Hey, I'm relatively new to getting massages, I've had 4 so far & the first 3 I kept my boxers on. My last I was totally nude, and seeing as I was getting a neck/shoulders/back/back & front of legs massage, I was a little apprehensive because I wasn't sure how my therapist would react if I became aroused. Especially when I had to turn over! Do you get clients who become visibly aroused while your working on them? If so, do you take it as a compliment? Please keep this private. T
Hi there. I know you asked me to keep this private, but I think itās an important question for other people to see the answer to, so Iām replying publicly. Also, since you sent it to me from an 18+ only porn blog, Iām not 100% clear on your motivations. (Itās a nice blog, Iām not dissing it. Iām just sayinā.)Anyway! This is a very common concern for people who are new to getting massages. Donāt worry about it too much. First of all, itās relatively rare for clients to get aroused during a massage, because itās a pretty physically relaxing experience and as therapists we work hard to create a safe, comfortable, nurturing, non-sexual feeling environment. Not super conducive to getting turned on. Emotionally speaking, a professional massage is less like getting a backrub from your girlfriend and more like getting a backrub from your mom. (Or your doctor. Depending on your relationship with your mom, and your relationship with your doctor.) That being said, erections are a normal bodily function and, just like farting or snoring, they sometimes happen during a massage. As a person with a penis, Iām sure you know that erections arenāt always a response to something erotic. Sometimes they just happen at random and, even if they are related to arousal, they donāt automatically mean that the person is thinking about or wants sex. Massage therapy isnāt sexual for me, and I donāt assume that an erection in that context is sexual for my client either. So, no, I donāt ātake it as a complimentā; a clientās erection isnāt about me personally any more than their farting or snoring is. If someone Iām working on gets an erection, as long as they donāt say or do anything inappropriate or try to sexualize the situation, my tendency is to politely ignore it the same way I would politely ignore any other bodily function that happens on my table. Other therapists may have other policies, depending on their personal comfort level. But farting, snoring, coughing, sneezing, tummy rumbles, runny noses, dandruff, eye goo, menstrual spotting, crying, drooling, leaking breast milk, lost eyelashes, erections, belly-button lint, and toe jam are all just parts of having a human body, as far as Iām concerned. My job is to help my clients feel more comfortable in their bodies; for me that means not assuming that erections are sexual and not treating them like a big deal either way.
