will choice?
And why the ego traps practice is so important?
If you constantly have to choose, and you NEED ego to EXIST, then you'll always be fighting the ego battle
ANN
Yes exactly
CHEMORY
So how has this particular shift made you stronger at doing that?
What skills have you learned?
ANN
Well, hard to let go of a child and allow free will. But I know that’s necessary. It was easier with John because of his behavior. Circumstances have now made me face it with Sue.
My faith is stronger. I want to serve God without question and set ego aside
Oh and the personalization of it all. Letting it all just be
CHEMORY
So think what God went through.... sending Jesus, having him die, and then sending us out to do this again
Personalisation is easier if you look for higher level lessons
Eventually looking for those lessons becomes a habit
ANN
I look forward to that :)
CHEMORY
Can you see how it filters down to the personal lessons when you focus higher?
ANN
Absolutely
CHEMORY
How much more easily you dealt with the same content by putting it into another context?
Wanna go to cosmic lessons for shits and giggles?
ANN
Sure!
CHEMORY
Okay so cosmic lessons are about recursions of the creation story
This is a recursion of Eros leaving erotica to manage her part of creation alone, and create this one with children he had stolen of hers
That is a recursion of the first shock of separation
So when I AM thought I am that I am, it wanted to know itself
It looked around and there was nothing to mirror against
And so it decided to split
That split gave it a mirror to reflect against, but left a shock imprint of separation
That's the core of all separation pain we feel
So the act of creation is, be necessity, an act of abandonment and destruction
Separation is required for creation
Can you see that?
What thoughts does that trigger?
ANN
Yes of course
As a mother, bringing a child into the world, I created separation from me.
She is a huge part of me, my heart. But I don’t rule her
Yes she has free will
CHEMORY
And you have to honor that
Even if it causes you pain
I am could have looked at the mirror it created and that mirror may NOT have reflected love and rejoined I am in tantric Union
The mirror had a choice
And that's the core of disruption in all bonds
When the mirror reflects you, it has a choice
Free will means you have to honor that choice
You do that by stepping past personalisation and ego ;)
It's just a program
If she goes out and returns to you, it's by her free will choice
And that doesn't mean you'll have her all the time either
So, want to go a level deeper?
Can you cope with another layer?
ANN
Yes
CHEMORY
Can you see how the lack of a romantic focus in your life has over-emphasized the relationship with Sue?
Are you putting too much pressure on her to be your companion?
ANN
Yes I can see that. I always put her first
CHEMORY
Do you put her first or turn to her first?
Is it putting her first or is it making her your focus so that you don't look at other stuff as much?
ANN
Ha! Turn to her first. It’s like I don’t want to let her down or think that she’s not my number one focus. Things have changed so much after the divorce and losing John, I’m not quite sure how to center our relationship
CHEMORY
And you're also focusing too much on pulling her in when she's in a life stage of spreading her wings
How can spreading her wings help her deal with John's death?
ANN
And I know she’s unsure of how to deal with me. Should she be the child or take care of me
CHEMORY
Secular calls this empty nest
Replace your ex with the excitement of college and it's the same thing
Or moving across country for a job or marriage
ANN
She needs to spread her wings. She’s ready but holding back
CHEMORY
Well she's transitioning to an adult
She's becoming a carer herself
It's her life stage
Do you think she feels guilty for leaving you alone?
Do you think that holds her back?
ANN
Yes sometimes
She wants to take care of everyone
CHEMORY
Would it help her if you gave your verbal approval for this visit?
ANN
Yes
CHEMORY
How would it help her?
And what could you say?
ANN
I’ve been very positive about it. Excited that she gets to see San Francisco again. Asked her how she feels about meeting the girlfriend's kids. Comforting her that they are in the same position that she is.
She doesn’t know I’m feeling the way I am. Well, I’m sure she feels it, that’s who she is.
CHEMORY
So if you were honest with her and shared your fears?
How that could conversation go and how would it benefit your relationship?
ANN
I’m afraid she’d put so much pressure on herself. But it would be good to have it in the open. It would let her know that I’m always here as her mom. I want her to be happy with her dad too.
CHEMORY
Okay so how could you be honest and not put pressure on her?
Practice the words
ANN
I love you, and I know you’ll enjoy the time with your Dad. We don’t always have the same experiences that you have with your Dad and Monica, but I will always share my love with you.
CHEMORY
Okay so, I'd go deeper if it was me
I'd say something like:
It's scary for me that you're going to your dad.
I kinda feel like I can't compete and I'll lose you - which I know is silly to feel. But we've had a lot of loss we've faced and we're both still healing
I want us to clear the air and be more honest
So I'm telling you how I really feel
It's scary for me that you're going, but I love you and I want you to have fun
Enjoy the time with them
Get to know them
Because it's important you have connections and family beyond me
You deserve to have many people that love you
So have fun, and open your heart and mind, and enjoy them
I really can't wait to hear about all the fun you had - even if it does make me feel a little bit jealous
Love you kiddo
I know you'll be amazing
How would something like that make you feel?
And how could it change the entire tone of the communication with Sue?
ANN
That’s exactly what I want to say. And I think it would completely open up our communication. I know she’s a little scared to meet everyone and how that will impact our relationship as well.
CHEMORY
So do you want to give that a bash?
Maybe do a written version that you can read to her or even send to her so she has time to process?
Can you see what I did in the wording?
Owning each of the dark aspects?
How will that help her as a person over the long term?
ANN
Yes!
She will feel fear and jealousy, but it’s ok, she can work beyond it
CHEMORY
Yes :)
It gives her a model to make it okay to accept her feelings
Which is going to make processing John's death easier
ANN
Ah yes
CHEMORY
And open lines of communication between you
This is how I speak to jelly ;)
It's the transition from parent to friend now :)
13 is spiritual maturity
After that they're quasi adults :)
ANN
We’re really open, but trip up when it comes to stuff between her dad and I.
It really is. We are more friends than mother child. I want to hold onto that.
CHEMORY
Jelly and I are friends as well
I do the same with Carl
They don't want parents
They want company and be to seen
To have their feelings and thoughts respected
ANN
Yes exactly
CHEMORY
An experience like this is such great practice for her
I was blessed to be there to take jelly through all the bumpy stuff and I got to make sure she learned from it
Did it the right way
And now she has amazing habits
And proper expectations
And standards lol ;)
ANN
I hope to give that to Sue. Her dad is a bit clueless with this stuff lol
CHEMORY
And that's where you will be the support parent structure
They value that much more than money
I see it with my two
They're happy to sit at home with me and chat
Tend to avoid the dads lol
Or come here to vent about the dads
ANN
Yep same here
CHEMORY
It's also a great opportunity to show her the relative lack of value of money chasing in life
I've wanted to write an article for years.... Money and gifts are not a love language
They're what you give so that you don't actually have to invest time and effort
ANN
Yes! Just this week, I spent hours driving her to pick up friends so they could be together over a scary school shooting threat. Have lunch, exchange hugs, etc. it was about giving her that experience and my time and attention. Not things.
CHEMORY
And that becomes part of her model for how she approaches the world
Once she builds that habit with you, it becomes part of her person
Shapes how much she chases money in her life
My parents' wealth forced me to strive for money
It was only when my stepmom died and the pressure was off that I could start seeing life without money
That I could see the value in a life beyond success
They were the main parents until she died
It shapes you hugely
Jelly living with me through all the money stuff, and not having it hidden from her, has made her very anti chasing money
But I had to take her through the years of sacrifice
All we need to be happy together now is each other
That's what we built
And we've spoken a lot about money
How it shapes you
She needs to see and experience it in them to have the contrast and internal reference to understand it for herself
Each time she sees them, the reality of them, it becomes examples you can use to illustrate the differences
The broader experience will help her grow faster
And the contrast lets her see the value in what you offer
Otherwise it's all just theory :)
That's the point of everything we go through with the lessons - so it isn't just theory
You "experience" it for yourself
And experience is immersive
ANN
It is immersive. She comes home saying how much each of her new things costs. Drives me nuts, but she is definitely learning the contrast
CHEMORY
Yes and she has to go through that experience
It's the ego battle
She's seeing value in terms of price
And if she uses her free will to maintain that value system, there's nothing you can do about it
It's something you're powerless to change
She makes her choices about her belief system
They all do
It's the risk we all take with parenting
That's what free will means
ANN
Very true... she absolutely does. Funny how I easily understood free will with John, but just not with Sue.
Thank you for talking with me. It has helped so much!!
CHEMORY
Hugest of pleasures
And to close we cycled back to God giving us free will and letting us loose ;)
See that?
Nice way to close it
You have to honor free will choice
It's the first law
We are all bound by it
ANN
Yes we did! We have our babies, but they have free will just like all of us with God.
Thank you again!!! ❤️
CHEMORY
Hugest of pleasures ❤️😘
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